Adult tattletales....how to deal with them?

@mamasan34 (6521)
United States
May 11, 2007 6:28am CST
I have recently taken on a part time job for extra money. Since I started working there, I have realized there is a tattletale on board! She tattles on everyone if they make the slightest mistake or something that bothers her. She is also an attention getter. She likes to talk a lot and boast about her achievements. I don't care for this kind of behavior! I go to work to work not to meddle in others affairs or boast about my personal life and achievements. I am not there to do that, I am there to work, that is what they pay me for! How do you deal with people like that? I am at my wits end!
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
11 May 07
In my life, I have come across with people like that. Sometimes people tend to feel good when they talk about themselves or they do not realize what they are doing is really irritating. The way to deal with these type of people is just listen and dont give them any opportunity to start talking to you.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 May 07
I don't know if she realizes that she does this, but it has been addressed in the past at work according to others and she continues with the behavior. She is very unapologetic about it to the point that no one wants to work with her. Thanks for responding!
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@Darkwing (21588)
11 May 07
Just smile and let it go over your head. Do your work to the best of your ability and better her. That's a sure fire way to stop her boasting. When she finds you're humouring her, and perhaps not even impressed with her boasts, she'll very probably move on to some other poor, unsuspecting person. I know these people are very difficult to live with and you just want a peaceful working life. So, if it gets too bad, then go tattletale back on here. Ask your boss if you can be moved to a different area because you can't work with her prattling on all day long. I'm sure he's aware of her faults, and will sympathise with your sentiments and give you a change of scenery and close work colleagues. Good luck with this and Brightest Blessings.
@Darkwing (21588)
11 May 07
Yes, maybe you are, but this is the second discussion I've seen you responding to aggressively, so please stop if you have nothing sensible to say.
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@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
11 May 07
Darkwing, I reported this person on one of my discussions and I just reported them again.
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@Darkwing (21588)
11 May 07
Well, I can't say he hasn't asked for it Kuku. Yours was the other discussion I saw him in, was it? Brightest Blessings.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
11 May 07
Being the humurous type that I am I would probably start some silly rumor myself just to get this other nosy type going bigtime. Either that or I would start saying things about her that way she'd get a hint. But these types usually don't care one iota what others think about their ways and antics. Most are known as what we call "brown nosers". Sticking their nose up the bosses keister trying to impress them this way. They seem to wish to know everything also. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 May 07
Grandpa Bob you are so right! This lady is certainly that way. Right now she is in the hot seat at work and she knows her job is on the line, so she is really sticking it to everyone else. Not to mention that she is trying to brown nose the boss to get the spotlight off of her inadequacies. I wish her all of the best, but I just don't want to encourage her behavior. I do handle it with a sense of humor though and I try to be nice to everyone there! Thanks for the comment!
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@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
11 May 07
I used to work with someone like that and she drove everyone batty. We eventually got fed up and starting letting things 'slip' to her that were ridicoulously untrue, she would go and tattle and ended up looking like an idiot. That was years ago, but I know even after we did that, she didn't change.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 May 07
That is quite funny about telling her ridiculous stories and she would tattle. It is true though. This lady I work with would do much the same. It is sad though, that she has to live her life that way.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
11 May 07
Well I would ignore her and I mean ignore Sweetie I have come across People like that and found I was stressing myself out to much but getting worked up over it so I started ignoring and got on with my Job and it worked So just don't listen to her and of course do not give her the Attention Hope it sorts out
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 May 07
This is true. I do ignore her most of the time. I tune her out and just do my job. I do'nt want to encourage the behavior and I know she wants attention, so giving it to her just adds to the problem! Today she wasn't so bad, but it wasn't so good either, lol! She prattled on and on all day today, but I just listened to the radio and said "uh huh" "ok" "that's good" etc. She left the room for a few minutes and there was blessed silence that I needed very much hahaha! Thanks for commenting.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
12 May 07
YEAH SOUNDS LIKE A BROWN NOSER BUTT KISSING EMPLOYEE. hAHAHA
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 May 07
I know it hahaha!
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• United States
12 May 07
Oh dear, that is awful and stressful. Not much you can do to change her. Just be thankful that you are not like her, and you do not have to go home to someone like that. Bless you sugar.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
13 May 07
I know! I thank my lucky stars she isn't at my house hahaha! I know my time is limited only to that place and it is a blessing to get away from her rattling on and on! LOL, thanks for commenting!
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@citygirl (1081)
• Canada
12 May 07
My Dad always used to say, if you give a fool enough rope they will hang them selves. It looks like she already might be. Eventually the boss will have enough and will get ride of her. Just ignore her do your best, I think I might be tempted to give her a crazy story to take back to the boss, in the end she will look like a fool. So grit your teeth and hang on for the ride, until she falls off the horse lol. I know it is hard though I work with a male version of her. But he has started to look like a fool now. So it will happen with her to. Good luck.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 May 07
She already looks like a fool that is for sure. Everyone thinks she is a menace and doesn't want to work with her. She just saps the joy out of working for a nonprofit organization! But your right, I just let her be and go on doing what she is doing. She is not going to bother me and I won't allow it. She has already taken many things to the manager and she is sick of it not to mention she can't fulfill the job description that was set forth by the management, so her time is coming. Thanks!
@mari123 (1862)
• China
12 May 07
except discussion with the dailylife to post,not other things can be discussing,but i hate to discussion this tattletale post,it is just to tell us what she or he emotion bad or good,and most of subject is a women'topic.as a man,i cann't respond for this.so i hope we should change this single subject.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 May 07
If this is something you wished not to discuss, then why did you respond to the post, you make no sense and have been rated accordingly.
@niicks (224)
• India
11 May 07
hvnt came across one ..once i come acrss that i can answer yr question
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 May 07
niicks, I am sorry but why did you respond to this discussion if you have nothing to bring to it?
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• India
13 May 07
Jusy keep your self away from her!!
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• United States
12 May 07
I have found that those who "tattle" on other are usually doing it because their work is faulty somehow and the only way they can try to keep themselves in good standing is to "rat out" others, whether it's true or not. I usually just ignore it and do my work as best as I can. Sooner or later, they will inciminate themselves. We've had a couple around here. One finally left about a month ago. She ratted on every little thing about people and the bosses couldn't stand her because they knew what she was ratting about was so petty. At the same time - she wasn't doing her work! It took a long time, but they finally had enough and made life difficult for her so she quit. There's more of a problem if they are listening to what she says. If someone is tattling and they are listening, then your problem is with management. But someone who is like this just because that's the way they are will be found out soon enough.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 May 07
You are so right! She is being seen for what is really going on. She takes more time to rat people out than to do her own job and her job is falling behind. So, it has been noted by management. She is in the hot seat, I think that is exactly why she is trying so hard to rat others out. Not to mention that she just likes the attention, I think she wants the spotlight, sometimes that spotlight doesn't feel so good! Thanks for the comment!
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
12 May 07
I don't know how to deal with people like this, I find them very annoying because they ruin otherwise pleasant situations. I mostly just try to ignore them. I guess maybe you could all gang up on her - have an intervention and tell her that her constant reporting is making it difficult to work with her. Maybe she just has no idea how to be happy in a normal way, or how to interact with people.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 May 07
I think the best thing to do with this person is to ignore her activity. She wants the attention and an intervention of sorts would give her even more attention and she would just thrive on that. She doesn't know how to be normal or happy or happily normal, lol, but I try to find the good in her as I do with all people. It does help when I have to work with her, but most of the time I ignore her when she rattles on and on!