Will you allow Strangers to take Your PHOTO....

camera - The thing which made me lose my tour
@aliyaa (580)
India
May 11, 2007 1:34am CST
Last week i went for a tour from my college. We captured some good moments of the trip... I took photos of almost everything on my way.. Coming to the point, I happened to see a cute baby... I was so attracted by it that i wish could get a photo of that beauty ... I asked the parents for taking a photo .. But they not only didnt allowed me to take photo but also used bad words .... All my friends heard this and made fun of me.. Was there anthing wrong in taking a photo of that kid.. Surely its good to keep strangers away from taking their photos... But this incident disappointed me much that i decided not to take photo of others.....
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33 responses
@taurean83 (505)
• United States
11 May 07
Well it is kind a rude why did say say bad words to you?You weren't doing any harm to their kid and it's your honesty and greatness that you first ask them before taking a photograph.It's like they insulted you infront of everyone which is very mean.I cannot be this mean to anyone specially it was a kid what you possibly could do with a kid's picture.Strange how come people can be so illetrate.
@coolseeds (3925)
• United States
11 May 07
You want to know what they can do with a photo? They can give it to some scumbag so they know which child to kidnap. I feel this is reason enough but there are more. You have to be creative.
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• Philippines
11 May 07
until now, i am still quite naive on this things. it never crossed my mind that there are some individuals who are into something like this. if this is so, then we can never be safe enough in this world. anyone can take a picture of anybody without anyone's knowledge at all, by the use of zoom lens. this revelation makes me feel worse about how the world has become.
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• Japan
11 May 07
I doubt kidnappers will ask a parent directly. They'll just follow you around instead. Maybe next time just snap a photo without their permission. Its better this way. You can always pretend to be taking pictures of the scenery or something. Then later crop crop out the unwanted bits and enlarge the picture.
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@cdparazo (5769)
• Philippines
11 May 07
I would never allow anyone to take photo of me if I don't know that person let alone take one without permission. I tried taking picture of other people without their permission and I stopped before I could actually take one because I felt the wrongess of it. Photo is something that is very personal.
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@aliyaa (580)
• India
15 May 07
I agree that photo is very personal... Maybe that is why she refused to the kids photo..
• Philippines
11 May 07
years ago, people will get elated if a stranger take photographs of them and/or their loved ones. it gives the feeling of being treated with importance and respect. now, times have changed. if strangers take photographs of them, people become doubtful about the reasons behind it. when we used to go on school related trips while i was still in high school till college, i am used to strangers taking my photographs, too, whenever my friends and i pose for one for a memento. now, strangers who do this are bound to be questioned for doing so. we are now living in a very distrustful world.
@aliyaa (580)
• India
15 May 07
Yes you are right friend ..The world we live today is full of frauds ..We have to be very vigilant.. Maybe thats why she behaved that way...
@naveenlb (277)
• India
11 May 07
No i will not allow strangers to take your Photo because they can misuse it.Misuse means they can create any account with that picture.But all we will be having afraid if anybody wants to take photo.You asked for pic to that baby but they didn`t allow you it`s ok,using bad words is meaningless.
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@aliyaa (580)
• India
15 May 07
Thanks for your support .. I mean nothing else just a photo thats all..
@fazelath (1176)
• India
11 May 07
Its strange,how can people be so rude,and insult just for a photo,
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@aliyaa (580)
• India
15 May 07
From other responses i think there is a point in the kids mother to be a little rude..
• United States
11 May 07
i would never allow anyone to take my photo. i don't even allow my friends to most of the time, i am not about to let a stranger. When i was in high school, some kids tried to ideo tape me for some project they were doing. They didn't even ASK first. i told them off.
@aliyaa (580)
• India
15 May 07
Thanks for giving your opinion.. Maybe she had a bitter experiance with a stranger before.. That could be why she didnt gave me the permission..
• India
15 May 07
actually you know what happens today...... everything is being used for commercial purposes. i don't know what her / his parents were thinking .... but it was not possible for them to know for which purpose you are taking this photo. but one thing i must say .. using bad words for this silly reason.. specially to a girl can never be supported. at last i would like to tell you one more thing... please don't leave your habit or i should say your talent for such reason. there are many people in this world who would be glad if you offer them to give a pose. so there's nothing to be disappointed, just go ahead.
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• China
15 May 07
For me,i will not allow any strangers thake photos for me.Who can tell me what their real purposes in doing so? Who can sure your private information being safe? If someone ask me to help with taking photos ,i am sure that there is no problem.Helping others won't bring you any loss,why not?
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• Pakistan
13 May 07
Well strange, Why on earth did they misbehaved with you and insulted. You asked their prior permission, You intimated them that you had intensions to take a photo of their baby. It was honesty on your part that you asked for permission, you could shoot it without them knowing. Beside that, it was only a baby, not a adult or matured person that S/he would react like this as we know some People do not like strangers take photographs for some personal reasons and yes I do not like strangers take my pictures. As I do not trust none, apart from people i know.
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• United States
12 May 07
I don't think it was fair of the parents to say bad things to you for wanting to take pictures of their baby. At least you asked their permission, right? They could have just politely said no. Once, I was at a restaurant with two of my friends and our table was in the upstairs portion of the restaurant, right in front of a large window. Our table and all three of us were clearly visible from the street. After a little while, we noticed these people (presumably students) walking by and taking our picture. We were a little confused, and I'm not sure if my friends felt the same way but I felt a bit flattered that someone would want to take my picture. Personally, if a stranger wanted to take my picture, I would say yes, because it's obvious that person must like something about me, right? Besides, all they will have is a photograph and that is nothing that can hurt me.
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• Philippines
11 May 07
people have different attitudes so sometimes even we dont understand we have to deal with it.
@marciascott (25557)
• United States
12 May 07
Welcome to Mylot, a lot of people just don't like to get their pictures taken, I love to as long as I am prepared.
@jhartana (1087)
• Australia
11 May 07
Whoever takes my photo need to ask me first before I think it's ok for them to do it. Hmmm I don't know exactly why people are rude to you even though you ask before you do it...probably it's for their privacy reason. They simply say no instead of using bad words, geez...I'm sorry that you're not taking photo anymore just because of it.
@aliyaa (580)
• India
15 May 07
I decided that because she blamed me infront of my friends.. They used this on me..Its fun for them but for me it was not fun...That is why i became so upset...
@msjigga (866)
• United States
11 May 07
It depends on the setting, place and situation. I was Eat n Park Resturant and an employee asked if she could take a picture of my Daugther with a smiley cookie and a bib. I did not mind. One day a women on the streets was asked me to take a picture of me and my kid I declined. She had no reason she just wanted a picture. When I was in school a man wanted to take a picture of my hair for a scchool project I did know him I allowed it. It all depemds on your presentation maybe if you would explained that you had a project for school or something to that sort the parents may not have minded..
@aliyaa (580)
• India
15 May 07
Maybe my presentation was wrong there... I straightly asked them the permission... Maybe my presentation made some kind of suspicion in them ..I should have presented it in a different way as you said....
@cheongyc (5075)
• Malaysia
19 May 07
I think the baby parents might be just too protective. They could be thinking that the flash light will hurt their baby's eyes. (In fact it will). Some people (especially older generation in my area) are supertitious about taking snapshot. They believe the camera will absorb part of our soul into the photos. So they seldom take photos and try to avoid it unless being forced to.
@anonymili (3140)
19 May 07
I can understand why the parents didn't want you taking a photo of their cute baby but there was no call for them to be abusive to you. Sadly in this day and age you never know what reason people want to take a photo for. Even though you might be a sweet innocent looking person as far as the parents know you are a complete stranger and you could have been the sweet innocent looking girl hired by some gang who use children's photos for all sorts of nasty things. Of course you're not but the parents don't know that do they? Still there was no call to be so rude to you. All they had to do was say that they were not comfortable with you to take their child's photo. Also to the person who said you should have taken the photo anyway without their knowledge I wouldn't suggest that either, it's unethical - think how you would feel if someone did that to you? And also if they caught you taking the photo they might start abusing you even more or worse still turn violent to you and damage your camera. Don't be disillusioned Aliyaa, photography is a great hobby, just take snaps of non-living things instead :)
• Philippines
12 May 07
yes some people dont like to be taken pictures because it might be use to some other things so dont be disappointed ,you must understand that we have different personality.
@makingpots (11928)
• United States
12 May 07
First of all, using bad words to tell you no was a little out of line in my book. But with that said, I know that some parents are becoming overly protective of their children with so much press about child preditors and the internet. I used to work in a school system and we had to ask parents not to take pictures at school if they came and had lunch with their child and their friends or something like that. It seems crazy but that is what the world has come to. I am so sensitive about this now that even when I am at play groups with my child and I know all the moms personally, I ask before I take pictures of their child with mine. I'm sorry that people were so rude to you when a simple no would have sufficed.
@timou87 (1643)
• Singapore
12 May 07
i personally wouldnt mind if a stranger came up to me and asked to take a photo with me, more so if it was some happy event like a carnival or some college tour. perhaps the parents reacted the way they did because they were a bit overprotective of their child?
@marciascott (25557)
• United States
12 May 07
Welcome to Mylot, I wouldn't mind as long as they ask My permission.
• India
12 May 07
Hi Aliyaa,Thanx for inviting me as your friend. No worries, my friend, as long as you are true to yourself, you dont need take such incidents to your heart. Becoz there are some people as you said, who will always have a pessimistic and negative thoughts that will preoccupy their minds, and they behaviours of this kind is just exposing of their inferiority complex.