Beauty or Brains?
May 8, 2007 12:07pm CST
When you choose your life-parter, will you choose beauty over brains? I think men prefer beautiful women to be their wives, and women look for strong men. Will intelligence be a factor which you will consider? If you have already fallen in love, which quality attracted you first to that person - their looks or their thoughts?
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10 May 07
You're right, I missed that one. I do agree with you, you might end up marrying a really rich person, only to discover that he/ she is very manipulative and conceited. That really would make life hell! I guess its nothing but the heart that truly keeps people (in love) together until the end of eternity, isn't it? :)
17 May 07
Thing of beauty is joy for ever...n this beauty is the beauty of u r soul..which lies in u r heart n mind..I truely believe that the only one thing which gets u going in life is love...Years down the line the only one thing which will keep u bonded is purely the bond of luv which is the parent for other emotions like caring, understanding...For me what i found in my best half is purity of his heart ..beauty lies within u r heart n soul...External beauty no were comes along the path of pure love.
8 May 07
When i actually choose my life partner I looked for brains and at the same time a well to do family. Over the years i have understood what i missed out in my selection. One needs to select a proper family. You husband my be very loving but if his family is not good they would make life hell for you. My husbands mother and sister tortured me virtuallly and finally my husband broke off his relation with his sister. That sent jitters in my family and there treatment towards me improved. This was a perfect move on the part of my husband that he meant business. So brain played its part ultimately.
8 May 07
Intellegence is what both my boyfriend and I were looking for when we found eachother. We are both rather "average" looking people, but the more about our minds and souls we discovered about eachother and loved, the more beautiful we bacame to eachother. We always thought eachother attractive, but we grew more attracted to eachother, as we got to know eachother. Fall in love with intellegence, and beauty will follow.
8 May 07
people have different taste and likes in a person. If you ask me, I would prefer brains...coz what is beauty if that person doesnt have brains to have a nice conversation with you. One can be beautiful when people can communicate/interact well with you. Beauty doesnt mean the physical appearance only but for who you are inside and outside. I have fallen in love with my hubby because of his brains...he is clever, witty, good conversationalist, good sense of humor, sweet to talk to and i would he is good looking. He has the brains and the beauty...I love him for who he is.
8 May 07
I will choose the brain. The beauty is not eternal. Some years and this beauty will bore me. But if the man is inteligent, with large culture, interesting thoughts and develops his abbilities- he can attract me a long time after the marriage.
8 May 07
Ofcourse men preffer beauty than intelligent but not all.some also preffer beauty and brain.I don't think so that all girls will preffer only handsome guys though they do it first when they came to know that her boy friend is not enough intelligent to earn for being surview then she defently leave him.
9 May 07
beauty is the basic factor for attraction!! true! but intelligience is the key to long lasting and healthy relationship!! if ur life partner is beautiful but is thich in head then it'll be more embarrasement then having a not so beautiful one with mature brains!
10 May 07
Interesting, that is an aspect I never paid attention to. I can imagine what a scene it would make, to take your wife to your bosses party, and have her say something totally dumb in front of a bunch of people. That would be so hilarious! And that is especially more important, because men tend to rush to beautiful women to speak to, lol
1 Jul 07
Hi! you know what? i was married to a guy who has the smartest brains around here, the fact that he's a consistent honor student from elementary to secondary and even graduated cumlaude in college.And mind you, he finished 2 courses and taking up law and masters still. And obviously i hate men with "Body by God but brain by Mattel" you know!And it will be trully impressive if your partner can mix with people who can go with the discussion whether it may be politics or about life in general, than a partner who would only be nice to look at but don't-let-him-talk-at-all kind of guy. And here in the Philippines we call brainy guys as the "gifted ones" for they make a lot of people go "whoaw!" they will surely blow you away once you hear them talk. And you know what? these are the kind of men who has good foundations of what your future would be for they do know how to make life more easy...."good provider" is the right term i guess for that! Physical attributes will only be a bonus, BESIDES if a person is not good looking then let science do the talking. It can be fixed, but brainiacs? Gosh..it's a gift! Trust me, i know! If things did'nt work out with me and him? Due to outside forces...human nature!If you know what i mean... :)
30 Jun 07
For me I am easily attracted to their thoughts. Specially when they can make up a good convo. So I prefer at least presentable with brains. I seem to agree that most men are attracted to beautiful women. Well not all though. But those who does I guess was able to live with it.
29 Jun 07
Hi there, I would say a combination of both. But my weightage would be more on the brains than on beauty. I don't say that looks are not important, but it's the thoughts of a person that counts more. You might have the most beautiful looking like partner, but if they have no thoughts what's the point, as good as beauty without brains. It's the inner beauty of a person that counts more than the looks.
21 May 07
I would like to marry a women with lot of brains and moderate amout of beauty. However, more than the brains, my interest would be as how loving caring, emotional and supportive she is. She should guide me the right path of life and yet stand with beside whn i am wri=ong to hold me before i fall.
10 May 07
well i choose brains rather than beauty...because beauty fades when you become older unlike when you have brains or knowledge as well as you intelligent it is for a lifetime no one can take this away from you...however for some reasons, sometimes men choose beautiful women because its a plus factor for them and some men are really proud of themselves once their partner is beautiful...
9 May 07
Yeah, most men prefer beauty. Beauty attracts me first, in reality, but what if brain wasn't with beauty. So, I'd rather choose brain than beauty. You will be having a great time being with each other if you both are intelligent.