Married men,still easy to fall in love with other women?

@batpig (99)
China
May 5, 2007 3:03am CST
i work at a construction site,around me,almost are men and all are married men.but they are far away from home,it is very easy to hear rumours about that some of them get lovers on site or i really see some men have lovers here!!!i am still far away from marriage,so i am wondering that do they have royalty for their wives,why they can call their wives everyday and at the same time,have another woman besides. really confused me??? do you ever experience this or see anything like this???why?
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
5 May 07
I hope it isn't easy for men to fall in love with others..my husband is military and deploys for long periods of time. However I think he is trustworthy, and unless he proves me wrong, I will trust him that he doesn't have a woman on the side. Unfortunatly there are plenty of men that do lie and decieve though, and that's just wrong. I feel sorry for their spouses.
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@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
admire your trust towards your husband. actually,it is a good way to keep him stay with you,i think. because he feel there is a woman besides have complete trust for him.and i also hope he is worth your trust. wish you a happy family together!!!
@yanstill (1491)
• China
6 May 07
lovers on site?here? do you mean virtual love?that is people don't see each other,but they chat online day after day,the time they spent online is even more than their wives,i consider that is addiction for internet,and that is unreal,but this situation do cause crisis in marriage,i think one of the reasons is that the two people lack some communication,it's basic for couples... but another situation you mentioned:they call their wives every day and have another woman besides?this kind of men,i think,is unworthy to be together,they even dont know what is responsibility,they will get nothing at the end,and hurt not just one person,so if i were one of those women,leave him as soon as possible,i would feel better.
@batpig (99)
• China
7 May 07
hehe,thanks for your reply and your attitude towards such kind of relations. you still get a little misunderstanding of it. the construction site is the place where i work...not the virtual one.it is the real place.but anyhow,like you said,they dont have enough communication with their wives,so they go beyond marriage.this kind of men are not trustful.
@batpig (99)
• China
7 May 07
at least not trustful to their wives.
@yanstill (1491)
• China
7 May 07
you are right,nobody will trust a man like that,or they shouldn't be called a man,they are even not worthy to be a friend,i think.
@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
6 May 07
some men are like that, just arent trust worthly and honest to their wives, but then you get others that can go away for days/weeks/months at a time and only ever have feelings for their partner/wife. i have actually had that happen to me, my partner at the time went to sydney for a week and we spoke on the phone everyday and i asked him where abouts he was and he was at home but i heard someone in the background and he made out it was the tv. well few weeks later had a girl on our doorstep telling him and me that he will be a father. so from there on me and him ended as i couldnt trust him.
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
feel sorry to you! appreciated to share your experience with me!!! but anyway,you knew the truth now,so you can end up the relation with him and look forward to your own life...wish you happy!!!
• Australia
6 May 07
i have moved on and found a new love he is adorable and i trust him, he has been away a fair few times because of work commitments and he is completely honest about it and i know where he is at all times and who he is with. thanks. have nice day
@batpig (99)
• China
7 May 07
happy to hear that!enjoy!!
@baolihua (114)
• China
26 May 07
what?i hate that kind of men.and you see,they will end up no good,i am sure.we need mutual esteem,and mutual respect,what they have done shows that they don't take them into consideration,and do they know what is love? i don't think one person can love two women at the same time,that is not love.
@batpig (99)
• China
1 Jun 07
yea, i agree with you.what most of them have are not love.just the loneliness make them to go close to the girls besides.
• Canada
6 May 07
Rare do you find a women that is giving her body away unconditionally. Usually deep in her heart there is a thought or a desire that maybe he will leave his wife for her one day! For a higher percent hurt and devastation comes! Temptation is just that temptation there is no true gratifcations and fullfillment that comes from that is life giving and satisfing!
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
that is a pity for a woman to have such thought inside her mind...that hurts!!!always disappointment...always sad results...always tears... the time when you are ready for such relations with a man,i think should have preparation of heartbroken one day!
• Malaysia
6 May 07
don't just say married man.. i think even guys with partner will fall in love easily too.. don't you think so? usually they can stay with their partner because they're still new in the relationship.. and they haven't encouter any problems yet.. but sometimes.. when the problems start to arise.. the couple tend to have dificulties in solving it...i think married men just want to find something new.. they're bored with their wives.. that's why they easily fall in love with other women. .which is very wrong.. and i think somehow they will regret later on..
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
hopefully they will get regret later... yea, maybe feel interested in sth fresh is human nature.that is nothing wrong with that,as long as it doesnt hurt others.
• Malaysia
6 May 07
I agree that most married men are unfaithful. I don't know how it happened but maybe because they too far from their wives. So they get comfort to other women.
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
yea, should be...they want to have someone company with them and find comfort. just feel sorry for the wives!!!
@miaka13 (65)
• Philippines
6 May 07
Maybe they felt needed something from their wives but they could not get it.
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
so what is the marriage for???if they have decided to spend their life with a woman(wife),why they still unsatisfied??? hehe...just cannot understand sometimes!!!
@letzap519 (408)
• Philippines
6 May 07
that's frustrating and very unfair for women coz their husbands are unfaithful... reasons maybe they don't really love their wives or they are maniacs! bustards! hehehe... hope my future husband will not be like that if he will go abroad...
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
ya,hope you can find a trustworth husband!!!i still believe there are such men existing on this earth,but just see if you are lucky enough,hehe...cheers for our future life companion!!!!
@anku888 (136)
• India
6 May 07
Yes,Ithink you are right,most of the men who are away from their family need a woman to love ,care for them and this leads to love affairs. I think that most of the men are tired of their marriage and wife and so this happens all over the world. I have seen men flirt around young girls to attract them. I hope that men tend to get boredom very soon with the monotony and it's there in their gene or part of them.
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
so no any way to stop men do like this???it is a shame!!!
@dixits (104)
• India
5 May 07
when men get married they be loyal ti their wives for sometime afterwards when they get attracted to someone they forget that they have wives and whe girl gives signal they get easily carried away
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
yea, it is a shame that they cannot warrant longtime loyalty to their wives. but what you said it is true---two aspects---if the girls dont give the signal,maybe it is not so easy!
@mari123 (1862)
• China
5 May 07
when the job so tired and when someone feel so alone,they intend to find a friend to talk about what things happen around him,no matter what he got married.it is normal,but when he still fall in love with other women,it will pain his wife .
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
yea,nearly forget such word "loneliness"exists!
• United Arab Emirates
5 May 07
I am only 24 years old, have had 37 boyfriends and a 5-time mistress but never a homewrecker. I never entered a relationship with a man who is happily married. As I encounter different kind of guys in my life, I have learned lots of things. Among the 5 married man, I have found the greatest love of my life. It was just a simple text from a 17-year old girl but means a lot to a 26-year old married man. A plain goodnight and take care. He told me that he was so happy because he never heard that from his wife. I get along so well with his son and the child even called me mom. Though things were ok between us, we have to part ways after a year. I told him that I will give him space so that he can fix everything between him and his wife. Every now and then he would run to me, seeking comfort. I become his shock absorber, give him advise, calm him down, ask him to come back home to his wife. I was just a friend then. We were just like that for another couple of years. Everytime I would have a boyfriend, he would come to me and beg for me to leave the guy. I will do whatever he wants because I still love him. I will give him the very best of me. Be the best partner, the best mom to his son, the best companion he could ever have. I fulfill the shortcomings of his wife. Until one day I realized I must set myself free. It was too painful to leave somebody whom I am used to be with. As we partways, I told asked him to make up with his wife. I guess, he really loves me because he just made his promise come true. Now, he and his wife just had their second son. In my case, it was having the right love at the wrong time. For others, it could be just for fun.
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
i am moved about your story about your wrong time love.hehe...really,i appreciated that you share your experience with me. so i am confused about the relationship---why they get married and have affection with others.maybe get the comfort??? really complicated life... cannot say anything else...wish you happy life!!!
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
5 May 07
I agree... my ex husband fell inlove with his co worker so easy... leaving our family behind... The differences of married man from other man is that they are married... I dont know why this happen... but for sure they dont thionk much for their family's welfare.
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
feel sorry to know that...but please look forwards for your life...
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
5 May 07
My male colleagues are all married, but I never heard rumors about all of them. They just don't like to go home at once after work. They think they have more and more limits at home. When I have a chatting with a man online, they are easy to say such words' I love you' and 'I miss you', and they often hope to have a dating with a girl. I think it also happened to a woman. My friend often chat with a man online. Although she never say 'I love you' directly, but she often gives the man some hints like that. Don't think people in the world are more and more lonely? Please correct my mistakes in the last paragraphs, thank you.
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
yea,that is the reason why i begin to think about "what is wrong with the people nowadays???can not bear any single loneliness.and the relation,oh...beyond my head!!!
@sabwinner (499)
• China
5 May 07
I don't have experience of this, batpig. But it happened around me time to time. Yes, those men don't have royalty for their wives, but I don't think they really fall in love with other girls(at least some of them), they just don't way to feel lonely. They can't be alone, they far away from home, they need someone to care them, give them some warm and close feeling.
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
yea, to some extent,you are right!!!but it is unfair again.not only hurts the wife,and also when they leave, hurt another one!!!
@sweetsue (759)
• Philippines
5 May 07
relationships - unfaithful
You know batpig, it is very prevalent nowadays. Men and women, plenty are becoming more and more unfaithful. SOmetimes, I took this thing as just a normal stuff in the society. It is not confusing at all to find unfaithful husbands in your place or in that construction site though they've been calling their wives on a regular basis. It is man's innate to be like that. And as long as there are women who like to indulge in that kind of activity we can't prevent those things to happen. The only thing that you can do is watch and never learn their ways. \ Tc
@batpig (99)
• China
6 May 07
thanks for your advice, sweetsue!!!yea,it is the way to protect myself.to watch at them is easy,but just will think more about their family. hehe...maybe i think too much!!!