Are you a PARANOID?

@joice86 (1078)
Philippines
May 7, 2007 2:00am CST
Are you someone who distrust others and think that people around you have sinister motives. Do you have excessive trust with your own knowledge and abilities and usually distant your self from having close relationships with other people. Is being paranoid killing you? For me, at times, i am paranoid. I always think that other people are against me and they don't like me. I always think negative things though they really does not exist. I am just paranoid that everyone does not like me and so on. Things like that make me crazy so most of the time, i just stay home. You, how do you deal with paranoia?
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 May 07
I don't deal with paranoia, if I feel that I am paranoid about something I just stop it and start looking at the situation a little more logically. There could be many reasons why the other people are acting the way they are not most of them have nothing to do with me at all.
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
hello, its good that you don't deal with paranoia. its something that it is hard to control when you have started to think a lot of things already. And it's nice that you can control it or know how to stop it when it is getting into your mind.
• India
7 May 07
Yes, I am in a way paranoid too but in a different way. I get attracted to people for wrong reasons. Although I get attracted to them, still I shy away being close to them. I also people trust too fast or distrust them when they are too nice to me. I suspect their motive. I thought I was the only one to feel that way. I am always cautious with new people and take long time to make friends.
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Thanks for the response.At times, trusting someone is easy to do but when you get hurt, its already hard to trust them again and little by little, you get to notice that you are having a hard time making friends.
@friendship (2084)
• Canada
8 May 07
joice86, Why are you paranoid? Have you ever had bad experience? I think people are getting paranoid because they ever had bad experience. I believe that all of us were born without prejudice. Take a look at children between 1-7 years old, most of them are trustful to others (they don't have any prejudice at all). When children are getting older, their perceptions are more diverse because each of them has different experience in their development. Some of them are getting paranoid to darkness because they might have horrible experience of darkness. So, they are having discomfort feeling when they are placed into a dark room. Although they will be able to handle this later on, it can still have a scar on the back of their minds. Yes, paranoid can make us "crazy". Some people are becoming more sensitive when others have triggered such situation that make them discomfort although other people don't mean it. If I were you, I won't bother about other people's thinking. Although you will find out that others don't like you, you just need to keep thinking that there are many people in this world. Sooner or later, you will find people who are compatible with you. It will be their loss if they don't like you because you have so much to offer. Those people who don't like or treat you badly may just be arrogant and selfish people. I hope you are not paranoid anymore :-)
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
I really don't know why. Maybe because, during my childhood days, i always feel that i am always wrong. That every time i made a mistake and try to explain myself, my aunt will tell me, just keep quiet. I was never given the chance to explain my side. So i grew up keeping things to myself. If i cannot contain it already, that's the only time i am sharing it with my another aunt how i feels. That is also the reason why i don't have the confidence to speak out what i really thinks because i am afraid that what i say is wrong. I am afraid to commit mistakes. But now, i am trying to overcome them all and think that a lot of people loves me. And that i can never please everyone. At times also, if someone does not like to talk to me, i feel that he does not like me even if not.
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
8 May 07
I admit that I'm paranoid to a certain extent. Mostly for my safety when I'm out of the house. I'm very observant with the people I am with in public transports, the mall, or while walking on the streets. I try to be vigilant and aware of my surroundings. In the house, I always check if the doors are closed at night. That's the part where I am most paranoid- safety. But in terms of people not liking me or having ill thoughts about me, I don't care about them much. I try as much as I can to have positive thoughts all the time, and it does help me live my life better. Negative thoughts are unhealthy and might cause you to get sick so do away with them as much as possible.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Thanks for your thoughts. I hope i am also paranoid in that way. But it's the opposite for me. I am just lax when i am in the streets that's why i have been fooled many times in the street. There is this one time before, i was hypnotized because i trusted the girl who approached me easily and she took all the money i have. It's good that it was not a big amount of money.
@MarkyB21 (1545)
7 May 07
Yes, I do tend to think people are thinking bad things about me a lot.
@MarkyB21 (1545)
10 May 07
Sometimes when I see or hear complete strangers laughing I think they are laughing at me and I start to worry that I've got something on my face or my flies are undone or something similar. I know they're not laughing at me but at the time I think they are.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Yes, we are just the same. And it is hard to deal with it at times because you don't get to enjoy their company if you are with them because of that one.
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@g3n3j0rd (721)
• Philippines
7 May 07
No, I'm not paranoid. People usually mind their own business and I don't think they would have time to think evil of me. I hope you'll overcome your paranoia. You're going to miss a lot of things because of this. Imagine, you avoid going out because of things you have in your mind which are not real at all. Learn to be more trusting and avoid worrying. Smile, Jesus loves you!
@g3n3j0rd (721)
• Philippines
8 May 07
I'm glad to be of help! You're going to Australia right? Just enjoy life! You have a full life ahead of you! :)
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Wow, thanks for that. Now, i am enlightened. Yes, those things exist only in my mind. I am only the one who creates and thinks of them even if they are not really existing. And people do really have other things to worry about and that is not me.
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• India
8 May 07
am hyper cautious, if I go in a building,I need to know how to get out another way, when in an elevator, I make sure I am by the control panel, so I can hit the panic button, I always carry a hard bound book, it's an excellent tool for smashing in some ones nose. Am I paranoid, or am I aware that crime is no longer a personal agenda, but has become to random, to ever consider yourself safe, or in a safe zone? Let's not forget that just because your paranoid doesn't mean someone is not out to get you.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Yes, thanks for that one. You are just trying to protect yourself, and it is not being paranoid...
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
7 May 07
I dont know who started this rumour about me, i am not paranoid but im getting sick and tired of people saying i am, i know they are all secretly plotting against me blessed be
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Oh, that's something bad, when other people is trying to tell something about you. But that's alright, as long as you know yourself, then don't be affected.
@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
7 May 07
I think i am. This is not the only reason to be distant of close contacts, but it`s important one. But this is a result of low self-esteem, some traumas and disapointemts from the past. I still have no solvation, this kind of problems need really many time.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
We're almost the same. Yes, when you are paranoid, you get to think that other people does not like you and it is hard to deal with it. And also, when you have low self-esteem, then it is really a problem.
• United States
7 May 07
I use to feel that way I guess I just out grew it. I have learned to trust my instints. I find if I meet someone who I like right away they are usually good people. Then there are those people that I have met that give me the creeps or there is something about them I do not trust those are the people that I have learned to shy away from. I guess as you get older you will earn how to trust yourself and your friends. Good luck
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Thanks for that one. I hope so, that as i get to be matured enough, then i will outgrew it also...
@betchai (140)
• Philippines
8 May 07
I am paranoid whenever I am alone on the streets. I always think that I might be held up over and over again.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
hmmm, thanks for responding. Well, don't worry as long as you are careful then no one will gonna held you up.
• Philippines
11 May 07
im a paranoid sometimes, it depend to the situation, i also a person that are paranoid and i just let her be like that.
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
7 May 07
No, I wouldn't call myself paranoid. I admit that I only trust a few people in my life but I blame that on society and with how others have treated me in the past. There are times in life that you have to be cautious but I wouldn't label that as paranoia. I am not worried that there is someone out there trying to get me.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Thanks for that one. Well, you really don't have to trust everyone because in the end you might get hurt. Thanks for reminding me that one.
• Singapore
8 May 07
Yes there are times that I feel paranoid and lack of confidence. But I guess it's just myself that make myself paranoid.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Yeah, i am also like you at times. Lacking of selfconfidence makes me paranoid.
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
7 May 07
No, I am not a paranoid. I easily trust people unless they did something wrong and then I don't trust them anymore. You might be under stress and it maybe causing your paranoia. Why don't you try consulting a doctor? It will help you on your paranoia.
@brothertuck (1257)
• United States
11 May 07
I am not paranoid and stop saying that. They really are out to get me. The voices tell me so. Now seriously, I'm not paranoid, but there are times I do feel that creapy feeling that they are out to get me. It's not much, but there have been times at work that it seems there is jealousy and people do so many things behind others back. In work politics always make me feel that way.