Update on should I give up or try again.....

@sunshine4 (8709)
United States
May 7, 2007 9:15am CST
Some of you asked to know what happened regarding this discussion. I did ask my son and his girlfriend over for dinner. My son said he would ask his girlfriend and let me know. He called me back and said that they would come. I was planning on just putting everything that was said behind us as she might be in his life for a long time. They were suppose to come for dinner yesterday ( sunday). My son stopped by earlier in the day and he asked what time we were eating. I said when every melody gets out of work. He said they would be here around 6:30. Later in the day my son called back and said that Melody wasn't coming because she was in a bad mood and she just quit her job. My son ended up coming over for dinner and we had a great time. My husband and I had time to talk to him regarding his relationship with Melody. We told him that he can always come to us with anything. We also told him that we were concerned that she quit her job as they just moved in together and will need the money for her part of the rent ect. He said that she will get another job. I am trying not to judge~ but~ I hope that she doesn't get too comfortable not working and living off of my son! I am not saying anything like that to him. Anyways, we had a great time last night. The next big question is~ will he stop by for mothers day? Have a good day everyone.
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@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
7 May 07
I'm glad your Son came to dinner. Hopefully things will begin to work themselves out. Hopefully his girlfriend will find a new job fast. I think it is a great idea to just forget the past and move on with a postive outlook. Good luck on Mothers day.
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@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
7 May 07
Thank you for your post. I hope that all of us can move on. Many things were said at moments of anger~ I have let them go and hope that she can also move on.
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@jolope (988)
• Philippines
7 May 07
dont get me wrong here..but you sound like a jealous mom..are you?? i mean, maybe your son is old enough to be with this melody girl..and they might really figure things out..if they got together on their own then let them do it independently..they need to learn so they can be a good parent like you.. im sure he'll come for mother's day..how could he forget..you sound like you've always been there to support your son in any way possible and i think that visiting you even if its not mother's day is his simplest way of saying 'thank you for your love'..
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@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
7 May 07
I would say more a concerned mom. I want my son to be happy and be with someone who respects him and his family.
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@mom_of_2 (399)
• Canada
7 May 07
Hi Sunshine, I see last night as a step in the right direction for your son. He came for supper without her. To me that shows that his parents are still number one. I will be thinking of you on mothers day...I hope you get to spend the day with your son. Its very obvious that he means the world to you and I hope he realizes that too.
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
7 May 07
Thanks for your reply:) I am hoping that this was a good start.
@KrauseHome (35025)
• United States
7 May 07
Well, the good thing is that even with this situation, your son did choose to come over for dinner like promised, and there is nothing you can really do about the choice your Son has made, unless he chooses to change it himself. You need to look at this as a learning experience that he must face, and wish for the Best. All you can really do, is be there and offer him advice of what would be Best, but he needs to be the one to make the decisions in his life, and go from there.
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
7 May 07
You are so right. We felt it a good sign that my son came for dinner even with out melody. From talking to him he seems to be making some smarter decisions too.
@abroji (3247)
• India
7 May 07
I am very glad that your son did come for the dinner. But the attitude of his gitl friend towards life should change. She should try for a better job and set things safe for their life. All the best to your family.
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
7 May 07
Thanks for replying. I also would love to see her get a better attitude toward life in general. I hope that she can get a good job and they will be happy together.
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