How many times do you supress what you want?

@Tetchie (2933)
Australia
May 12, 2007 8:21am CST
Whether it's yelling at someone, whether it's being spontaneous, whether it's being playful in a serious environment. Do you put a lid on yourself?
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@bluewings (3857)
13 May 07
I don't supress my joy due to phobia of the society.If I like something about someone then I let them know so,but when it comes to the negative feelings I suppress them as much as I can.Those are momentary lapses ,but can cause grave injury.Inspite of the knowledge,we vent and abuse when we might actually not mean it and that causes us to repent later.So,a restrain on the negative emotions is something I welcome as the feeling subsides with time.
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
13 May 07
But what do you actually do with the negative emotions. Of course it's not good to blast someone else because of our emotions. But keeping them inside and sitting on a bonfire is not good for your own health.
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@bluewings (3857)
13 May 07
That's right.When I am saturated with pain or anger I vent,preferably not before that person.I might talk to someone else or try to convince myself into forgetting it and moving on.I watch a happy movie or chat with a friend I like.I listen to some relaxing music or drown myself in letrature so beautifully worded that the mind doesn't have space for anything else but appreciation.Though I don't do this myself , but for some people writing it down also works.In fact,who knows I might be inadvertently doing it at Mylot,lol.Inspite of all this I can't say that the suppression tactics always work.
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
13 May 07
Suppression is dangerous to peoples health. It goes against the flow of the body in essence. I don't think emotions like anger and hate have ever been dealt with properly. We all have these emotions and at a young age, especially at school, we are told it is bad and not to express them. Everyone gets into trouble when they express these two emotions. But the problem is, they exist and there has to be an arena for them. Thank goodness for sport as it's the most civilized way - except when there are lions coming at you! LOL.
@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
12 May 07
Oh lord Tetchie if I explode I explode! so I've got no choice but to put a lid on it. But with age comes wisdom and I must admit more calmness.
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@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
13 May 07
I feel the explosion comes from continual suppression in the first place. We tolerate, tolerate, tolerate instead of expressing in the first instance of tolerance what we were not happy about. That was the first time suppression occurred. Then the explosion is twisted. When my volcano erupts it creates earthquakes LOL.
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@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
13 May 07
Well I used to. I went through a phase of total non-suppression and so learned to say what I felt. The pendulum went from one side to the other and is now more balanced. Thank goodness!
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@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
14 May 07
You forgot to mention the Tsunami! lol
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@sensesfail (2251)
• India
12 May 07
Suppress? I don't got that word up my dictionary.So i dont think i'm really in a position to answer it.lol. No, there no question of suppressing things that i wanna do.I just say what i feel like saying and do what i want do.Otherwise it wouldn't be me.That way I'm genuine in who i am,cuz i say things upfront and don't bottle em inside.Besides, holding things from saying or doing actually has been proven that it ain't good for our mind.It just causes inner hurts from which people find it hard to recover from.
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@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
13 May 07
Very true, it's toxic to the mind and we get hurt more than anyone else. If that hurt bottles up and festers it will get out of control.
@mummymo (23707)
12 May 07
I try not to but I can be qite fiery with my temper sometimes and have to suppress that quick flick of temper! Other times i want to laugh, long and loud in serious situations where it would not be approproate so again I try to control myself! n the whole however I try to be myself and true to myself at all times! lol xxx
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@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
14 May 07
Laughing and dancing and singing and poll dancing for you too.
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
13 May 07
I think that it differs in different situation. In the past whenever i was angry or hurt i just shouted at the person, but now i just take time off, cool down, and does not waste any energy on those things. So you can define it as supressing it, or maybe not, because i work on getting rid of all the anger, not just supressing it and keeping it all inside. I believe there are serious situation that i surpress my laughter or silly mood, i do not know why, but usually at serious situation i always start remembering a funny joke, and i supress it. But there are alote of situations that i do not supress anything. My friends can tell you all about it. Lol.
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
13 May 07
You should get together with mummymo, she laughs in the face of adversity too! LOL. I haven't had a silly mood for ages - long overdue. I need a silly mood playground. Once I remember laughing so much I threw up, have you done that? I had just had tomato soup too - too much information there, sorry!
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
13 May 07
Don't sorry about that information..lol well i did throw up more then once because of laughing so hard, and i usually always have tears running from my eyes because i laugh so hard and my face is in the color of your tomato soap..oii:0
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@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
14 May 07
Oi, I love those times. They are precious. Wait till you get older, you can add wetting your pants to the list! HAHAHA.
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• United States
15 May 07
Hmmm. to suppress is to tolerate. Somethings I can tolerate because they are trivial. But if the need be I lay my cards out on the table. I'm not much into confortation or scenes but I might prefer the latter than bending over. In which case I would be suppressing pain from getting it in the you know what. LOL
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@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
16 May 07
Confrontation is not enjoyable and paradoxically suppression is not either. Geez, balance is a pain in the proverbial to achieve!
• Philippines
13 May 07
sometimes and it only hurt me more
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
14 May 07
That is so common lady_kanti. We must find a way for you to express so you don't get hurt anymore.
@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
13 May 07
Sometimes I will suppress things when inappropriate, or at least try to hold back until a more appropriate time. I try not to hold things inside for too long, because I found out a long time ago that if you hold your anger inside, it would eat away at you until you explode at what may be a very inappropriate time, and perhaps not even at someone who deserves it.
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
14 May 07
Hi kelly, I call it the Mt Vesuvius Syndrome. Perhaps poll dancing could help!
@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
24 May 07
Thanks for the exploding best response vote Tetchie!