Do you accept all friend requests?

@arcadian (932)
United States
May 7, 2007 5:03pm CST
At first when I got a pending friend request I would recognize the name from responses to discussions and say yes, usually adda note indicating why in particular I was happy to have them on my list, etc. But in the past several weeks I've received these from people whose names are completely unfamiliar to me. So, I would hit the browser on their name to see what they'd posted and or responded to and so on, and if I liked what I read there I would happily include them as my friends. That way I could be sure of reading their future posts. Reading what my friends are writing is my first acdt on coming to mylot each time. Now I get them from people who apparantly never responded to anything I wither pow=sted or also responded to, it is as though we've never aread a word by each other- so how and why would they request to be added to my friends list? Perhaps someone more familiar with all this could explain to me this newest mylot mystery?
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25 responses
7 May 07
I always check the profile of everyone who asks to be a friend, and I check their discussions to see what they post, together with any of their responses to other discussions. I have found a few who have never responded to my discussions, nor added comments to mine, and I am reluctant to accept these
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@healwell (1271)
• Ahmedabad, India
8 May 07
Well, here I am responding to your discussion and this is first time this way I am communicating with you indirectly, right? What will you say this? When a person invites to become a friend or asks to accept as a friend, and totally unknown, but want to become friend; means the person's want is there after reading your discussion or postings he or she may have this kind of feeling or thought that let me become friend with this person so such asking and inviting process occurred! But you have your choice and you can use that! You can deny if you feel so! I think that person also accept the answer with same genuine stand! After becoming friends also, you feel that the purpose of such a friendship is not served then also you can deny/ delete such a person! Ok now let me put some thing about that, which you have narrated as 'this newest mylot.com mystery' and its occurrence! This is a place where you have so much scope to discuss the things in which you are interested and when you entered first time you just respond to your interests and this process lead the person to develop a huge friendship circle! And who is not aware about that are always invite and ask become friends with so many persons and then can't respond to each one individually! That' why lots of friends concept become a mystery on mylot.com as per your saying, ok? But you can deal with that and remove mystery and make things clear for you so you can post and discuss very well! All the best!
@arcadian (932)
• United States
15 May 07
Good to hear from you Healwell, and anice summary of the possibilities. Thanks.
@anouk2005 (178)
• Netherlands
8 May 07
yes I do almost always exsept them I dont no why but i do is it so bad ?
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@arcadian (932)
• United States
15 May 07
Not at all. I usually go to read discussions my friends started first- so I want that list to be one I'll be interested in-besides my email posts everytime a friend starts a discussion, and that's alot of notices on my email. so I like it to be ones that I know I want to see. But that's just my thing. there's no right or wrong.
@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
8 May 07
When I was just a newbie, I had make my rounds of requesting to be added to anyone's list of friends. Sadly, no one accepted me. I realized that I needed to make myself known here at mylot. I slowly built my reputation and began to receive a lot of friend's request. It was not easy. For anyone who wish to be added as my friends, I will check their profiles, look through their interests. But I normally accept everyone. I know how it feels to be denied. I even have several newbies who PM me saying they are grateful that I accepted them.
@arcadian (932)
• United States
15 May 07
what a sweet bunny. Yeah, there's a reason Mylot gives us that pause to reflect.
• Canada
8 May 07
I see nothing wrong with checking out the profiles of anyone who sends me a friends request. I've tried to keep my list down to a manageable size, and it's been difficult lol. Whenever I get a friends request, I usually go to their profile and check out what kind of discussions they've started, what kind of responses they've given and see if anything strikes a chord with me. If they have very few discussions or responses, and they have a huge friends list, I deny them right away. For me that a huge red flag. Everyone who has hardly any discussions/responses, with a huge friends list in the past have spammed me with affiliate links, and so I've ended up deleting them right away. There is nothing wrong with being selective about who you accept or deny. It's the only way sometimes to handle the list of friends.
@arcadian (932)
• United States
15 May 07
Good work! Nicely put- too. thank you.
@PsychoDude (2018)
• Netherlands
7 May 07
Myself I just accept them all, I don't really mind it whether they reply to my discussions or not. I don't really do the same in return either so, if I come across their discussions and they are interesting I will reply but it's not like I'll be going by every single friend's discussion to reply to it.
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@eseomame (1146)
• United States
8 May 07
That's exactly what I do. It doesn't matter whether they reply to my discussions or not, whenever I get a friend request, I approve straight away.
@xParanoiax (7005)
• United States
8 May 07
I'm much the same..I'm more inclined to add someone who's familiar..who I've corresponded with on here before and kinda know of than a complete stranger. More frequently for me though, random people will pop up and request to be my friend. Most people are just adding friends. Most didn't really look at the profile, most don't care who the people they're adding are..either it's in vain hope that we'll reply to their own discussions..or for the numbers, like a popularity contest. Some truly like what they see. *shrugs- It's just people on the internet, you know..same old, same old lol.
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@limcyjain (3523)
• India
8 May 07
No i dont accept all friend requests. When i receive a request for friendship i look in to profile of the individual to see if it matches my interests. I look in what type of discussions have been started and what responses have been given to the discussions started by others. After all this i take decision wheter to accept or reject. I also look at the number of responses made and try to analise whether they are in to stay at mylot.
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• United States
8 May 07
yup I add people when they request. Now if they turn out to be a spammer or something I'll remove them from my friends list. I do like the friends who start more discussions though because it gives me more things to answer.
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• Nigeria
8 May 07
No i don't accept, all friends request, because most request re not of important, most re just there to weigh u down and most re waste of time. thanks
• Indonesia
8 May 07
I am not a selective people , i can made a friendships with anyone , like there in mylot , i just accept all request friend .I am not read about who is he , or who is she , probably i don't know about what they used or not , i hope sometimes when i need some information , i can ask and they will give a answer to me. And I really happy when they respons my discussion or send me back some massage
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• India
8 May 07
Yes, i accept everyone request at MyLot. Because i am particularly looking for good friends and i cant get to know them unless, untill i add them and maybe talk to them for a while. And also assess their journey at mylot. Initially i just aaccept everyones request and then if that person troubles me or is felt as unsuitable byme. Then i just humbly delete him/her from my friends list.
@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
8 May 07
Yes, I accept all friend request, not important to me if they want comment or no comment in my posting discussion. Best regards
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@maucute (980)
• Philippines
8 May 07
I would usually check their profiles out and see in their discussions if there's something that I can add up on but I always approved people who wanted to add me as my friends. I guess it wouldn't hurt both parties if they want to be friends with me.. It would even serve as a compliment for people who wanted to be your friends, what mattered to me is that I'm enjoying my stay of posting here and that I'm having good friends as well..
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@junaranas (197)
• Philippines
8 May 07
Definitely, it depends upon the kind of request being asked for. If it is for good, YES.
@katykat (46)
• United States
8 May 07
Hello there! I am a myLot rookie here, but I too, like to have somewhat of an idea about my friends, so I also, like a few folks here, check their profile first to see if this is someone that I would like to be friends with. I feel that it is important to have as many things in common with my new friends, although I usually do not like to be selective, but if there is something truly disturbing that a proposed friend posts, then I feel that is reason enough to deny that particular party's request. Again, I don't like to be selective like this, but this is just who I am. I am a bit old fashioned in the way I was raised, and my folks always taught me NEVER to talk to strangers, guess that is why it is so hard for me to connect with this internet thing, but I'm doing the best that I can...Guess this is giving away my age, but in this day and age, one can never be too cautious. I think it is an individual judgement call, and just do whatever you feel is best for YOU! Only the individual knows what is best for them!! Good luck and most of all, have fun here!
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
8 May 07
I'm starting to get that too..It's one thing if a friend request is someone I've posted on one of their discussions or vice versa,..but I would like to know the deal here with people requesting when I haven't a clue who they are..now if they were "newbies" I could maybe understand that they are hunting around to make friends..but I'm also talking about people who have been here awhile...So you're right about asking this...what is the deal here?
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• United States
8 May 07
This place is not like myspace so it does not matter who you accept as your friend.
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• United States
8 May 07
i accept all friend requests so that i can communicate with more people, and become more well known. so if you want to be my friend just ask!! thanks!
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
7 May 07
I always check and see who they are and see if they have the same interest yes I accept them. I get a pend friend almost every day
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