Meeting old friends and colleagues

@winterose (39918)
Canada
May 3, 2007 6:40pm CST
Are you genuinely happy to met old friends or colleagues? Do you enjoy catching up on the news from their end and telling yours? Or to you feel sometimes embarrassed that you have not accomplished as much as they have in their lives. Do you ever tell them something that is not true just so you don't feel so bad? I recently met a man that I interned with in university. He is now a successful counsellor with a private practice, and I never went into the profession. I had to find a job right away as a single parent and I just went into customer service, something that actually paid the bills. He asked me what I did and I lied I told him I had worked in a hospital which I never did, and then I told him I was home because I was too ill to work (that part was true) but I was totally embarrassed. A friend of mine said you are a professional writer, why didn't you tell him that? To be honest, I just never thought about it. How about you, how do you deal with these situations.
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@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
4 May 07
I would be thrilled to meet old friends and colleagues whom I have good relations. If they are more successful than me, I would be happy for them. I would compliment them and not compare myself nor pretend to be who I am not. I would just be myself.
• Philippines
4 May 07
this is what i can manage to do. tell the truth at all costs. i am not good at lying. i always end up getting caught whenever i try my hand at it. it is so shameful to be got caught. i always try my best to make my friends know that i am happy that they are doing good in life. it could be that they are doing better than me or it can be otherwise. it doesn't really matter. seeing them and talking to them is prize enough for me.
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@mdchennai (2129)
• India
4 May 07
I really enjoy when i feel my old friends. I like to know how they are and what they do. If i hear that they are in a good position, then i will fell good for them and bad for myself just because i am a way behind. Even if i am in a very bad state i will tell them the truth because i dont shy to show my poority!
• Philippines
4 May 07
it is best that we just simply enjoy about the experience of coming across some old friends. learn from the experience that you have had. it is never too late to change our wrong ways. next time that you meet some old friends again, just be honest with them in your conversations. remember, that there is nothing about to be ashamed of, as to how life has been going for us. this is somehting which is beyond our control already. what we have become is that how we are.
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• Singapore
4 May 07
I agree with your friend. Why didn't you just say that you are a professional writer? If that is what you are, be proud of it! You may not be as successful or rich as J. K. Rowling YET, but you are nevertheless a professional writer in your own right. For me, I just be honest with those I meet. I just tell them straight in the face that I am a good for nothing professional slacker and full-time dreamer. If you are not comfortable with saying or if they are not close enough friends anyway (those people who ask for the sake of asking but do not really care whether you live or die), just try to change the topic. If not, just tell them you have no time for them. I love it. This is what I do - I am not close to you. You don't care if I live or die anyway. Stop pretending you care by asking how I am getting along. You run along yourself and don't waste my precious time with your meaningless questions. Adios.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
5 May 07
I am embarassed when I meet up with old friends because I see that they are way better off then me and that makes me realize I haven't followed my dreams that I had in school. It's a happy/sad feeling when I see them. I don't lie to them because they can always find out that I lied and that would be worse I don't want then to feel sorry for me either though. You are a professional writer because you get paidd to write and that is considered a job. But then he would ask what types of pieces you have written then you might have to fib anyhow, I sometimes will hide or go out of my way if I see some of them on time before they see me so I won't have to do the whole catch up thing it is good to see that they are doing great and all but it just depreeses me. I have always wanted to be a arts and craft teacher but mooney was never there for me to be one and I have also wanted to write and illustrate a childrens book all of which I have not done all my failures...as you said living had to come first something that paid the bills.
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
5 May 07
I would not have to fib about what I have written, I am a freelance writer and I wrote two books, as well. I just never thought to tell him that, and to tell him I run a success newletter too.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
5 May 07
Oh I am sorry I didn't know. I apolozize. I was thinking about being a writer on mylot..sorry.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
10 May 07
But still I am ashamed I have jumped to conclusions without asking questions and stuff first. I try no to do that because it is unconsiderate of others to do that to me and I know howe I feel when it is done to me. So many sorries to you.
@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
5 May 07
i really wanted to meet my old friends but unfortunately none of them i've met until now.. it's a good feeling meeting your old friends sharing stories that happens in your life.. reminishing those days that you're still young, i dont have to tell them things that is not true.. i want to share all truth not lies..actually i am excited thinking of one day i am going to meet all my friends and have a good time together..i never experience a reunion since i graduated..
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• Philippines
4 May 07
i do like meeting old friends and catching up with them as to what happened to them all those years. it's embarassing sometimes to know that i haven't accomplished that much as compared to them - given their own expectations as to what i should have become years ago when we were young. but i don't lie - i tell them what happened to me, even if it is embarassing. i just want to reamain as honest as possible. what i always think is that i shouldn't be bound to the box they're trying to put me into. i commit mistakes - yes, a lot of them - but at least i know i'm responsible to everything what i have done and i stand behind what i did.
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@apnagopal (178)
• India
4 May 07
I love to meet my old frnds. The old life i cant forget that and the good frnds which was there and wil ne there i am sure.
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@jahvo6 (623)
• Peru
4 May 07
Yes I like to meet old friends but generally donĀ“t meet them again,
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• Philippines
4 May 07
i had never found any difficulty about telling those who know me as what has gone with my life. including all the difficulties in life that i went through. would you believe that they didn't like it that way? it appears that to most people, it is better that we do not tell them the entire truth by adding colors to our stories. it is only a thing that i am not good at doing.
@charms88 (7541)
• Philippines
4 May 07
I recently met an old friend and we chatted all through the night until morning. This old friend is an accomplished businesswoman who runs four pharmacy store of her own. I am not ashamed to tell her that I'm a stay-at-home mom and working on a few sideline of my own. I used to be envy of all my friend's success too. Like they were already a million miles ahead in their career while I'm stuck at home tending to my little ones. But my friends have nothing but praises for my unending sacrifices to put aside my career. As a matter of fact, they told me that they can't be like me. A devoted hands-on mommy. Now that makes me feel like I'm in heaven.
@mohit1123 (564)
• India
4 May 07
Its really great to know where all my friends and colleagues are. Since i have an attachment with them. Ya sometimes i do feel a bit embarresed of their accomplishments but thats how humans are, so it has to accepted to some level
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@kikisam (38)
• China
4 May 07
actually ,i also encounter such things like you .....as a man i think ,i also don't want to fall behind my friends ,better them ..so working hard and feel ashame of myself when fall behind ..that's not so good for us ..as a friend ..we should trust each other and share with each other . not necessary to concede ....i change my mind for this idear because i realize that what friendship means . actually . maybe when i encounter my exgirlfriend i will cheat that i am well to maintain my respect . very shame .. for chinese .people also like that ..
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• India
4 May 07
yes ofcourse everybody likes getting in touch with their old friends...and i feel thet internet has made this job very easy...ua can now remain in contact with different people with ur minimum effort.....
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@timou87 (1642)
• Singapore
4 May 07
Yes indeed I am, to be able to meet up with old friends, classmates, peers, and colleagues is a nice way to remember good old times, and also provides a way to rekindle social relationships that you might have once thought to have vanished.
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
4 May 07
Hello,winterrose,I am really happy to meet some old friends in my high school as i can see how they differ from before. I am happy to see them change in a positive way and i do not mind telling them the truth about myself,I may not be as sucessful as them but I am happy as who i am ,i do not like to compare people as every people will have their different way of lifes,as long as I am happy with my life,i will not care how is the life of other people.