May 12, 2007 12:39pm CST
Why must we as a society be so judgemental about each other. People judge each other on looks, status, and monitary items! Why cant we all learn to just be non critical of everyone else's faults? Why don't we turn the judgement back on ourselves or are we just a selfish society who don't care about what we do but must care about what everyone else is doing? Look at how we judge celebrities!! I know I judged Paris Hilton just a little bit ago on here... but isnt there a unwritten rule between women that we don't steal each others man?? I guess I am superfical with the rest of everyone else.... but isnt that what society teaches us from childhood up?? If your not skinny your not in? If you look different you will be teased? If your poor you have a harder time making friends? If your a criminal people will shy away from you? Innocent people being put in jail because of corrupt judges and judicial system? Corrupt officals taking payments from companies under the table!!!! Anyone agree with me or have other ideas about why the world is so judgemental??? Please let me know... I know that if things dont change this world is in trouble... for the leaders of tommrow can be brought up to be cynical and corrupt!!!
• United States
9 Jun 07
There may be several reasons why we're such a judgemental society, but I think the MAIN reason is because MOST of us don't accept OURSELVES the way we are! I don't believe u can accept ANOTHER, WHOLEHEARTEDLY, until u accept YOURSELF 1ST! I think it stems from INSECURITIES! When we judge someone ELSE's looks, money, or status, it's because we DON'T feel secure with our OWN looks, money, and status! Even people who HAVE looks, money and status, many of THEM are ALSO insecure and fearful! Some people who look "good" are afraid of LOSING their looks, or getting old, and having their looks "fade"! This is why PLASTIC SURGERY is such BIG BUSINESS! Some people with MONEY are also afraid of losing it all, so they feel like they NEVER have "enough", and they always try 2 "keep up with the jones' "! This also explains why some people will do almost ANYTHING (disregarding integrity, morals and ethics) 2 get it, no matter WHO'S "toes" they have 2 "step" on 2 do it! Some people with "status" are afraid that someone will take their "spot", so they fight "tooth and nail" 2 KEEP their position! We could go on and on with this topic! I, personally, have NEVER met a person who DOESN'T judge! I think we ALL do! It's just 2 varying degrees! I think that the MORE a person grows 2 love SELF, and ACCEPT self, the LESS they will tend 2 "judge" others! 'Cuz really, how u treat OTHERS is directly related 2 how u treat YOURSELF! When we're critical of others, it's because, DEEP DOWN, the 1 we criticize the MOST is OURSELVES! Also, the media plays a HUGE role in this, perpetuating images and standards of "beauty", and just BEING, that are extremely DIFFICULT, if not IMPOSSIBLE, 2 live up 2, 4 MOST people...INCLUDING the celebrities themselves! That's why celebrity women (and women, in general) STARVE themselves (anorexia), OR "throw up" their food (bulimia) 2 try 2 have the "perfect" body, which, according 2 HOLLYWOOD's standards, is a size 0-2, when the AVERAGE size 4 a woman, of ANY ETHNICITY, is a 12-14! And since women are judged MAINLY on their LOOKS (in this SEXIST society), women REALLY feel the pressure in this area of life! This also explains all of the stereotypical "CAT-i-ness" that women supposedly display amongst each other! MEN feel the pressure on the OTHER end, 2 make a certain amount of money, have a certain status, provide, protect, and do all of the things that a "man" is supposed 2 do! This is how a MAN is "judged", MAINLY! So, if he's naturally NOT this way, he'll judge HIMSELF negatively (if he's not at peace with himself), as society will! So, I think we have 2 get rid of all of these "standards", because there's no "1 size fits all" way 2 BE or LIVE! We need 2 APPRECIATE ALL ways of looking and being! Beauty really IS in the "eyes of the BEHOLDER"! We need 2 recognize that we're ALL EQUAL, in the "big scheme" of things! NO ONE is greater, NOR lesser, than another! We're just all DIFFERENT! We need 2 "judge" people based on their QUALITIES, not POSSESSIONS! Things come and go, and they're NOT us! But, who we are, on the INSIDE, is what is CONSTANT, throughout our lives, and what matters MOST! But, it all starts WITHIN, on an INDIVIDUAL basis! We must stop SELF-criticism of our OWN "short-comings"! Like that old song from the 80's goes, "I'm only HUMAN...BORN 2 make MISTAKES"! Once we truly LOVE and ACCEPT OURSELVES, AS IS, 100%, then that love and acceptance will NATURALLY carry over 2 OTHERS! SELF-LOVE is the KEY!
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10 Jun 07
I think we all have opinions of what is right and wrong in terms of culture, looks, race and personality. I think it is wrong to judge people as a group but to judge them as a person not by skin colour, culture, accent, ect. I think we shoudl treat otehrs with the same respect we woudl expect in return value others opinions even if we don't agree with them.l It would be a shame to dismiss people because of how they look, which team they support ect, but I have to say my freinds are from all backgrounds and I respect them all equally as they do me, they have their opinions as do I but we do not try to push those on others and there is definately a difference there.