What kind of relationship do you have with your kids?

Pakistan
May 12, 2007 10:22am CST
What kind of relationship should we keep with our kiDS?I am very friendly with my kids which they love but at times it becomes very difficult to disipline them.What do you guys think thah how should we raise our children?
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@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
13 May 07
Hi Sameen, I have a really healthy relationship with my children, they know they can come talk to me anytime and they do. My children are 11 and 13 and I am very open, up front, and honest with them about everything, well almost everything for there age groups anyway lol. But if there questions that need answers, I will do my best to listen and try to give some good advice. I respect my children and there ideas and they in turn respect me and my ideas... We have really great relations, my children and I. I wouldnt change it for the world...
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@pumpkinjam (6103)
• United Kingdom
13 May 07
My kids know where they stand with me. I am friendly with them but they still know I am the parent and they respect that. If they do something they shouldn't, I will tell them not to and explain why. If they do it again, I will give them 3 chances before they get a tap on the hand. Every child is different so there is no particular way to raise them. I don't treat my children the same and probably never will because what will work for one might not work for the other. Eg, I have had to punish my second child a lot more than my first because my first has always been well behaved and I only ever had to explain things once if he did something he shouldn't but with my second, he is a typical 2 year old doing exactly what he shouldn't. To be able to discipline your kids, they have to know where you stand and you have to set boundaries for them. Some people who tried to be a friend rather than a parent go to far and let the kids get away with too much because they don't want to be seen as the bad guy but the sooner your kids learn that you will only be "the bad guy" when you need to be, the sooner they will realise and they will want to behave because they'll know you and they can be happier that way.
• United Kingdom
13 May 07
Your children will respect you if you show the same to them. You should let them know that you are willing to listen and advise but don't expect them to!
• United Kingdom
13 May 07
You need to teach children by example. If you show them respect, they will do the same for you. You should be open and honest with them and be there to listen and advise but don't expect or force them to come to you. If you do the right things, they will want to come to you.
• Canada
12 May 07
Kids should be raised with love and respect. If you hit your kids then you better expect for them to hit you one day. You cannot teach a child to not hit if you are hitting them. There are other ways to discipline our children and have the respect we deserve and it also shows them that they have respect as well. As long as you can be firm and consistant then you should be ok its hard sometimes but it can be done.
• India
12 May 07
as a friend