My Friend Is Throwing A Birthday Party...

Philippines
May 11, 2007 10:30am CST
and she has forgotten to invite me. What do you think will be the best thing to do? This is something which has been bugging a neighbor whom I can consider a friend. I told her that she can either let it go or, give her friend a ring and inquire as to whether she is invited to the occasion but forgot to send her an invitation. If this has happened to you, what do you think is the best step to undertake? For me, it will be just to forget all about it.
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@Sailor (1161)
• United States
13 May 07
Normally I am straight forward, but in this case so as not to embarrass your friend, I would send my b-day present early so as to make my friend remember me. But I would not just show up at the party.
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• Philippines
13 May 07
this is a good idea. this will surely let that friend know that the giver of the gift has not forgotten the occasion. yes, without any need yet for any word coming forth regarding the upcoming birthday celebration.
@Sailor (1161)
• United States
13 May 07
Also one should remember that life has its busy moments and it may just have naturally slipped her mind, or there may be a person comming to the party that she doesn't get along with.
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• Philippines
16 May 07
yes, it is highly possible.
• China
12 May 07
I think both you and me are tolerant persons,i will forget all about it too.
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• Philippines
12 May 07
yeah, this is the easiest way to deal with an occasion that wouldn't make any difference in our lives.
• Canada
12 May 07
I think if this happened to me, and the friend was a really close friend, I wouldn't hesitate to pick up the phone and enquire politely whether she'd forgotten my invite or not. It can sometimes be that a close friend will just assume that others know they're invited. On the other hand, if the friend HADN'T forgotten the invite, and had decided for whatever reason not to invite a certain person, it might actually lead to an awkward situation. I would suggest that your friend call up this friend and offer birthday wishes in advance, and then maybe he/she could casually ask if they're doing anything to celebrate. That way, it leaves an opening for an invite, or for the friend to lie and say no, and avoid a potentially embarrassing situation.
• Philippines
12 May 07
i agree with you that these steps can easily be done. it is all to her now to take the necesary steps.
• India
12 May 07
well... i am really sure that if that person is your friend then he/she definitely might not have forgotten you... on the other hand... if the person has really forgotten to invite you.... then he/she never really considered you as a friend...
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• Philippines
12 May 07
anyway, we just want to help her find a way to know if she was just forgotten to be notified as regards the abence of an invitation.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
12 May 07
You are between a rock and a hard spot, I think you friend has a good solution, I am sure that it was just an over site and will be remedy soon. Is this a real good friend that would assume that you would know your invited with out a personal invitation? I hope you have a wonderful time
• Philippines
12 May 07
since they are good friends and the residence of her friend is not that far from her, she can always pay that friend a visit anytime. once she does this, her problem should be remedied soon after.
@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
11 May 07
I'd forget about it - unless it was FOR me! It maybe for someone that isn't a friend of hers so that just because the friend is having the party doesn't mean that you know the guest of honor. If you mean she's having the party for herself - I'm sort of out on a limb there.
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• Philippines
12 May 07
i have told her already that if i were in her shoes, i'd just let it go. it is not that important to be attending birthday parties. especially when we are already advanced in years.
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@bluewings (3857)
11 May 07
If he or she happens to be a close friend of mine,then i would not hesitate to enquire on phone.They might have forgotten or perhaps would have told me later.If he isn't a close friend ,then I would not ask and neither fret over it. If a person feels bad and doesn't feel comfortable asking ,perhaps she can ring up on the previous night of the birthday and wish her friend after 12 AM.If she forgot to invite her ,then she will correct it as the party is likely to comeup.If not,then at least she would know that she wasn't invited by her friend.
• Philippines
12 May 07
yes, she claims that they are good friends. this is the reason why they do not forget their birthdays. i believe that you are right about this that she can always give her advance birthday greetings. then we can hope for the best to follow suit.
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
11 May 07
I think it’s quite normal that we might miss out some friends when throwing a birthday party. In this way I might give her some hints and never ring her up as this would be quite embarrassed to do so.
• Philippines
12 May 07
yeah, i get your point. it will be a better thing to do if she pays the friend a visit and talk casually about things. if the friend has just simply forgotten to invite her, she will get it right there and then.
@krebstar5 (1267)
• United States
11 May 07
I suppose it depends on the closeness of these friends. If they are really close, the friend might have just assumed that the other friend would just know that she is invited. In that case, it would hurt to ask about the invitation. If they are more casual friends, the affair might be a rather small one and as a result she had to pick and choose a bit more carefull who to bring. In that case, then asking might be awkward. If it really is killing your friend, then she should say something. I wouldn't call and bring up the issue directly, but maybe ask questions around the issue first to test the water. She can call her friend and ask about what she is doing for her birthday and hope that she will say something like "Well don't you know about my party? You're invited." However, if the party does not come up in conversation, I say let it go. Also, I wouldn't push the matter too hard either. I'm sorry to hear about this situation though. I hope everything works out in the end.
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• Philippines
12 May 07
this is a very good suggestion. i am sure that this will be going to work. i'll tell her to pay her friend a visit and just say casually about some advance happy birthday greetings. then her friend will delve on the matter consequently.