Does your child sleep with you? Do you think this is weird........

United States
May 8, 2007 11:16pm CST
I don't know if this is exactly normal or not, I think it is kind of weird myself: My friend's 7 1/2 year old son stills sleeps in bed with her and her husband. I think he is too old for this! What do you think? It's not like they have a lack of space because they have a whole bedroom with a bed for him to sleep in but he refuses even with a nightlight! How can you slowly get a child to sleep on their own? How old do you think is too old to sleep with parents? Does your child sleep in bed with you?
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• United States
9 May 07
Yes my children slept with me until they were about 8 or 9. I don't think it is anything wrong with a child sleeping with his parents at this age. It is more about the child than the parents. You should aways wait until the child shows his independents and not force him, when forced this sometimes promotes bedwetting. The child will slowly exhibit signs of wanting their own space. Some children are ready sooner than others.
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• Malaysia
9 May 07
erm.. i don't know if it's normal in your country or not... but you won't believe me if i tell you that my cousin age 13.. sleeping in between his parents? wow.. you must be wondering how could that be.. but yes.. it's the fact.. and i didn't lie anything about it.. it seems like my cousin is so afraid of ghost.. and refuse to sleep on his own.. and he always need someone to accompany him... erm.. basically there's 4 person living in that house.. and .. there are about 4 rooms.. and 1 room is currently empty because my cousin refuse to sleep there.. what do you think they should do?
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@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
9 May 07
When my daughter went on her nursery school shes about 4 yrs. old we decided to put her in her own bed and sleeping without light. But sometimes we missed her we let her sleep beside us.
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@Mamaof2 (574)
• Canada
9 May 07
Altho I see nothing worng with it, I do think that there is a certian age that the child should no longer be sleeping in bed with parents. At 7 and a half, I think this child should be able to sleep on his own...but if the only thing he is used to is sleeping with his parents, then that may take some time to get him into his own bed. My daughter slept with me until she was just over 2 years old. I then put her in her crib...it was one long week, getting her used to it...but after all was said and done...it was peaceful after that. my son on the other hand has never been in bed with my husband and I. I made it loud and clear that I was not goign to allow it (unless of course he was sick or something)and he has been in his bed since the day I brought him home. If htis child is used to the comfort of his parents which makes him feel safe, I do think that it is going to be a long chore to get him out of the parents bed!!! I guess just small steps and hopefully eventually he will be in his own room. He is to old to be in with the parents...but probally knows nothing else.
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9 May 07
I know this situation would not work for me. I like my own space at night. But as long as it works for them and everyone is happy with it. He will soon move in to his own room when he wants the privacy that older kids crave.
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@stella1989 (2277)
• India
9 May 07
Its all a very normal thing..! Some kids takes much more time than others to sleep alone ...!! I slept with my mom till I was 12 !!I just love sleeping with her..!I mean not always but 3 days a week with mom and another 3 days alone..!! lol Now thats really strange..!! But I love sleeping with her she just holds me very firmly whenever I sleep with her and thats what I love about her..! lol You can get your child to sleep all alone by sleeping with him in his own room for 2-3 days and then makeing him sleep all alone in his room..!! Cause you have to guide him towards his "room" first. And then try making his room exclusively his..!! Then he may like spending time their alone..! And after that he can sleep their all alone too..! And no more horror stories before they sleep..!! lol All the best.
@mememama (3077)
• United States
9 May 07
I don't think there's a specific age when a child should go into his own bed. We coslept, but we let our son decide when he wanted his own bed. We set it up and one night he walked in their and slept on his own. He's been in it ever since except when he got sick. I think it's just our culture that looks down on that, many other countries have a family bed as the norm. Most of my family members on my side cosleep too until the child is ready. We never have to worry about sleep training/crying it out since we don't pressure our children into something they don't want to do.
@carlaabt (3508)
• United States
9 May 07
My son never really slept with us. Every once in a while, if we both fell asleep while he was eating he would sleep with us. Or sometimes when my husband wasn't home when my son was an infant I would let him sleep with me between feedings, but not very often. He sleeps just like my husband:everywhere! They both roll around over and on top of people, so I don't think they would sleep together very well at all! My son has been in his own room since he was 4 months old. At that point, he was too big to stay in the bassinet (and rolling both ways like crazy!), so we transitioned him into his crib, in his own room. I slept in his room with him for about a week, and then gradually started only staying in the twin bed in his room until he went to sleep. He learned that I wasn't going to be in there when he woke up, and after a month, he was fine with going to sleep completely on his own. I do think it's kind of odd that a 7 year old would still be sleeping with his parents every night. At that age, I was going to sleepovers with my friends! I couldn't imagine still needing to sleep with someone then... But as long as the child and the parent are happy, then that's fine. I just couldn't imagine doing it myself.
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@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
9 May 07
Im a Filipino.And its part of our culture that our children sleep with their parents,as long as they want. Way back on my elementary,i still sleep with my parents.Until when i am high school.Lolz...Is that weird.I do love to sleep with them.It calm me,and made me feel comfortable.No fears of nightmares. Now i got kids.Evan James 9 and Miko James 4 years old.Since i am almost 4 years separated,they sleep with me. But i do respect your point of view about kids sleeping with their parents room.Because i know some really let their kids sleep in other room.Its part of teaching their children to become independent. Thats why we Filipino are really have a close family ties because of our culture and how our parents made us grow and the way of living we have.
@tholitz (1127)
• Philippines
9 May 07
Here in our country where family connection is very close, this situation is very common in one's family. Just like me, my 2 children aged 6 and 3 is still sleeping with me and my wife. I know someday I have to teach them to sleep on their own room but right now I'm still enjoying and having fun with it (we used to play and read before going to sleep). Maybe someday they will be the one who will move specially when they grew up and wanted privacy of their own.
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• China
9 May 07
It seems to be weird. Actually i had been sleeping with my mother until I was 10 years old just because i was pavid at that time and feared to sleep alone, maybe it sounds ridiculous ,but i dis so indeed then.haha:)
• United States
10 May 07
My daughter sleeps with me and my husband but she is only a year old almost two and we think its just fine. But 7 1/2 is just ridiculous. what do they do if they want some alone time?
@maybey (366)
• Philippines
10 May 07
Here in Philippines its normal we called familyties. Children sleep with their parents because of poverty if you are from poor family here , you have no choice. In my case I sleep with my mother up to 13 years old because my father left. Then when I was 14 I decided to left my hometown and my family too to continues my studying in Metro Manila. But if I have a children i will give them own bedroom for their privacy if they reach 5 years old.
@Rmcc06 (10)
• United States
10 May 07
I think it's weird for a child that old to be sleeping with his parents. My 8 month old son sleeps with me in the bed sometimes in the morning. But that's when he wakes up at 5am and won't fall back to sleep.
• United States
9 May 07
When my son and daughter were younger they would sleep with me. At the time I was a single parent and didn't mind at all. But when I remarried it took a little bit of work to break them of the habit. I would get half of the night to be alone with my hubby and the other half was the 3 of us. Finally at the age of 7 my son slept all night in his own bed. My daughter was much easier to break, less than a week. Since then we have had 2 daughters and the only time I allow them in my bed is when they are sick. I refused to make the same mistake again. I felt like an ogre when I had to break the other 2 of the habit and didn't want to feel like that again.
@okn0tok (569)
• United States
9 May 07
What is normal? I think it is a family, a family can be close as it wants. If they are comfortable it is fine. Many cultures are close to their children this way. I think psychiatrists and so called experts have really made a big issue about what they think is normal or not.
@Talha22 (384)
• Pakistan
9 May 07
well i am quite old and still sleep with my mother and i am not against it cause you could sleep with your mother even if you are 50 cause she is your mother and no body should feel guilty about it at least not to me.
• Bulgaria
9 May 07
By mine opinion there is some factors that define when one child will stop sleeping with her/his parents. 1-st: The parents are these which let the kid sleep with them. I accept one age until 6 age. 2-nd: Too spoilted kid. For 3-rd and 4-th i choose not to talk :))
@czy0578 (26)
• China
9 May 07
I don`t agree with, i does`t like Child sleep with me !