My daughter is in a bad marrage, and need to move to Mich.

United States
July 26, 2006 5:56am CST
My daughter is in a marrage to someone who is jobless, dos'nt seem to care and will not help with the kids ages 6 months, and 2 yrs. She is being emotionaly abused, and feel she needs to leave for the kid sake and hers. We need to know what the ramifications are if she just picks up the kids and leaves the state of louisiana, and return to her home state of Michigan. We are looking to find out if she can just leave or if that will cause a problem. Her husband will probably not care, the only caring might come from his father. This man is very good and very kind to my daughter and her kids, and the 2 year old adores him. This is a hard thing to deal with, but she has consulted with a counseler, and there recomendation is get out of this relationship. any input that you may have will be greatfully accepted. thank yo.
5 responses
@QnAQueen (555)
• United States
26 Jul 06
is your daughter's father in law aware of the situation? what does he have to say about the whole thing? what does your daughter feel about the whole thing?
@brentjh (679)
• Namibia
26 Jul 06
Well - if it were my daughter and grand children, I would get them out. I also recon that if the husbands father is so good, then maybe you should ask for his help in getting them out.
@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
26 Jul 06
If she leaves, she must tell him where she is going otherwise she will have kidnapped the kids. If she can prove abuse, in most states she can have a quick divorce done - usually takes one month or less depending on how backed up the court system is and how good of lawyer you can afford. Also, when she leaves she must file for divorce ASAP because is she does not and the husband does first she will be forced to travel to Louisiana for all court cases. Make sure she documents ALL abuse so that it will be easier to file. If she gets out, will she be able to support her kids in Michigan? I know she is in a bad place now, but would she be better off leaving him and keeping her job in La. rather than picking up everything and trying to start over?
@rherdey (966)
• United States
26 Jul 06
Hi, Wow this is happening all the time. Sorry you and your family has to go though this. One thing is your daughter has the right to leave anytime she feel a threat. If his father really cares that much for her and the children he will understand and might even help in the situation. I am a grandmother and I know how it is to have grandchildren leave. But then you do to. Some times a daughter just needs mom around to help put things back to where they can see and help themselves. If she is willing to leave I would say to help her in anyway that you are able to get her back home and in a safe enviroment. As far as the law in Louisiana I am not sure if there is something with the children, but because they are still married and living with him I dont believe there is anything that anyone can do. Might say come for an long visit that way there is is no repercussion on the daughter or your family. And if the counseler told her to get out of the realtionship that is good enough as they will document that and so you will have that for the records if you need. I would not worry about anything except to get the daughter out as soon as possible and of course the children the most. They do not need to live like this and I myself would be down there right now to get at least the children and then she can finish up if she has things to settle and come home. Take care and hope she gets home soon. Please keep posted how things are going.
• Malaysia
26 Jul 06
My advice, if she have no other choice to leave him, ask her to consult with his father first. I hope there is no mantion about divorce. I hate to hear those words. What i hope it is a temporary separated. Her husband has a problem with his ego thing. He is jobless and the only thing that he has is he is the man of the house and he have to change. If your daughter still love him, i surgest that she wrote him a letter telling him that she still love him very much and she's still his wife. Tell him if he really love her and their children he has to find work so he can gave food to them. Tell him if he's still care and love his family he has to change, change for the good of his family and they will come back after he became a responsable husband. With one good letter will makes a big impact on him. Maybe with these letter will make an impact on him and realise of his mistake and hopefully he is not angry and hate her for leaving him. My hope that he will be a better husband and your daughter becomes a strong loving mother. If these works, i believe they will be a happy family till the day they die. Bye