Is getting jealous means love?

Philippines
May 10, 2007 5:02am CST
Is getting jealous means you love the person?
18 responses
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
10 May 07
If you love someone, of course you can jealous. A little jealousy in a relationship is good. Extreme jealousy is warning signal.
@eseomame (1146)
• United States
10 May 07
Yes, I agree with ellie. A little jealousy in a relationship is very necessary. It becomes alarming when the jealousy gets extreme.
• India
10 May 07
Yes, a lettle jealousy is symbolof love, as we become afraid of loosing our love, so we become jealous to any new friend to our beloved ones.
@micamyx (916)
• Philippines
10 May 07
Not really. I call that a selfish act. If you truly love someone, you should trust him/her.
@anine19 (134)
• Philippines
10 May 07
we're the same, jealousy means you dont trust the person whom you say you love.
@jalbeos (1175)
• Philippines
12 May 07
I do agree with you mica. It is a selfish act. This is how I define love; Love is not a feeling but an action, doing something for the good of others (not yours) without expecting something in return. In relationship, this works with trust.
@bindishah (2062)
• India
10 May 07
Nope..its not one and the same thing. Just coz you are jealous of someone does not mean that you love them. You can be jealous for a avriety of reasons - even for friends. If I am good friends with someone and then a third person comes along it is natural to feel a little jealous.
• India
10 May 07
Right you are. Jelousy does not mean love always. But if you are jelous to any third person who is a new friend to your close friend, it means you are afraid to loss your friend's love. I think it is the "love" for your friend which is making you jelous. What do you feel?
@thai11 (239)
• United States
10 May 07
I don't getting jealous means love. If you are starting to get jealous then I do believe that you are developing strong feelings or you wouldn't be caring that much!! Watch out though b/c jealousy can ruin a relationship!!
• Philippines
10 May 07
Getting jealous to the max and going to the extreme is a big NO NO in a relationship.A continous jealousy of petty issues trigger misunderstanding, and Lover's quarrel. Thus it is detrimental to a healthy relationship.An example I can give is this scenario. Got a Friend who is American(Man), and the woman is a Filipina. They already have an 8th month old daughter. When her husband is with us having some drinks with all our other friends she calls every 3 minutes to check on him.The man gets freak out, then the yelling starts and soon to stop the embarassment of being checked he have to excuse himself and head home. Another instance, he brought his wife and daughter one ocassion and she doesn't want to talk to anybody else and she started bursting making faces to the husband due to some comments about her husband that she kinda' paranoid all about. The next thing we know, that friend had been beaten by the WOMAN in his face. Hematomas and black eye is not a Sign of Love. That Extreme jealousy is the obsession of wanting to be loved and the desperation to be compulsive to force others to Love YOU. It is a mental illness and a sign of being emotioinally abused in the past.Love per se is Forgiving and jealousy is in fact the lack of it!!!
@reachravi (453)
• India
10 May 07
Not necessary...you can get jealous for many reasons...but yes if you are getting jealous just because someone is not talkin to u the same way as others then it might be liking..i wont say love....Do you agree with me?
• India
10 May 07
The example you have given here is not necessarily love but certainly a symbol of likig.
@kunal0099 (233)
• India
26 Oct 09
Not always, but it really depends upon, to whome and at what time you feel like this.
• Philippines
20 May 07
as for me it does equate to love since why would be jealous if you dont feel something or love that person after all. but the bad thing is really on how you act on it on being jealous are you violent, etc.. that's where jealousy will evolve into something bad.
@jhazie (340)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
no its not true love :)Selfishness is the cause of jealousy, while jealousy nurtures selfishness thats all i know.
@easyzheng (666)
• China
13 May 07
I think it is somewhat like that. From my experince, I guess you must feel jealous of people who are around the one you love but not the peron you love makes you jealous.
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
20 May 07
well, tts really depends... people gets jealous for many reasons... sometimes out of no reason too... getting jealous doesnt necessary means u love the person... but who knows, it could be a sign ya? I do get jealous of things regarding my bf easiily... n very... even very minor things... i hope u r not like me... jealous cat... =)
• Philippines
13 May 07
girls are usually the jelous type but it doesnt do a relationship good when you are over jealous with something
• Philippines
16 Jan 08
Others said that. But me I'm not a jealous type of person. But as a woman theres an instinct that you don't need to jealous you need to say goodbye to my partner because he is cheating.
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
Oh! yes because you long for extra special treatment of that person.
• India
17 Oct 09
being jealous is natural when you love someone but it doesn't mean that when you jealous you really love the person,, maybe you like someone,, and remember that jealousy is like being a selfish,, jealous can be prevent by giving someone TRUST..
@munhozmib (3837)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
11 May 07
I don't think it necessarily means you love the person. You might like that person, just as a friend. That might create some jealousy. But I think it depends on the person. Some are extra-jealous, and they feel jealous even when they are not in love. Some are less jealous, and only feel jealous for those with who they are in love. Time to judge yourself: are you extra jealous? If not, you might love that person.
• Philippines
10 May 07
being jealous is natural when you love someone but it doesn't mean that when you jealous you really love the person,, maybe you like someone,, and remember that jealousy is like being a selfish,, jealous can be prevent by giving someone TRUST..
• China
10 May 07
Certainly not.
@munazza (81)
• Pakistan
10 May 07
no not always...it depends on your relation with that person...means if thats just an ordinary person and one gets jealous thats not necessarly love.that might be some other bad feeling.. but yes if you feel some jealousy about a dear one it must be love and its good to some extent