Are You A Motivator?

United States
May 13, 2007 9:19am CST
Do you consider yourself a motivator? Are you a positive force? What would you do if you spent the entire day being up beat and positive and someone came into your life that just wanted to bring you down. They can't stand the fact that you are always so up and encouraging so they do their best to burst your bubble. How would you handle it?
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18 responses
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
13 May 07
I guess I can say I am a motivator. I like to motivate people so that they will be positive in everything they do. But if there are people who do their best to burst my bubble, I will keep quiet or try to reason with them. If that doesn't work, just walk away.
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• Philippines
13 May 07
that is right, ellie. this world needs motivators. we can see around us so many who feels down and out easily. they need someone to help them see the brighter side of life whenever problems set in. they need someone to help them see the right path when they are lost. those who try to burst our bubble, it would be best that they burst theirs. let us let them eat themselves out.
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• United States
13 May 07
Thanks to you both. It's good to know there are people out there who have the interest of others at heart. After all, we ARE our brother's keeper. Keep up the good work.
@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
13 May 07
When it comes to my job, I sure am a motivator. I'm the supervisor on all the company accounts, So I need to always bring my 100% to the job. I lead by example, & in return I get the respect of my man. My conversations have been known to motivate.
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• United States
13 May 07
men
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• United States
13 May 07
Thanks for the clarification Stiffler. I laughed until I thought I would pee my pants! PHEW! That was a good one. Thanks for your response. I loved it.
• United States
13 May 07
Nothing gets by you I see ... LOL:-)
@shinjiao (1464)
• China
14 May 07
Personanlly,I would not say "I'm fail" to the person who want to beat me down.I will try my best to be superior than the one. Another is important for me.I must know the reason why he/she wants to beat me down.If the person just envies my achievement,I think his/her action is unefficient.His/her action will not affect me at all.So if I can,I will directly tell the person to give up this stupid idea.
• United States
14 May 07
Way to go shinjiao. Stay positive. Don't give in to the negative ways of others. Thanks for you response.
@shinjiao (1464)
• China
14 May 07
Thanks for your encouragement,my friend!I will do.:)
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• United States
14 May 07
I'm on your side. Keep smilin'.
• United States
13 May 07
Well I believe I am a motivator as well as a positive force. Anyone that comes into my life or presents will also find that I am a overwhelming force to be reckoned with. I have a very aggressive personality so I would pose them a challenge. What ever negativity they bring forth to bring me down I would counter with positive reinforcement. I would try to find the root of their inner thoughts to find out why they themselves are hurting that they are lashing out at me and help them challenge their energy in a more positive direction and show them how to deal with their problems on a more positive level so that they can smile and be upbeat along with me. Nice discussion, nice to see something more on my level, some of these discussions are really killing me. I can't answer so many of them.
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• United States
13 May 07
I had to chuckle at your last line, hence the reason for my discussions. I'm trying to be a positive force. Love the response. It lets me know you know who you are. I love that kind of positive reinforcement in one's self. It's nice to be on a good level isn't it? I hope I can stay there for you.
• United States
13 May 07
I'm glad to give you a laugh but I am serious. Some of these discussion have no depth or is it just me. I know people are here to make money but I would really like to get and give discussion with more depth.
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• United States
13 May 07
It's not just you honey. I understand completely. I think the idea of post, reply, comment get in the way of too many good discussions. It's up to us to come up with thought provoking, good ones.
• Pakistan
14 May 07
I found that everyone think that their brain and thinkings are perfect. In such terrible condition there very difficult to motivate some one. People do not like advises. If we motivate them by passive or indirect way, it takes time and tricks. But as I told every one say that he is wise and perfect. In such condition I try to motivate but I leave my practice when I find myself fail.
• United States
14 May 07
While it might be true sheenshaukat, just stay positive and dont' let the negative overide. We can motivate by example too. Continue to be a positive thinker. Thanks for your response.
@aabha11 (28)
• India
14 May 07
Well,I have gone through this situation.I feel if you know the person is purposefully trying to bring you down,you must tell him through your action that it is his dream.You must be always happy,self motivator & positive thinker.And I am sure this will make him sad.
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• United States
14 May 07
Continue to be positive aabha. Thank you for your response.
@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
14 May 07
Well, for me, at times I don't really notice what I am doing. I feel that I am okay with other people and that I am always being nice with them, trying to say a lot of beautiful things and trying to motivate them whenever they have problems but then it really upsets me when they don't get to see the good side of me. That what they only see are my shortcomings. Everytime that I am going through those things in my life, I just try to see the good side of it that from that problem, I am able to learn new things again and a lesson that I have learned.
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• United States
14 May 07
Keep going in that direction joice. Don't let them bring you down. You sound like a good motivator and a good person. Continue to see the good. I'm pulling for you. Thanks for your response.
@suman76 (648)
• India
14 May 07
Yes I can say myself a posive source for others. Infact when I feel good I always share with everybody like users on net. I never give bad advice or bad path to others. My thinking is to spread all things and make good and cozy environment.
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• United States
14 May 07
Good for you suman. I applaud you. I hope you continue motivating people in a good way. Thanks for your response.
@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
14 May 07
I have tried to be this way for many days. I am my own worst enemy when it comes to destroying my own good moods. Not so much lately. But I had a conversation with my daughter trying to explain to her why I do what I do. Even though for the most part I have failed in my choosen profession, I continue to plan for and think about being successful. She has her doubts. When I come across anyone that is negative towards my plans, I don't argue. I try to briefly explain my position, and let it go at that. I know in my mind that I can be successful. I just push the negativity aside and proceed to think more positively. The best thing to do is to keep your plans and dreams to yourself for the most part. Because there is a never ending stream of people who will go out of their way to cut your dreams and you to shreads. You have to guard against this. There is far more negative energy around and it seeks you out if you have positive dreams and plans. Never, ever let anyone destroy your good intentions or steal your dreams.
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• United States
14 May 07
The best defense sigma is a positive offense. I know you will achieve your goals. Just continue to be positive. Those negative forces will leave very soon. The negative can't stand to see you be positive so just show the negative who is boss. Keep up the good work. You will succeed. Thanks for your response.
@osiwaldo (10)
• United States
14 May 07
I feel good when i inspire somenoe to keep fighting for his/her Dream. The way you can motivate people arraound you is to be motivated!, which is not easy, but by keeping thinking positive and focused on my Dream I Motivate people and I get motivated back!
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• United States
14 May 07
Your right osiwaldo. It's sometimes not easy, but we keep doing it. Thinking positive is the only way to go. Keep motivating people in a positive way. Thanks for your response and keep up the good work.
@PunkyMcPunk (1477)
• Canada
14 May 07
I think I'm pretty positive and happy, maybe even chipper. I try to get everyone else around me happy and laughing, even if it is at my own expense. But there are people out there that are just crabby. I for the most part will try to make them happy and if that doesn't work. I ignore them. That sounds bad but I'm not about to spend my life and time on people who are downers.
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• United States
14 May 07
I agree PunkyMcPunk. It doesn't sound bad. Why would you want to be around those kind of people. There is a t-shirt that says, "I didn't wake up crabby - He woke up all by himself". Stay positive and keep motivating people in a positive way. Thanks for your response.
• India
13 May 07
I try my best to remain as a motivator.I'm always positive even if one tries to bring me down .he can try anything to distract me from my kind of style but my positive vibes will cancel all his efforts .To stand like a rock in any situation & enjoy the every shade of life is mine motto.
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• United States
13 May 07
Good for you neo_matrix. Keep standing. Enjly every shade of life. Thanks for your positive response.
@sreevasu (2718)
• India
13 May 07
I myself won't say that I am a motivator. Others should say how I motivated them positively in achieving anything? But I can say that I have helped many of my friends and many of them have succeeded in their endeavors. Many of my friends told me that my words inspired them a lot and were helpful to them. So that's all about me as a 'motivator'
• United States
13 May 07
So, yes, you are a motivator. It sounds like a good one. Thanks sreevasu. I appreciate your response.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
13 May 07
Hi Terilee. I am not sure if I would call myself a motivator, but I do believe myself to be a positive force. that being said I do not ever try to change people, only they can change themselves. I have found if you ask or tell people what you see and then ask them to change it will not work. For instance you are so miserable , why do you not smile and be happy. That immediately comes across as criticism. but if you say I can see you are having a bit of a rough go right now, Is there anything I can do to help you help your self. You are possibly motivating them. I have found that most people that try to burst bubbles are in fear of you as they can not find the way to being happy. So my object is to find a way for them to get to know me so they will not fear me . And possibly they will understand the art of being upbeat and positive.
• United States
13 May 07
I would never want to change anyone. That has to come from within themselves. I agree with everything you say. Trying to stay positive and not come across as criticizing them sometimes can be difficult. I would never want to seem critical, unless I meant to be. There are times when you feel you have to be, depends on the situation. Sounds like you are a real motivator to me.
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
13 May 07
I am a motivator only for myself. I can encourage and give some good motives for some friends, but this not works for all people arround. And most time i am this one who needs to be motivated:-(
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• United States
13 May 07
It will probably never work for everyone magica. It doesn't hurt to try though and do our best to make them smile. If they see good things in us, maybe it will help them make a choice to follow our lead.
• Philippines
13 May 07
i would still talk to those people and act as though i do not have any idea as to what they are up to. i will still be the motivator that i am no matter what. i have always experienced that no matter how much good i do for others, there are always others out there who are determined to get me down. in fact, there was this woman who keeps running to me for help who backbites me a lot. i just pretend that i don't know what she's up to and kept on helping her out with her troubles.
• United States
13 May 07
Way to go trinidadvelasco. She's probably very lucky to have you in her life. You will most likely be a good example to her sooner or later. Keep up the good work.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
15 May 07
I am not a motivator. Motivation cannot always come from outside and it is for this reason that seldom anyone can motivate anyone else. The motivation has to come from within. Can't help it if someone is trying to burst my bubble. Just stay calm and quiet. This enable me to manage my thoughts better.
@usernel (32)
• Philippines
15 May 07
I do not consider myself as a motivator but i consider myself as a model of positive attritubutes to my friends and my family.