Life is too short...

Yes. I am actually dealing with this in my family. One uncle isn't talking to another and it is dividing the family. It is annoying me to no end. One uncle is mad that the other didn't go see my aunt when she was in the hospital. The uncle that is mad didn't come see me when I spent a month in the hospital nor my son when he spent 7 weeks in there. I'm not angry. The whole thing is so silly. Now when we have family gatherings one whole 'half' of the family doesn't come because of this! They need to get over it! Life really is too short.

from the many responses, it is clearly agreeable that life is too short to be spent in animosity and holding grudges. Having a revengeful heart will only be baggages that would make your life heavy and bitter. No matter how hurtful others have done to you, it's still a good choice to forgive others as well as yourself. It's always a good feeling of having a peaceful aura/soul that you don't need sleeping pills at night.

This is a very tough question. On one had, among the people I really love, I do not hold grudges. I do think life is too short, and I'd rather enjoy those relationships than be angry or vengeful. However, when it comes to my family... I can't feel that way. I can't get past the things they have done to me. My way of moving on in this situation is to be polite but distant, speak on the phone once in a while, but not actually let them be a part of my life. Many people have told me it is the wrong approach, but life is also too short for me to waste time on abusers when there are so many wonderful friends that I have in my life now.

Anger robs you of energy, along with your chances of happiness. There are people who may be so toxic in your life that you need to stay away from them. I came to that conclusion after many years of heart ache trying to deal with a close family relative. Giving up on family members is very hard, not many others will understand, even when you try to explain it. You have to live the way that is best for you.

Hello,cyclewriter,I totally agree with you.Life is short and fickle and human beings are tiny,some people will be angry on small matters and get stuck with the past.For me,i will not get angry with things or people,you have to move on no matter you are happy or not,so there is no point to torture myself,i better enjoy what i have everyday and not compare with other people.I am happy as who i am.

Well, Id love the idea of that, but its easier said then done. I mean, if someone hurts me, im gonna be hurt, im gonna feel bad, Im gonna hold a grudge. As much as I dont want to, it happens, and other than faking a smile, theres not much I can do until the feeling goes away.