Respect, Love, or Trust?

@kokopelli (4842)
United States
May 12, 2007 7:44pm CST
Which do you rank as No.1 ingredient for a lasting relationship?
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@samran (29)
21 May 07
Personally I will rank Love as number one because person tend to give respect and trust peoples when they love some one.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
22 Aug 07
gotcha :)
• Philippines
20 May 07
if you trust the person you will respect him or her and if you respect him or her you will love her becasue u accept him or her as who he or she are.
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
22 Aug 07
i guess you picked trust ...
• United States
14 May 07
Hmm that is hard because you can't have one without the other... in order have have true love you must beable to trust, and be trusted, and also have respect....
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
22 Aug 07
tough choices huh? ;)
@friendship (2085)
• Canada
13 May 07
I choose trust as no. 1 ingredient for a lasting relationship. Why do I make trust as the first ingredient? Because you can't make a lasting relationship without trust. Never and never. Do you want to make a lasting relationship if you don't trust someone? When you build a relationship at first, you want to do it because perhaps, you trust him/her in the first place. In other words, you will give him/her a benefit of doubt. I am talking about making a friendship here. It is a different story when talking about a love relationship. Because love is often blind. Some people still keep their relationship because of love although the other side is not a trusted person. When you trust someone, it means that you respect him/her. But someone who is respectful to you may not be a trustworthy person. So, it won't be a lasting and good relationship if you find out it later on.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
1 Jun 07
i see your point :)
• India
13 May 07
for me it is trust . trust bcoz u can not always trust the person u love but u can always love the person u trust .and u will always respect the person u trust. so trust is the building block on which every relation stands firmly
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
1 Jun 07
good one! :)
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
13 May 07
Love I think... because it contains both respect and trust. If you love somebody... You'll respect and trust him. YOu can trust anybody without loving him... like you trust the driver tyo drive the car for you... or the doctor to heal you... You can respect othere without loving him... like showing respect to your teachers, officers, priest, etc...
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
1 Jun 07
good point lucky_witch!
• United States
13 May 07
I think that love is the most important ingredient. I have been with my husband for 6 years. We have had lots of ups and downs along the way. There has been times that I completely did not respect or trust him but the love that I have for him got me through things. Don't get me wrong, respect and trust are also very important for a lasting relationship. If you don't have love for someone though, it is hard to forgive and trust and respect can be worked on.
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
1 Jun 07
you're right, if it's TRUE love, things can be worked on. lucky husband you got! :)
• Philippines
13 May 07
i think these three are connected to each other,, so it doesn`t have the best characteristics,, if really LOVE a person you also have RESPECT and TRUST to him/her.. so no need to rank it, just give it.. and you will have a lasting relationship..
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
1 Jun 07
as long as it's REAL love, i agree :)
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
13 May 07
I think that trust leads to respect and love. You have to be able to trust someone to give them respect and love. It is scary to give that much of yourself to someone, so I make sure they are worthy of such gifts before I make that decision to give them!
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
1 Jun 07
i agree that trust is the foundation of any relationship, that no one would dare do anything with someone they don't trust. but i'm not talking about the onset, i'm talking about how to make a relationship last, whether it's friendship or a love relationship. and this is where i put respect as no.1, coz i believe that as long as people respect each other, there'd be peace between them, and they can keep the relationship going. most of the time, even when there is "love" (which is the term often misused and abused) or even is someone you are with is trustworty, if he/she is rude and disrespectful, the relationship won't last. ... but i agree with you when you said it's scary to give that much of yourself to someone, we need to be careful indeed :)
@taurean83 (505)
• United States
13 May 07
I think Trust is the key ingredient for any relationship.IF trust isn't there the relationship cannot stay longer.And then comes "Respect" and then "love".Obviously if you love someone you should give her respect.If you love someone and dont treat them with respect then there is no need to say I LOVE YOU...it's meaning less.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
20 May 07
i agree that trust is very important in any kind of relationship. and it is built when people show respect for each other. it's just sad that the word love seemed to have lost its real meaning, so much that saying "i love you" has now become a mere expression.
@mohit1123 (564)
• India
13 May 07
Trust. Its way beyond anything else. Since it is the only thing on which life depends you can love as much you want but if you dont have you will always have problems that can even break a marriage. Respect would be equally important to trust. Since both of them are nearlly the same again trust edges out. So at the end of it trust is a clear winner in a lasting relationship
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
13 May 07
seems like love's at the bottom of the list :)
• United States
13 May 07
I believe that it is trust, then respect and then love. I believe when you trust a person and respect them that is the greatest for of love that you can so a person. Without trust you can not love, you can not love a person you have no respect for. You need all three for a lasting relationship but you have to have trust first.
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
13 May 07
some say Love encompasses the two others though :)
@stdrst (471)
• Bulgaria
13 May 07
On the first place is trust and after it is everything else - love and respect. If you trust somebody you can love him and respect him.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
1 Jun 07
there are trustworthy people that are not loveable because they got attitude, hehe. i.e. rude ones :)
@shareefa (34)
• Philippines
13 May 07
it will be trust,because if you trust your oartner you will not have any problems about anything, then respect,you should understand your partner then love will make both of you stronger...
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
1 Jun 07
if i trust my partner i will not have any probs abt anything? hmmm... ;)
@mymytri (2032)
• India
13 May 07
no rankings dear friend.u need all three equally for long lasting relationship.every people waits for the above three equally think.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
1 Jun 07
hard to rank i know :)
• India
13 May 07
Hi kokopelli! All are important. But if i have to pick any one of it i would pick Trust because without which a relationship has no value. When there is trust, automatically love and respect follows.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
1 Jun 07
hmmm, automatic for love and respect to follow? you got me thinking here ... :)
@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
13 May 07
I would have to say love, because if you truly love me respect & trust are a givin, if it's true love they are anyway.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
20 May 07
that's right.
@munhozmib (3853)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
13 May 07
Love first. Love is the base of a lasting relationship. After all, without love there isn't a good relationship. Secondly, I choose respect. If you respect the other person, it means you trust her. You can't respect someone in which you doesn't trust, can you? Last is Trust. Trust is inside Respect. If you have respect, you have trust. It's like if they were walking with their hands together. That's just my opinion, OK?
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
20 May 07
yes, that's your opinion and you're entitled to it :) it doesn't matter if it's not the same as mine, thanks for joining this discussion.
@chaime (1153)
• Philippines
13 May 07
all of the above I think.. You cannot love without trust, you cannot trust without respect. You need to respect your partner in order for you to trust him and you need to trust your partner to love him. Everything goes hand in hand, one cannot go without the other, if you want to have a 'lasting relationship' there is no ideal formula or one great ingredient for a lasting relationship, it's a constant battle and you have to constantly work on it.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
13 May 07
can't pick one to be no.1 huh? ;)
• Philippines
13 May 07
I guess the three comes in one package... You can't have a lasting relationship if there's only Love and Trust with no Respect... Or just Respect and Love with no Trust or Trust and Respect with no Love... right? So the three really comes in one package.. You can have a lasting relationship with someone if Love, Respect and Trust is present in your relationship..
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
13 May 07
i agree, those 3 should be present. it's the ranking that i'm asking, which one you think should be no.1.