a daughter and a friend...

Philippines
May 11, 2007 10:35am CST
is it possible for a parent and a child to be friends? for me it is...
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11 responses
@alilswt (388)
• United States
15 May 07
yes i consider my parents friends they are fun to hang out with and i can talk to them about anything but it was not always like that when i was younger it was a bit harder to be so friendly but now my parents house is my favorite place to go
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• Philippines
16 May 07
It is a natural feeling, at younger age, we are a little aloof with our parents. There is always a feeling of want to be with same age peer relations, specially at teen age stage. But as we grow old, our horizons, experiences widens, as well as our bonding with older persons, like our parents. Thank you for replying. God bless...
@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
12 May 07
I think it is possible for a parent to be friends with their child. We as parents jus have to know certain boundaries are not to be crossed. I have a 4 yr old daughter, when she gets to her teenage years and starts getting into dating I want her to come to me with all her problems..whether I approve or not Im gonna listen and help her the best way I can. Im gonna make sure she always knows that Im her mother but Im a woman also so I can relate to her more than she thinks. :)
• Philippines
14 May 07
Yes Miss Gorgeous, as friends to our kids, we must have certain limitations. If without it, respect from them is not possible. Most of the time, we can listen to them, but not possible for us to be of the same age, as their friends outside. Thank you for your response.
@sumaana (17)
• United States
11 May 07
i feel my personal experience better answers this question as a daughter. my mom has unconditional love and affection towards me which made me surrender myself for the facts happening. she has lots of patience with no hinderances about the topics i chose to talk with her.i would say she is the first and best ear to listen to the happenings in my life. she has her own worries as a mother about her daughter and at the same time she wont stop me from doing anything which i feel that it should be done at a particular moment. when i feel happy, i feel like sharing that with my mom and the same in all the instances... To my observation, definitely a parent can be a gud friend to their children, with all the confidence that children can talk any thing and share any part of their life with parents.
• Philippines
14 May 07
Thank you for you good response. Ive learned a lot from it. God bless you!
• United States
11 May 07
I think that it is completely possible for a parent and a child to be friends. I am friends with my mother and I cherish that friendship. The trick is that you just don't tell her everything about your life. (I don't tell everything about my life to the friends that I have had for years either.)
• Philippines
14 May 07
Thank you for your response. Me, either... of course there must be something left for you to keep. God bless you.
• United States
11 May 07
Of courseit is possible my mom and me and best friends. She probably knows more about me than a lot of my friends. My daughter and me are really close too. She does know that I am the boss though. I talk to her all the time and she tells me everything. Some things other parents didn't even know about their own child. I like the feeling knowing that if she has a problem or needs to talk to me she does. I hope that it will continue throughout her years in high school and junior high because she will need me more than anything.
• Philippines
14 May 07
thank you for your response. Yes, we are both hoping for the same thing as our kids grow. God bless you.
• Malaysia
11 May 07
yep, of course. i've hard many stories like how a mother and daughter could be best friends. gossiping, shopping, talk about problems together, help each other, etc..maybe that's what we should do with our parents, let them have a chance to be our best friend and include them in our lives, after all they've done so much for us and have sacrifice a lot for us..
• Philippines
14 May 07
Thank you for your response. YES, and as for me as a mother now, am doing the same with my kid. And I know he will do the same with his kids in the future. Because, that was our parents have taught us, LOVE...
• India
11 May 07
it is the ideal relationship to have a child & a parent as a friend .We as a mother & daughter duo share a perfect relationship as friends we share each other's pains, sorrows secrets and we judge each other reactions we watch movies together shop together watch movies together share food stuffs together we are like two siblings rather than just friends we miss each other a lot but we never love to be away from each other. From the day my daughetr was born I felt a strange closeness towards her a special bonding and even since she has always been my best friend. As a daughter she has always advised me in matters of serious & grave concerns . She helps me always to think positively to take risks in life to stand by me & love me unconditionally . I think that is what makes your relationship special we share a special bonding that I dont share with my own mother I fully agree with your idea ....
• Philippines
11 May 07
thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. and i'll do my best to be a mother and a friend like you, and my mom as well. see you around...
@thai11 (239)
• United States
11 May 07
I think it is possible but the parent must know when to cross the "friend" line and become the parent. I was not able to establish a "friend" relationship with my parents untill I was 21 or 22!
• Philippines
12 May 07
yes because as teeners, we would like it more to be with the same age as us. specially at the age of 14-18
@lani0529 (1726)
• Philippines
11 May 07
Hello lencarlos!(",) I do agree with you, but, although you are friends with your parents you have to maintain boundary because parents have a certain role to play being the guardian of the children. As for my case, I really can't say that I'm close with my parents but, I'm happy because I can talk to them and they listen. Every relationships should have a give and take attitude for the relationship to work well.(",) Great daY!
• Philippines
12 May 07
thank you for your reply. yes there are still certain limitations, for child- parents relationship. there are still things, that we could just share with our age peer group. because there are instances that though we have friendly relationship with them, they couldnt understand us. age gap maybe, isnt it?
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
11 May 07
It`s possible if the parent is broadminded, friendly, but knows how and when not to cross the line friendhip-parenting.
• Philippines
11 May 07
yes you are right. parents and children can be friends, but of course there are still certain limitations, and rules to be followed. if not, respect would be gone. thanks for your comment.
• United States
11 May 07
yes it is possible!
• Philippines
12 May 07
then how possible it is for you? are you a friend to your parents also?