The financial responsibilities of fatherhood

@Swtrose (3399)
Canada
May 4, 2007 1:16pm CST
Another question around the abortion movement. For those who say that the father should not have rights over the unborn because the baby is growing inside the womans body then answer this. If a woman can choose to raise the child, why can't a man decline the financial responsibilities of fatherhood? Should he pay to support a child he didn't want?
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@albert2412 (1782)
• United States
4 May 07
The answer is yes. It takes twopeople, a man an a woman, to have a child. That child has a basic human right to be born and to live. Anyone who kills a baby by abortion should be tried as a murdered and executed.
• United States
5 May 07
Sorry for the mistake. I did mean murderer instead of murdered. No one has the moral right to have an abortion
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
6 May 07
Clam, are you going to continue to post in every discussion here on mylot and force your views of not wanting kids down our throats?
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@II2aTee (2560)
• United States
8 May 07
Be carefull, the OP likes to stuff cotton balls in her ears and ignore opinions that dont match her own. And if you do a really good job of defending you opinion, she will accuse you of attacking hers. Just a couple things I've noticed.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
5 May 07
Swtrose, THis is a good topic. I am wholeheartedly against Abortion, and have a problem with it regardless of the reasoning behind it. I do have a question, Can a woman Abort a child without the father's consent? (sorry that's just something I realized I was ignorant of) Anyways, regarding your question, I think that yes, the father should have to be responsible for his actions. If he's old enough to be having s*x then he's old enough to pay for it. I think people in life just want the easy way out in life, and many think abortion is just that, although I know of quite a few woman who have been haunted over thier descisions all of thier lives.
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@II2aTee (2560)
• United States
8 May 07
To answer your question yes, a woman getting an abortion is her own business and she does not need to tell anyone, including the father if she does not want to. I'm sure you will be happy to hear that there is legislation in congress right now to try to change that, in an effort to further infringe on the rights and privacy of a woman.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
8 May 07
what about the rights of the father? I think he should have a right to have his child live if he wishes, don't you? What if the roles were reversed, and the father could make all the desicions about the unborn baby? would you think it's fair for the father to say " I don't want the baby, so you have to abort it"?
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@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
5 May 07
Here we have the choise to write father unknown and then the state would step in an pay instead. I guess if a man was totally agains having the child i could consider doing this. This was he will have no rights to the child, but also no financial responsibility. If he ever would step up and admit to beeing the father he has to repay the state the money...
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• Malaysia
5 May 07
i seriously think father too have the right to decide whether they want the baby or not.. i think not only woman can make such decision.. if the father has no right over the baby.. thne i think the father has the right to decline financial reponsibilities too.. don't you think so? how can you make your own decision and asking others to pay for it later on.... it sounds as if the mother is more irresponsible.. for example .. the mother say i want this baby.. but i want the father to finacially support this baby? what if the father is financially unstable? what's going to happen ?
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@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
5 May 07
The reason they cant is because a woman cant make herself pregnant, it takes 2 to create the baby, then there should be 2 to be responsible for the finances involved. As for the woman being able to decide if she aborts or not, well, if the guy doesn't want the baby anyway, she can abort. I guess if it's just a fling, then the guy isn't realy prepared for the consequences anyway. If she chooses to keep the baby he doesn't want then he must help to support it since he is the one who helped to create it! I know, it's kind of hard & confusing but still, the male cant decline responsibility since the baby is half his. I guess it all comes down to whether it's a 1 nighter or not - if the guy doesn't plan on sticking around then the woman can make whatever decidion she wants!
@g3n3j0rd (721)
• Philippines
5 May 07
This is definitely a yes, he should support his child even if he doesn't want the child. It's his responsibility. He can avoid having to shoulder this responsibility but this would surely make him look bad not only in the sight of men but of God. He would have to live with his conscience knowing that there is a child somewhere who is his own but had to rely on somebody else for sustenance.
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
4 May 07
Yes, I do believe that they should be financially responsible, or sign the parental rights away if both parties agree to that where he would no longer be responsible for paying the support. However, if he's old enough to unzip his pants and get a woman pregnant, then he's old enough to get 1 (or 2 or 3 if need be) jobs to support the child. Just like your other question about abortion, if the father raised the child and the mother wasn't interested, then the mother would still be responsible for child support.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
4 May 07
This is a good topic Swtrose. In a perfect world every child would be wanted by both parties, however that is not always the case. I have to say that I am pro choice, but I also believe that a father should have just as many rights as the mother if he is stable, caring and sincere. When I got pregnant with my oldest I almost had an abortion. Hr biological father was abusive and hasn't been in the picture since she was a couple months old, but that's a whole other drama. The best thing that happened to me was when he refused to sign her birth certificate. I understand where you are coming from when you say "If a woman can choose to raise the child, why can't a man decline the financial responsibilities of fatherhood?" It does seem like a double standard. In my case I didn't want any support, but not everyone is like me. I think part of the idea is that any man could get you pregnant, become a father and then decide he doesn't want any financial responsibility, it'd make it too easy to take the cowards way out.
• Canada
4 May 07
Hey i alwasy say old enough to play old enough to pay. If you are the farther then you do have the responiblity for the child if the woman want to abort it and the farther wants it then he should be responsible for the expensise for her till it is born. if he does nto want the child then he should not of taken the lady to bed and if they were using protection and she got pregnant any way then to bad so sad. But the other side of the coin is if she deliberatly got pregnant to trap the guy into paying or something liek theat then no it should eb his choice. I belive in the no glove no love policy but the momnent you start to play is the moment you maybe making a life long decision.
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• Canada
5 May 07
That is not what i am saying what i am saying that if the farther wants the kid then he should be allowed to have a chance to be a farther to it and the mother pay some support for it. If the woman wants the child and the farther does not then he does have some responsiblity and he will have to pay some support. If neither want it then go ahead do as they decide. If a woman deliberatly becoems preganat then the farther should not be forced to be one or pay for it. If the man deliberatly inpregnats a woman then it is her choice and he is responsible for the whole thing. If it is an accedental then what ever they decdie between them goes but both are equally responsible.
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
6 May 07
Why not? A father has to pay for a child he doesn't want, therefore a woman should pay.
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• Canada
6 May 07
I belive that what i was saying.
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