Do you definately need friends if you want to survive in this world?
May 5, 2007 6:50pm CST
Right, we are not talking about earnigs first of all. It is just about achieving good numbers of responses. I have just been looking at todays hot topics and saw that one of my buddies had two in this list which I think is pretty goof going to be honest so I decided to take a little look at how many friends she had to see if that reflected in it. She had 34 pages or something of with 30 buddies to a page. I astounded. I do have a lot but just cos I always panic that if I reject someone they may be wanting to send me a message and will be unable. So, how active do you reckon you can really be to keep over 1000 buddies entertained. She was in the hot topics and she did have about 50 responses so far for both of them. I think having that amount is absolutely plain crazy. I do have a lot on the list but there is probably only 10 people who would say that I respond to their discussions enough for them to remember. I reckon I should go out and get myself some more buddies on here.
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6 May 07
Hi, I like to keep my friends list quite low, I've got four and a half pages of friends in my list now and that's too many, some don't bother responding to my discussions, where some are invaluable and some discussions I've made have only been responded to by my friends. Because I like to be fair I would rather have quality rather than quantity. The friends I have do good discussions so I always have some discussions to respond to. I can only post on each about once a week and I do think those with lots of buddies cannot possibly be good friends to all of them.
5 May 07
If you want to be my buddy-you are wellcomed to send a request:-) But i have told it some times and will say it now too: the friendship is not obligation. It`s free.If somebody send a request-this is means that he likes my opinion and discussions. So...he is wellcomed:-) But he is not OBLIGATED to reply to ALL of them just because i need many answers.None do i.
5 May 07
I hate it when I have accepted someone as a friend who I don't know so well and they send me a message trying to strike up a deal of I reply to you and you'll reply to me. I always just email these people back saying that I jut reply to discussions that I think I may be of help or of interest but other than that I don't force a reply to a discussion.
6 May 07
Well my own view of friends Claire, is that it is better to have quality, than quantity. If someone asks to become my friend, I will always check their interests, and quality of their discussions first, but usually accept them, unless something really offends me. However I freely admit that if they show no interest in my discussions after a fair amount of time, and I don't find anything to respond to in theirs, I tend to delete them! That probably sounds harsh, but I would rather have fewer friends who make interesting, good quality discussions, and have similar interests to me, than a string of people who start one line discussiions like "wot is your favrit colour?", and never bother to read stuff I have posted. It is so hard to "lose" good topics if you receive loads and loads of email notifications of frends' discussions, and I would rather concentrate on a few, rather than many. And - no - of course that doesn't mean that I "expect" my friends to respond to every single topic I ever start - that would be impossible - but showing an interest once in a while would be nice!
6 May 07
I think statistically you have a better chance of getting to Hot Topics if you have a lot of people on your buddy list. I don't like the idea of not knowing who they 'are' though. I have a few pages on my list and I recognize and 'know' about half of them (you would be one of those that stick out). They are the ones that respond to my discussions and I do the same with them. No way could I or would I want to try to keep up with all those people. It seems more of a benefit to the person that has all those people on their list, and it isn't really whyI like Mylot. I think every repsonse wuold be pretty quick and vague and there would be no real discussion.
6 May 07
As far as i think it is almost immpossible to keep track of discussions from firends. Say if u have 20 friends, each one posts 3 discussions per day then discussions per day you need to keep track rises to: 20 x 3 = 60 ! I think this number is pretty huge! I check out discussions of my friends first, answer which i like, and then turn on to todays hot topics and other spurces of finding good discussions.
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6 May 07
I do believe that friends here are important - good friends just as in the real world are the best and most important though. It's true, the more friends you have the more chances of getting lots of responses to your discussions but the fact is if you have 1000 friends that do nothing then they are useless here. One of the first things I look at before approving a friend is discussions they've posted and second discussions they've responded to. I do NOT approve or accept friends that have not responded to any discussions for 2 reasons #1 chances are they won't respond to my discussions either, #2 how can I get an idea of who they are - what they're about if I can't see how they respond to discussion.
6 May 07
erm.. okay.. let's not talk about earnings.. i think even i have big responses in my discussion.. i still don't get much earnings.. i do see now that the earnings depend more ourself.. and do we really need friend to survive? yes.. of course we need friends.. without friends.. how are we going to prove that we even existed? i think only others can prove our existence. .that's what i believe.. and.. when you're down.. who's going to be there for you? of course.. you need to have a little friends.. so they can stay with you when you're having troubles.... i have a few good friends.. and i think i will stick with them forever :)
6 May 07
I don;t have more friends in my life,but friends are important in life for you as they are the ones to whom you can share everthing.I don't have more friend online too. Some people hav the energy and sometimes they need more friend to share their emotions,which I really don't understand,how they are having more buddies.I'm an introvert so that may be the reason.
6 May 07
yeah.. i mean ... have you seen that tom hanks movie... in which he is left alone on a island... what does he do.... realises the importance of friends and makes a ball, his friend.... i think i might have done the same thing if i had been in his place... i need to have friends to survive in this world... especially now... when you can hardly trust people...