Do you ever feel your parents' love as a burden?

@batpig (99)
China
May 9, 2007 3:13am CST
I dont know how is it in western country or other family in my own country-China? I know exactly how deep my parents love me!!!and i do the same way. But now i am in my twenties and work for one year.my parents shows their complete love on me...and...and...i cannot breathe for sometime,just because of their love.i want to decide sth for myself,and have my own circle,but always they care about me and get involved,so their love becomes a burden. what can i do?i dont want to hurt them and make them to feel i dont need them,but really,i need my own space...
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@yanstill (1491)
• China
9 May 07
that is really a confusing thing.most parents show too much concern and treat us as a kid that we'll never grow up,this is love,but on the other hand,it will make us feel that we are not independent,and we cannot deal with things all by our own.sometimes parents need us to rely on them,especially when we have been an adult,that showed they are still important for you,but they don't know,they are always important,no matter we are a child or an adult. so for me,the key word is still the same,communication,tell your parents what you are thinking and try to persuade them that you have your own lifestyple,and you need some space...but not too direct,they will understand,and maybe they'll support you in some way.hope this time i didn't misunderstand you. :)
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@batpig (99)
• China
9 May 07
hehe...you understand me perfectly well!!! i think that is sth to do with our culture,right??? today i phoned them,and feel happy to hear their voices,but at the same time, they really make me feel difficult to breathe. for my mom,maybe better to get direct communication,but for my dad, really hard!!!he never speak in front of me how he feels. so what can i do to my dad??? a long way to go then...
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@yanstill (1491)
• China
9 May 07
my dad and mom are just the oppsite as yours.my dad is like a kid himself,i always play jokes on him;but,my mom is more serious,and she don't talk much,when she was angry,she didn't show it,just kept silent,that's what i am afraid most.i hope they can speak the problems out,and we could cope with them together. i think there is a way for you to communicate with your dad,hehe,just find it out,after so many years,you will know your dad well,after all,just remember,you are family,there's nothing can't be figured out.
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@batpig (99)
• China
13 May 07
yea, thanks, remember that---we are a family!!!that is quite important!!!
@baolihua (114)
• China
13 May 07
i am in high school now.and this June i will go to the college entrance exams.my parents are quite the opposite.they don't ask about my study often.i wish they could give me some burden lol.sometimes i feel tired to tell myself that what i should do,what not.i hope someone else can tell me that it's time to study and then i'll stop watching tv or something else.
@batpig (99)
• China
13 May 07
you reminded me about my schooling years!!you are right, at that time, they also stood behind and supported me without a word. but now, as myself realize i am an adult, they begin to interfere more with my life.so that is a little bit weird for me,hehe, hope i can deal with that and figure that out in the shortest term...
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@love7893 (12)
• China
9 May 07
I advise you ,find a space time to talk to you parents about you feelings and thoughts.I think they will understand you.
@batpig (99)
• China
9 May 07
yea,this is the best way,but i dont know how to start and how to express...