Have your parents still controlled your life?

Philippines
May 9, 2007 6:14am CST
I'm twenty old. My parents still control my life. For example I've to go bed at 10 pm. They're good parents but threating me like a child. I wanna move out but I don't have anything to keep my life. What should I do my friend?
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9 responses
@eyewitness (1577)
• Netherlands
9 May 07
Why don't you talk to your parents and tell them that you can make your own decision.You're 20 years old you are well legaly almost an adult.You can tell them carefully that you're not a teenager anymore you're not 8 years old.You have to make your own decisions and you have to take own concequences for your choices.My friend who's almost 18 told her mother that too.Her mom after years of stress has realised that she's not a child anymore but has become an adult.
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• Philippines
11 May 07
I had talked with my parents. They said We took a care with you We didn't want you failed.
@keyohtik (52)
• Philippines
22 May 07
Well, i am older than you now... but I've always had partial control of my life. I fight for my freedom to choose. I always talk it over with my parents. Right now, now that i don't have a job still, they have a bit of control of my life. But just the major things. But as usual, i still have the last say in everything that's gonna happen in my life. You know what, you're still young. But i think you're old enough to sleep in a time that you want to. So just talk to your parents about it. They'll listen. Just act calm and listen also to what they'll say so that they'll listen back. Good luck!
• Philippines
24 May 07
Thank you so much. I'll negotiate home's rules with my parents. Have nice day.
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
22 May 07
Well as a parent I can say that if you want to be in my home, you live by my rules and I imagine that your parents are the same. Okay, my daughters do not live with us anymore and they are both around your age, but still we had rules. Maybe not as strict as the ones your parents have for you but there is also the cultural differences. Your parents are doing what they think is best for you of course, as all parents do. So try to negotiate with them to be allowed to stay out of bed a bit later on a Friday and Saturday night. Your other choice is to get a job and move out of home, but that is up to you. Generally though your parents have rules, as do most parents who care for their children. Most parents only want what is best for their own children so try to negotiate some sort of thing with them. Being allowed to stay up later even 1 night a week is better than nothing at all. Then in another 6 months, you can try for another night and so on.
• Philippines
24 May 07
Yes I know what you talked. I just don't like the way that rule. Thanks, I'll negotiate the rule with my parents again.
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
21 May 07
Now we live too far with each other, so they can't control me at all, but if I am at home, thet will let me go to bed at 10:00 o'clock. Frankly, it is good to go to bed before 10:00, especially for women, then you will have a good skin and be healthy. Frankly, parents experienced too much compared with us. So sometimes their advices are really good for us. Everyone want to be free, but there is not real freedom at all, isn't it? When you are in my age, or you live apart from your parents for over 4 years, you will understand your parents more.
• Philippines
24 May 07
Thanks. I'm thinking about your response, yeah maybe you're right. I think I have to controll by myself.
@silverf0x (126)
• Indonesia
21 May 07
I think your parents controlled you just to make sure you get the best in your life. Maybe you not happy with that because the way how they do that. You must prove to your parents that you are a woman now, not a girl. You can do that by doing all your duty or responbility with more responsible and consistent.
• Philippines
24 May 07
Thanks for your advice. I'm trying to negociate with my parents about the rule's home.
• Philippines
11 May 07
i am currently working already and i have my own place in the city. It is not far away from work. So i am pretty much on my own during weekdays. since i am working, i am pretty much earning for myself now. And i would have to manage my budget for that period. However, i still know where i came from. so on weekends, i always go home to my parents. and spend the weekends with them. i always give them,if it is possible, some monetary help when i go home. I don't need that much money really. i live a simple life, you see. but when i am in the province, they kinda control my life. i also have to go to be very early. and i don't really mind that. i can't watch too much TV or else i would hear it from them. he he he. i am an only child, and at times i am really spoiled even up to now. I try my best to return the favor to them as much as possible. the simple ways would do. like doing my chores and helping out at home.
• Philippines
12 May 07
You're a good person. I'm salute for you. Thanks guys.
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10 May 07
Do you really want to be out in the big wide world? If you wanted it very badly you would do it. Enjoy life for what it is. If your parents are good to you then enjoy this. One day you will meet a man and have children of your own to run around after!
• Philippines
11 May 07
Wow. Thank you so much mummyofthree. I just want a little "free day" so I can arrange my own life.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
9 May 07
I think your parents must love you so much. There will come a time when your parents will let you go to seek your own independency. But for now, they still want you by their side, probably they dont want you to "grow" up so fast.
• Philippines
11 May 07
No, no, no. They love me so much but they threat me like a child. I don't know maybe They take care me so much. They said They didn't want to see me in a dark day.
@PsychoDude (2018)
• Netherlands
9 May 07
See if you can find a job to make some money, then when you have some able to keep you up for a while start looking for a place to rent. And damn, 10pm, that's what I could stay up to when I was 9 after which I slowly started deciding for myself till when I could stay up.
• Philippines
9 May 07
Yeah bad for me. I've tried looked for the job but I've not yet. Have you an idea?