Tactless parents

@magica (3710)
Bulgaria
May 11, 2007 11:50am CST
You have a new mate and you invite him/her at home to introduce to your parents. What is their usual reaction? Are they polite or they are too ...frank and show their opinion right now? I dont know why sometimes the parents are so tactless and make us to feel uncomfortable in this situation. Yes, yes, all of them want the best for their child and etc, but do they really have the right to spoil our date and probably to hurt our girlfriend/boyfriend?
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6 responses
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
12 May 07
Hello,magica,i do not have any boyfriend now and my parents are very open minded .When i introduced my exboyfriend to my parents long times ago,they treated him like friends and not made us embarassing. I still remembered he was having dinner at my home one night, everything was going fine and my parents even thought he was a good guy, in fact he was not,lol.
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
12 May 07
I hope I have never done that to my kids. I'm always glad to have their friends over. I do tell them after the person has left though, if I didn't think that person was the type they should have as friends. But, I've been very careful about not putting my kids in situations where they would lie to me. I didn't want them sneaking around seeing someone because they'd think I'd complain.
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@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
11 May 07
When I was younger, I never brought boyfriends over to my house for dinner, because I never wanted them to meet my parents. My parents are SOOOO rude to people, and if someone is even a hair out of alignment with their beliefs, they are just incredibly rude. So much so that my husband has never met my parents. They are so exclusive and snobbish that I stopped talking to them before I met my husband. He is more important to me than anyone in the world, and if they DID ever meet him, I know they wouldn't like his beliefs, and they would be rude to him too. but it wouldn't effect our relationship at all. He knows that I am who I am and I am NOT the same as them.
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• United States
11 May 07
I am a parent, although my kids aren't to dating age yet. I try very hard not to embarrass them in front of their friends.
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• India
11 May 07
Yeah magica, My parents do exactly in most of the occassions just as you have said. They say, they are very frank even to the newcomers,and (leave alone our friends)expose of shortfalls,infront of them fitting us in tight corners.
@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
16 May 07
I do not think parents should ever come between their children and their dates. They can tell them how they feel but not interfer so much unless their date is a criminal or something like that.