My daughter is in a bad marrage, and need to move to Mich.

is your daughter's father in law aware of the situation? what does he have to say about the whole thing? what does your daughter feel about the whole thing?

Well - if it were my daughter and grand children, I would get them out. I also recon that if the husbands father is so good, then maybe you should ask for his help in getting them out.

If she leaves, she must tell him where she is going otherwise she will have kidnapped the kids. If she can prove abuse, in most states she can have a quick divorce done - usually takes one month or less depending on how backed up the court system is and how good of lawyer you can afford. Also, when she leaves she must file for divorce ASAP because is she does not and the husband does first she will be forced to travel to Louisiana for all court cases. Make sure she documents ALL abuse so that it will be easier to file. If she gets out, will she be able to support her kids in Michigan? I know she is in a bad place now, but would she be better off leaving him and keeping her job in La. rather than picking up everything and trying to start over?

Hi, Wow this is happening all the time. Sorry you and your family has to go though this. One thing is your daughter has the right to leave anytime she feel a threat. If his father really cares that much for her and the children he will understand and might even help in the situation. I am a grandmother and I know how it is to have grandchildren leave. But then you do to. Some times a daughter just needs mom around to help put things back to where they can see and help themselves. If she is willing to leave I would say to help her in anyway that you are able to get her back home and in a safe enviroment. As far as the law in Louisiana I am not sure if there is something with the children, but because they are still married and living with him I dont believe there is anything that anyone can do. Might say come for an long visit that way there is is no repercussion on the daughter or your family. And if the counseler told her to get out of the realtionship that is good enough as they will document that and so you will have that for the records if you need. I would not worry about anything except to get the daughter out as soon as possible and of course the children the most. They do not need to live like this and I myself would be down there right now to get at least the children and then she can finish up if she has things to settle and come home. Take care and hope she gets home soon. Please keep posted how things are going.

My advice, if she have no other choice to leave him, ask her to consult with his father first. I hope there is no mantion about divorce. I hate to hear those words. What i hope it is a temporary separated. Her husband has a problem with his ego thing. He is jobless and the only thing that he has is he is the man of the house and he have to change. If your daughter still love him, i surgest that she wrote him a letter telling him that she still love him very much and she's still his wife. Tell him if he really love her and their children he has to find work so he can gave food to them. Tell him if he's still care and love his family he has to change, change for the good of his family and they will come back after he became a responsable husband. With one good letter will makes a big impact on him. Maybe with these letter will make an impact on him and realise of his mistake and hopefully he is not angry and hate her for leaving him. My hope that he will be a better husband and your daughter becomes a strong loving mother. If these works, i believe they will be a happy family till the day they die. Bye