are you pained and became stronger ??

@mimpi1911 (25454)
India
May 9, 2007 6:25am CST
they say, 'when a hand or a leg of our body dies or becomes nonfunct we ampute it, it still continues to ache for some days. but that's not because it still had some life left in it but because the absence of it reminds us of what we once had and that we don't have it anymore. but we must not forget that the loss of it is always less painful.' ...and then pain always makes us stronger and purer. has life ever put you at crossroads, where you were aggrieved but emerged out a strong, composed person??
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@Impervious (1154)
• United States
9 May 07
Can't say that I liked the amputee analogy, but you it did make your point nicely. We must not forget other forms of pain as well. But yes I agree with you, As the matter of fact today is just such a day. I appologize that I can naot go into much detail at this time but there are security concerns. But none the less VICTORY IS MINE !
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
10 May 07
i am glad that the VICTORY is yours. keep going buddy. good luck.
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@bindishah (2062)
• India
9 May 07
Yes..when my relationship with my bf of 4 years got over. It felt like there was no life left in me. Felt exactly like an amputated body part or rather the whole body. But as you said, we miss that part of our life and so grieve for it, but then to live we ahve to ultimately move on and think of things to do without that aprt. Thats exactly what i did..i made some changes in my life and now I look back at that aprt of my life in nostalgia but can live without it.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
10 May 07
dear bindi, i know exactly how it feels and no one and nothing can take away the grief. but then, as you have said, we have to move on, live substantially no matter what. i know you will have all happiness in life. God bless. good luck
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
9 May 07
Yes, good point made. We should continue to live...if one of our body parts is amputed. But we should thank God...for our life and whatever has left with us. We have to face the realities of life. I am not able to recall righ now any painful incident or accident...which helped me getting stronger.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
10 May 07
deepak, thanx for your nice words, as always. pls read WERE instead of ARE ....
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@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
10 May 07
Shall I say ..."You are welcomed"....LOL
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
10 May 07
lol...
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
9 May 07
Mimpi I am not to sure if my Illness has made me stronger I think it has as I do not back of anymore I fight for what I am entitled to now I never used to I do know it has made me feel useless because I can't do anymore what I used to so I really don't know Sweetie
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
10 May 07
i know gabs you have a wondefful partner to support you through thick and thin and that makes you stronger. you are a brave heart and i really respect your spirit. good luck. God bless.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
10 May 07
Thank you Sweetie and yes I have he is wonderful
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
9 May 07
That is interesting mimpi. I do think that pain has does make us strong. But this is not the only choice to be strong. I know alote of people that were educated by knowing that life is a gift and that we have to thank each thing and moment thta was given to us, they are very stron people, because they have a very strong foundation and true belief. They never lost anything, because they do not see life in in the definition of gain and lose. I know that i had a few hard periods in my life, and i did think that i lost alote. But i became stronger only when i realized that i did not lose but gain other things, and started to see the world differently. You can call it strong. But my definition is a bit different. Your post was very interesting, and i was amazed to read about the example you gave. Thank you. :)
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
10 May 07
yes liranlgo, we can broadly divide ppl into STRONG and WEAK personalities. some ppl are generally strong and bold, with or without a successful life and some are weak even when, apparently, they have all in life. that is some other issue altogether. here, i restricted myself to those who were pained and became stronger in the process. i have been grieved and in the process gained so many good friends and reinvented family and friendship. i have been getting more strong, bold and composed. thank you.
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@anindito (58)
• Indonesia
9 May 07
i want to get stronger than yesterday,not just if i am pained or not.i want to make my life so good with enjoying life.but sometime i feel that i can't make a good think to other.only GOD knows.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
10 May 07
thanx, God bless you.
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@aidonia (4210)
• Greece
9 May 07
I had very hard time and many difficulties to past when I was a little girl.When you are so small and there is nobody help you the things and the life seems with a lot of pain.I never didn't let the things put me down and when i go down I stand up again...so I suppose facing problems from so small age make me a strong person.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
10 May 07
i really adore your composure and strength to deal with tough times when still so young. i am glad that you have beaten it with great spirit. thanx aidonia.
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@jbelle (913)
• Philippines
10 May 07
In our lives we all experience that we fall down. I experience that too in my life for example when my boyfriend left me for another woman, it was the painful part in my life i feel pathetic and it even made me think i'll just end up my life... But I must thankful for the people who help me through my emotions they keep on telling me that its not yet the end of the world rather a begining of a new life. I dont regrets for those mistakes but it made me a better me. we should always consider that mistake are lesson to be learned so we would not commit another mistake its a learning process. Thus I believe in th old cliche that says " One's greatest glory is not in falling but in rising evrytime we fall"
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
10 May 07
well said---much appreciated. yes, i agree totally jbele. everytime we rise from the fall, we get stronger and this teaches us to live a better, useful life. we should all try to get over the pains for tomorrow is indeed a new life. i am glad that you have shaped your life in a positive way. my wishes are with you, always. good luck. hugs and smiles...
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
10 May 07
yes, i believe if we do experience pain... we are made stronger by the day. we have to use pain as a part what molds us.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
10 May 07
yes, rightly said. thanx for sharing.
• Malaysia
10 May 07
it depends on the situation, i guess. i would like to say that what doesn't kill me only makes me stronger...but i'm not that strong T_T ..in some situation yes does that happen, but there are for some situations, it only kills me even more and i need the motivation and encouragement to become strong..
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
10 May 07
i really appreciate. thanx for sharing.
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
9 May 07
When I did Home Health Care, I took care of a woman who had lost her leg below the knee due to diabetes. She always said that her missing leg hurt. These are known as "phantom pains". The brain grieves the loss of the missing part. It's hard to accept that something that has always been there is gone forever. It was the same when I lost my brothers. I would walk into a room expecting to talk to them and they weren't there. You grieve and then you move on. I don't think that the loss makes you stronger. I think that knowing that you were able to keep living after the loss is what makes you stronger.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
10 May 07
i really appreciate rebecca. yes, i agree totally. knowing that we can live even after the loss of loved ones make us strong. thanx.
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• Philippines
10 May 07
hello mimpi. I have made it this time to answer you just a day late! I have experienced being aggrieved and it made me feel small. I would rather have physical pain than the pain that attacks one's self-worth and esteem. But having people around who love you makes recovering from such painful experiences bearable. Even though I have surpassed all these, when I look back and remember, I still experience a lingering pain. I believe it has not only made me stronger but also my relationship with the people around who cares for me. Thanks and have a great day! Hugs and more hugs ;)