first time mom

United States
May 10, 2007 11:22am CST
I am going to be a first time mom in two and a half months. We live 5-8 hours away from our families. Any suggestions as to how to survive this time mentally and emotionally!
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@nnsb75 (632)
• United States
11 May 07
i was a first time mom too 3 years ago and not just 5-8 hours away from my family but over 24 hours, all my family is in the philippines while im here in the US married to american, its a little tough during the first time but luckily i have a wonderful husband that always there for me to support, i think thats how i survive away from home. so don't feel too bad your situation is much better than i am.
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@makingpots (11928)
• United States
11 May 07
Welcome to myLot, woodstock6121. Congratualtions on becoming a mommy. It will be the greatest thing you have ever done. I am in your situation only my family is even farther away. It will be difficult, make no mistake about it. But you are very wise to know that you need to be preparing yourself now. I have to make myself realize that we build family around us in our everyday life and then make the best of it. Church family, friends, etc when they are all that you have you make the best of it. You will be fine and this will be a very special time in your life. I feel that I am a strong person for going through it without family to help out. You will too, probably. Enjoy every minute of it. They grow so quickly....... enjoy every single minute!!!!!!!!!! And always remember, you have your friends here at myLot to ask for advice. There are some great mommies with good advice here.
@lani0529 (1726)
• Philippines
11 May 07
Hello woodstock!(",) Congratulations, you will be a Mom soon!(",) I think you have to maintain close communication with your family by talking to them in the phone. Surround yourself with friends who would be there for you through thick and thin. I understand that at this point in your life you have mixed emotions. You are happy because you will be a Mom soon and at the same time afraid to what will happen during the delivery. Always pray and talk to God in that way you won't feel very lonely. Always be safe! I'm proud of you. God bless you always!(",)
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@psyche49f (2512)
• Philippines
11 May 07
Congratulations! Being new parents could be difficult, especially when our family members live far from you, like your case. I experienced that too. When my first child was born, both my husband and me were left practically on our own to take care of our first born. No parents to help, give advice, assist.. .We did have household helps, but they only do household chores, but not taking care of our baby. However, since both of us were working, we have no other recourse except to hire a "yaya" (babysitter) to take care of her. Looking back, I can see that we survived it, but it was not easy. We also had our taste of confusion and disillusionment because we did not know how to take care of our baby. We survived it because we just follow our instincts, and our pediatrician and friends also were helpful in giving professional advice. . .Smile...being a parent is a joy!
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
11 May 07
Congratulations!!! Anyone coming to stay with you for a while? At times it will get hard but when the baby is crying for a while and your not sure what to do. Put him/her in their crib if you get to a point where you can just scream. Yes they will keep crying but they will be fine. Take any help that is offered. A warm bath helps most of the time, I know your not suppose to but during the day while you can see them put him/her on their belly on the floor on top of a baby blanket. If your feeling blue make sure you let your dr know.
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@AmbiePam (46235)
• United States
11 May 07
Do you attend a synagogue or church? Often time those fellowships will go all out to welcome someone new and who needs some emotional support. Also, I know there are a lot of mommy groups for those who are expecting and for those who already have children. They get together once a month to talk and let their children play together. If you aren't that kind of person, it might comfort you to have a webcam installed on your computer, if you don't already. If your parents would get a webcam too, you guys could see AND talk to each other, which might be a big blessing, to you and your parents and family.
• Australia
11 May 07
The only sugestion i can give you is have your partner help you out with your newborn. And make sure you get plenty of rest when you can. Sleep when your baby sleps so you are not tired and just take it easy. Never be afaid to ask for help.
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@jalbeos (1176)
• Philippines
10 May 07
How nice is your question. For me, I need to build the foundation first with my partner, understanding, trusting and loving each other. If there's a great foundation then you will survive.
@smacksman (6076)
10 May 07
Well it is nice to have your mum handy for support. When our two were born we were 15,000 miles from our families and my wife really relied on a few good friends for support and found it a great comfort. It is a time for the man to come up trumps too. He should be a good 'sponge' for the emotional outbursts. haha Good luck with your baby. It is a wonderful time and the start of a new life for all of you.
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@shannon76 (1234)
• United States
10 May 07
Make sure you get proper support. That is the ONLY way you will survive mentally, emotionally and physically. Don't be afraid to ask for help either! And if someone offers, take them up on it - especially if your family is unable to be there for you. Congrats by the way - it truly is a wonderful thing!
@claudia413 (4284)
• United States
11 May 07
Woodstock, a big welcome to the myLot family. Remember that there are plenty of mothers/grandmothers/aunts here at myLot who are more than willing to help out in any way possible. Make friends where you are now, and let them support you locally...let us support you here at myLot. Congratulations on becoming a first-time mom also. I became a first-time mom on Mother's Day 45 years ago, and my daughter will be 45 this Sunday, on Mother's Day.
• India
11 May 07
hey, Listen to music. Classics are the best. Listen to great compositions by Mozart, Bach... Country music, Jazz, blues etc are also good. I've made my wife also to listen to such stuff when my wife also was facing the same problems.You can also sing along with your favourite numbers.We bought a satellite radio during this time.Try out listening to some Indian classical music as well, especially instrumental music - flute, violin, santoor, veena... If you would like to read you read story books which normally kids read. My wife wasnt that interested in reading. So, it was just music that she listened to during preganancy.
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
11 May 07
Congratulations... I hope all goes well for you all... You should be fine let your families come and visit you Don't stress about going to visit them.... Enjoy your New Child All the Best :)
• India
11 May 07
congrats and giving birth to baby is great and be happy and donot be nervous and be happy happy happy and just tell after !How is ur baby!take care.we all will celebrate!
@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
11 May 07
congrats....im sure its very rewarding when you see your baby.