I got Married at the age of 21, what about you?

India
May 14, 2007 12:07am CST
I got married at the age of 21. When i look back i can see for myself that i was so immature then. When did you get married/plan to get married? What do you think is the ideal age for marriage?
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19 responses
• India
10 Aug 07
dear, I am willing to get marry at 30..If I feel to marry.. As marriage is nothing but to take take resposibilities of multiples and if You are Social by nature then you may get busy and you can remain social..Rather partner will not allow to become Social.. So best way I feel is To get Ecnomically settle then to go here and to achive mental stages,power,, Being Spiritual, I am willing to achive something, And I knew that no girl can be Spiritual..So I plan to get marry late..
• India
10 Aug 07
Hmm!! It is nice that you have a plan and clear idea as to who should be your partner. But don't u think a mental compatability is more important than spirituality. Thanks for your response.
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• India
10 Aug 07
thats why I said na ki Girls are nor spiritual so i can achive good stage in it before marriage..that u dont get my point..
• India
15 Aug 07
well im sure u will be a granny by the time ur 50,early marriage means early child means everything early,thigs becum so fast..im 21 rt now and not matured enugh to take responsiblities....so marying early isnt best thing..ppl r now more career conscious these days..girls wanna get good jobs n becum financially stable rather than getting married n settling quickly,things r changing
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
15 May 07
I got married at 16 and it was a nightmare. I was still a kid and he was abusive. It lasted 6 months...although I didn't get a divorce for till 20 years later (it kept me from making the same mistake again). Last year I got the divorce and got remarried to a wonderful man I've been with for the last 6 years. Personally, I think ppl rush into marriage too quick and aren't ready for it. LIVE IN PEACE
• India
17 May 07
HI twoey68! I am sorry to hear about your first marriage. I am also happy to know that now after 20 yrs you have found your happiness. I too got into an impulsive marriage against the wishes of my parents at the age of 21 (i realised that i have made a mistake within 3 months) only to walk out of him after 14 years! Thanks for responding to the discussion.
@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
14 May 07
I got married when I was 27...it is a good age I think...we have been together for almost 20 years...
• India
14 May 07
Hi tinamwhite! I think that 27 is an okay age for marriage. I am happy that you have a good marriage. Thanks for expressing your views here.
@CEN7777 (855)
• India
15 Aug 07
Hi friends, u will be surprised to hear that I got married when I was in eighth standard, my age is 14,and my wifes age is 12,In our rural areas we usual get married early, as it is belived there that a girl should go to his inlaws house before her Mensus gets strted thats-why at old times girls get married before 15yrs of age. Well I live in bhopal,my engagement is done just 2 yrs before marriage, but I have different reason for early marriage.My wife is the youngest daughter in her family and she was only unmarried there. My mother inlaw has some problem may be something similar to blood cancer which was never diagonsed by doctors, and she was not getting cured. Thats why they insisted for marriage and my parents can't refuse it. In my view ideal age for marrige is 23-27 yrs as at this age u start looking for somefriends and feel to have a god partner for life long and this is the correct age where u can mold ur self or any body can set a life format at this age. If it is too late than it is difficult to adjust ur self with others. u can sacrifice but howlong. U find it difficult to get involved in life.
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@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
15 Aug 07
To me there is no ideal age for marriage. Just look around us and you will see what is happening the kingdom of marriages. I read in our Daily Gleaner here in Jamaica once where a couple that was married for 40 years decided to get a divorce. Her excuse was that she stayed because of the children and his was the same. I am not staying in anything that is uncomfortable and does not allow me to be me! Me? I dont hoenstly know if there is an ideal age for marriage because in Jamaica inteh age of consent is 18 years and yet some people are not matured to handle marriage at the age and it goes the other way too. I guess it all depends on the level of maturity of both parties. People should get to know each other before taking that step though although I believe you can never reall know a person. Just when you think you figured out something another thing shows up but compromise and good communication is a good start. I am still waiting for my prince to come along or maybe he came and becaue I am so choosy he just left. I dotn know but I beleive I am ready to marry now. I am mature enough and getting maybe too old now too.
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@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
14 May 07
I got married when I was 27. I think the age doesn't really matter when it comes to marriage, it depends on the maturity of both parties and also the relationship. When I got married, I think both of us were really ready for a marriage. Our relationship is stable, and both of us are financial independent. Of coz, it doesn't mean when you got married at young age, you can't maintain the relationship well. It's all by learning through along the way.
• India
14 May 07
Hi kaka135! I am happy to know that you have a good marriage. It is very important these days that both husband and wife should be earning. Thanks for responding to my discussion.
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@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
14 May 07
I got married when I was 22 and my husband was 20. We were both ready. I don't think there is an ideal age for marriage. I just think that both people need to be ready for it. When we got married, I was already done with cosmetology school. My husband had already decided that he was going to be career Air Force, so we already had all that out of the way. I was never a partier, and he wasn't either. We had both been out on our own, and know how to handle finances. We've been married 2 years now. We have a 15 month old. I stay at home, and we are still able to keep our finances and everything under control. We're happy together. And I don't think we were at all too young.
• India
14 May 07
Hi caralaabt! I am happy to know that you have a good marriage. Yes, it is very important that the couple should be ready for marriage. I appreciate you taking the time to respond to my discussion.
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@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
14 May 07
im not yet married, and for me its ourself you will determine the right age to get married. it doesnt matter if we married young or old, what is important is that we are ready for the consequences.
• India
14 May 07
Hi djmarion! You are absolutely right about that one should be ready to handle the consequences of the marriage. Maturity is very important here. Thanks for responding to my discussion.
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@Anakata2007 (1785)
• Canada
14 May 07
I got married when I was 35. A bit late, but I always thought the best time to get married is after 30. In this day and age, people are just too immature until then.
• India
14 May 07
Hi Anakata! Maturity is very important in marriage. I too personally think that 30-35 is the ideal age for marriage because i gets settled in life by then. Thanks for responding to my discussion.
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@nathanye (196)
• China
14 May 07
wow,i was still in the college when i was 21,and totally had no idea of what marriage like.and i cannot tell the exact age when i will get married.it is a little unpredictable.but i can be sure that i won't get married until i have enough money and a firm love-ship.
• India
14 May 07
Hi nathanye! It is nice that you want to get married after you make enough money. As far as the education part is concerned i had to study after getting married and i do not think i did justice to studies. Thanks for responding to the discussion.
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@allbert (88)
• China
14 May 07
Maybe 28,is it too late?I think so,but I have to complete my study untill 26,I think finding a wife can take me two years,do you agree?
• India
14 May 07
Hi allbert! I do not think it is too late . Infact i think 28 would be ideal and that you would be able to settle in life by then. Thanks for expressing your views here.
@sallyxu126 (1184)
• China
14 May 07
get married - get married at the right time, then you can get more happiness.
I think I will get married on 26 or 27. then I will be ready for marriage. I think you might get married a little early . but every coin has two side, you can enjoy your life might in that way. hope you have a good luck with your marriage.
• India
14 May 07
Hi sallyxu126! I got married at 21. I would be 37 tomorrow. I think 26-27 is a good age for marriage as girls become mature by then. Thanks for responding to my discussion.
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• India
14 May 07
I'm not yet married and have plans to marry when I get settled in life i.e. after studies for sure ! More than age, it is experience that counts ! One should get a feel of life and should understand how things work. And moreover, one should be mentally prepared for the marriage and should think over whether they really want it at that age or not.
• India
14 May 07
Hi tipsntricks! It is nice that you want to marry only after getting settled in life. I too think that one should be mentally prepared to handle the responsibilities which comes along with the marriage. I appreciate you taking the time to respond to my discussion.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
15 Aug 07
I got married when i was 20. we celebrated our 6th anniversary this july. i don't really think there is an "ideal" age for marriage. some people get married when they are young and get divorced soon after, some make it a long time. but there are just as many that wait till they are older to get married and still end up getting divorced. so i don't think its your age that matters, but more your level of commitment to the marriage and making it work.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
14 May 07
I got married at the age of 31. I was so ready by then to settle down and raise a family. I think it was the right time for me as I was always a late bloomer when it came to boyfriends and relationships. I think I had done all that I wanted to do in life and this was the next step and it has worked out fine for me and my little family.
• India
14 May 07
Hi maddysmommy! I am happy to know that you have a good marriage. In India 30 is a little too late for girls so you would find very few unmarried girls of that age. Thanks for taking the time to respond to my discussion.
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• India
14 May 07
i supose .... i will get married when i m ready for that. but i suggest the ideal age between 23 to 28.
• India
14 May 07
Hi ashishvrm86! Thanks for responding to my discussion. I think the ideal age for marriage is when i is ready to handle responsibilities, don't you think? Have a nice day!
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@senthil2k (1500)
• India
15 Aug 07
I think the age you got married is the right age for the Girls to get married. For the Men, I think the age above 26-27 is the best age for getting married. These are the ages at which the maturity levels of the Man and the Woman will match, so that they can understand each other better and lead a good and smart life.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
15 Aug 07
I planned to never get married. Most of the men in my area are drunks. Better to be married to no one than to be married to a drunk. I got married at 42 years of age. Found a great non-drinker. That was like finding a needle in a haystack! Ideally? Depends on what you want from a marriage. If you want kids, late 20s, early 30s. If you want companionship and someone to grow old with. The age I got married is just fine.