Are you more open with your thoughts and feelings here on myLot?
• Saudi Arabia
12 May 07
Well i am open and that comforts me big time. I'd have 2 be a little bit careful with the wording though but generally i am open and i guess anyone can easily see it if he just took a look at the discussions i either initiated or responded to. Thank you
3 Jul 07
As a newbie here I find your question interesting...and so are your friend's responses. I am an ideas person by nature. My hubby and I write, produce and present a variety of empowered living seminars and feel quite comfortable in stating my view and perspectives fairly openly. Having said that I am not sure how much of my personal problems or issues with close friends I would share on line. With the corresponding links to the members other websites it isn't that difficult to identity faces beyond the Avatars. The friend who referred me made that mistake when she started talking about me on her site in not very favorable ways...to me that was not very bright. Sadly it also put a chasm between our friendship because I called her on it and she refused to discuss things face to face. It showed a side of her I had not experienced before so in a way it was a good thing. So like most things in life there are no easy answers.
3 Jul 07
Ouch to your 'friend'! Human nature has so many shortcomings and people don't like to be called on their's. Confrontation is scarey to most. the myLot community are no different to real reality, you will have some people who can hold you and really genuinely care. Often there will be private emails going on behind the scenes. And there are some discussions that get into the personal elements. For some being able to express their personal stuff is a new and very needed experience. Often it's easier to have a screen between you and another person to actually open up. That's the way we are, we can be touching someone in real reality yet be totally closed off. I have met some really great people through this space, some I have no hesitation in meeting personally, one day, somehow. I've read some touching stories that bring me to tears and I can feel the other person. It's amazing to experience.
5 Jul 07
I like your 'ouch' factor response to what my friend did and said. I have learned a lot about discernment the past few years. I used to be very open and trusting with most everyone until they gave me reason not to be. However, there have been a few incidents like the one above that taught me to be a little more cautious in the trust department. I will probably be watchful of that as I share things on Mylot. Not that I ever want to be suspicious and guarded either...I wouldn't want to live that way. My approach in life now is to put out feelers, take a few calculated risks and do course corrections when it turns out people are not walking their talk. Over all I have found more positive, uplifiting experiences than negative downers where people are concerned. Besides, if you don't give them a chance some special connections would never occur...at least that has how it is for me...and sounds like for you too!
3 Jul 07
I would consider myself to be a relatively open person regardless and tend to generally speak my mind verbally as well! I would however say that in responding on myLot I tend to think a little more before putting down my opinions; so in this sense; myLot allows me to think before I speak in a way! Put it this way, it is not so common for me to put my foot in my mouth on this site!
3 Jul 07
Hi James, good to read you. I totally agree with your words here. Foot in mouth makes chewing difficult which doesn't aid the digestive process! My sense of expression changed once I got on here. I could really feel how easy it was to hurt someone and get that agro backlash that we all don't like. My level of discernment has gone up and have noted the space I'm coming from when I respond. Those wise questions come up like: what do I want to achieve here? Who's stuff am I buying into? Am I feeding a monster that shouldn't be fed? Is this my emotional baggage I'm blurting onto this page? Am I just being opinionated? Knowing the written word is as powerful as the spoken word, it pays to be aware. And having this awareness can only bring out the best of intention.
13 May 07
I am doing most of what I am doing because I totally want to do it now.There might come a time when I will unfold the other plans I have hidden in a deep recess and work on them,but for the moment I live the way I am happy.Yes,there are few things I might have to compromise with ,but that's what life is about.
13 May 07
Sorry this one was for a different discussion of your's.I will post my response to this one here : I find it easy to talk to people whether it is offline or online.The difference is that offline you don't get to talk to a stranger over such a wide range of issues and don't get to know how he or she thinks.On mylot,you can read a person's responses to several topics and gauge the kind of person he is.It becomes far easier to decide whether to open up to him/her or not that way.But other than that I find it easy to open to people I trust ,whether it be online or offline.
28 May 07
I don't tell all here on myLot, it's not really the arena for me. But because there is an avatar instead of your real face and a computer screen standing between you and everyone else here then it's sometimes easier to express yourself. Like a false bravado situation.
• Richards Bay, South Africa
11 May 07
I don't know, in the beginning it was difficult to get a discussion going. I looked at every discussion carefully and was sometimes very shy and scared they might ridicule me, because English is not my first language. Language is a big opstatical for me. But after I've seen some people here that write with confidence despite spelling and grammar mistakes, my confidence grew. It is still difficult for me sometimes, especially if it is a discussion that I really want to participate in, and then it all gets lost in translation. But I will say, yes I pretty much say what comes to mind, even if it is cyber buddies, some of my online friends feel like they are visiting me in my house everyday! Very strange phenomenon!
25 May 07
It makes no difference to me, if I wish to voice an opinion then I will, if anything I find it easier to write a response than verbalise a response. I also find it easier to speak more openly here as there are some wonderful people in MyLot land who are always happy to offer help, support and advice.