At what point did you decide that you're old?

@filmbuff (2909)
United States
May 14, 2007 3:27am CST
I feel old, I'll admit it. I'm missing some hair not to mention energy and how come all my favorite music is now on VH1? I watched the very first broadcast of MTV don't you know. They Played "Video Killed the Raido Star," and followed it up with "Rebel Yell." Sadly, I feel none the wiser and quite often just as bewildered as I did then. So when did you realize that you were old?
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• United States
14 May 07
from my experience, people who are under 70 that think their old, end up thinking they were foolish to feel that way once they get way up there. There are alot of advantages to getting older and gray hair is a crown, plus a sign of wisdom!
• United States
14 May 07
I told my grandfather that I'm starting to feel old because my kids are getting older. He laughed and said you aren't officially old until your kids are ordering from the senior citizen menu. LOL
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
15 May 07
I've noticed that also, that older people keep saying to the younger, "you're not older, wait until xxx," but I have to wonder if this is self-delusion. At 60 you may not be as old as someone who is 70, but I pretty much guarantee that a 25 year old beat you in anything physical and are more "in touch" with the world and current issues of the world, including technology and the way things work in society. My view may be biased because I'm not that old, but these are questions that I wonder, because I see how I'm starting to feel a step or two behind those who are 10-15 years younger than me.
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• United States
15 May 07
Thats probably true, but I guess the point is that you could beat yourself up over getting older, but doing so might keep you from enjoying the different stages of our lives, and also that as we get older, we gain new wisdom and we begin to regret beating ourselves up over things while we were younger, that seem rediculous now.
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• Singapore
14 May 07
You are only as old as you feel. I dun really think age has anything to do with it. While it's true that as you age, your body becomes weaker but your mind should be filled with a greater desire to experience life.
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
14 May 07
Interesting view sunslinger, one that I have to admit has me a bit puzzled. Why should "your mind be filled with a greater desire to experience life?" Seriously, when a person is older they have *already* experienced the best things in life...now it's downhill.
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• Singapore
15 May 07
When you're young, your dedication is geared towards the more mundane such as completing college, getting that job, buying that house, getting married. Do you get the chance to really smell the flowers? It is only when you are at the peak of your life, around 40s or 50s that you have actually accomplished all these and finally have time to savor the finer things in life. Hence, a greater desire to experience life. You've heard of grandfathers doing the sky-dive or grandmothers going for that male stripper show. You're finally un-burdening yourselves from the mundane responsibilities so that you finally understand that life's a journey, not a destination.
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
15 May 07
I see your point, thanks for enlightening me. What you're saying does have merrit.
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@wolves69 (756)
• United States
14 May 07
Are you sure the second song was Rebel Yell...According to Wikipedia, it was a Pat Benatar Song: You Better Run...Funny, I always thought it was Billy Squire The Stroke....Oh well... I must be around the same age as you...Mentally, I don't feel old, but I have been going grey for the last 10 years...LOL about the same time I got married...
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
14 May 07
It's funny how memory changes thing, yet another sign that I'm rapidly becoming an old fogey! I just scoured the net and and everyone agrees that "You Better Run" was the second song played on MTV at launch. I was there, I watched it, so I still didn't believe. So off I go to Billy Idol's website. I go to check out his video's and bam. His first video was "White Wedding" in 1982, his second was "Rebel Yell" in 1984. Amazing how time blurs like that. Mentally I kinda feel old, more tired than old. You definetly have me beat on grey hair, I don't have any that I've found. Which means tomorrow I'll notice about 50. Haha marriage will do it to you, I let that ship sink early. Thanks for posting and correcting me wolves69.
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@wolves69 (756)
• United States
16 May 07
I don't consider it correcting, as long as something is learned... If heredity plays a part, the good thing is I know I won't go bald. My Dad has a full set of hair (it changed color naturally at least three times though), both Grandfathers had full heads also. It is amazing how the memory plays tricks on you. For years I stated the second song was the Stroke. Like you, I was over a friends house and watched to event. Wishful thinking maybe? Your mind interprets what you expect to see and hear, not what's actually there.
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@psyche49f (2511)
• Philippines
14 May 07
I realized I am old when I grow more gray hairs instead of black. On top of that, I noted the change in my body strength, I am not the same again. I get tired easily; I would rather sleep early than stay up late. Looking at the mirror, I see tiny lines on my face; I can't sleep when drinking cola drinks, unlike younger people who seem not to be affected. Well, of course, my two kids are already grown-ups, in fact, they are already professionals, a signal that I am no longer getting any younger. On top of these, my taste for music and leisure is no longer the same with the younger generation.
@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
14 May 07
Having grown children I'm sure would definetly do it, the gray hairs don't help either. I would still rather stay up late and in sleep in late then go to bed early, so maybe there is still hope for me. Music is the big one, foshizzle. (haha I can't believe I just typed that) Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts psych49f.
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• United States
14 May 07
I think I started feeling older when the clients started tellin us what year their parents were born in. Most of the client's parents are my age. That kind of scares me. Also all the music I like the clients tell me is old fogey music.
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
14 May 07
I can so relate to that. One of the clues for me that I was getting old is when I realized that most of my friends my age had teenage, or nearly grown kids. That bothers me, still. Thanks so much for posting luintaurien.
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• United States
14 May 07
After I turned 30 I started to fall apart, I had to have gall bladder surgery, then next came back surgery. I did have a surprise pregnancy in there, but being pregnant in my 30's was so much more difficult than the first 2 in my 20's. I also found my first gray hairs in my 30's, I began to see the effects of gravity on my body, such as body parts not being where they once was. Now in my 40's those differences are even more apparent. I will not regal you with the trials and tribulations of what is natural to a woman every month however. And oh yes the music, all of the music I love is now classified as classic, so I guess I am beginning to be come an antique along with it. So for me my dear Filmbuff what I once thought of as my immortal life became oh so clearly mortal in my 30's.
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
15 May 07
A very interesting point that you raise here about "feeling mortal" in your 30's. I'm starting to think that may be why I feel so darn old. I started falling apart much sooner than most as I was in a pretty bad car accident when I was 17. I learned then (and am still feeling the physical effects from it) that I was not immortal, and would surely die...painfully. Hate to leave this post on such a downer, so for a good laugh check out http://www.amishdonkey.com/whatever.php Thanks for posting Angelwhispers.
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• United States
16 May 07
You do know how to make an "old" Girl laugh :))
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
16 May 07
I just love that.
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@gaby_girl (157)
• Canada
17 May 07
Ive felt old since I was eighteen. Im 21 now, and im feeling slightly ancient. I know its ridiculous, I know. But I just dont feel youthful. I really think that my youth was all in my teens and when I was younger. Im really scared about getting older.
@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
17 May 07
Oh don't worry Gabygirl I think most of us felt that way around your age. Getting older isn't so bad and you sometimes can even have more fun than you use to as you get older
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
17 May 07
You're just now hitting the "fun" ages, where it becomes legal to drink, gamble and otherwise live as an adult. Do what you want, where and when you want, with whom you want. 21 is a great age, all the good things are yet to come.
• Philippines
15 May 07
I felt old a few weeks back when a friend of mine from college emailed and told me he is finishing up his masteral degree this May. I realized i should have enrolled myself a few years ago, at this age, i feel i was kind of left out. Not really old but i felt i should have made things done by now yet i'm still here. Before he emailed me, my mind still thinks the "i just graduated from college" thing. But after reading his email inviting me to join his little party, i realized that i missed a lot of days doing nothing. I know i can still make up so i planned to enroll this semester, but i just hope i did it earlier, and now a feel a little old knowing that my former classmate is already graduating yet im just starting. Wish me luck!
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
16 May 07
I know you feel palace_girl. I waited until later in life to go to college, and have left and returned a couple times since then. I was surrounded by people much younger than me and that did make me feel old. I did however notice that I seemed to do better than most in school and I got a lot more out of it as our priorities were much different. I wanted to learn, they wanted a degree/career/spouse.
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• United States
14 May 07
It started on my thirtieth birthday. I cried. My next "milestone" birthday will make it official. I'll officially be "old." These "highlights" in my hair aren't helping anything either, but yeah, the music thing really does it for me. What passes for music today is often crap and I remember my parents saying similar things. I've turned into my mother!
@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
15 May 07
Thirty is when it started happening for me too, so don't feel alone there. I so know what you mean about music. I can handle some of the current popular music, but it just doesn't seem to anywhere near as good as the music of my youth. Too watered down, too commericial, too pointless.
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
16 May 07
How about the facyt I just had another b-day a couple of days ago. Or the fact that my kids tell me that I am getting old all the time. Now it takes me a day to recover from a night of serious drinking, where as before I could do it all over again the next night
• United States
16 May 07
LMAO ahhh yes you know you are getting old when the hang overs hang around :)) Yep I remember the days I could work all day, party and dance all night then get up and just do it all over again the very next day:)) Oh boy those were the days my friend.
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
16 May 07
Oh how I miss those days :( The last time I went dancing my legs hurt for days lol
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
16 May 07
Wow, I should test that theory and find out just how old I am. I haven't been hung over in at least 10 years..
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@laridbz (1287)
• China
14 May 07
It's a tough question to be answered by a girl. I'm 22 and I think the greatest fear I have is getting old. I still don't feel old, but I'm pretty sure it won't take too long.
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
15 May 07
I think you're safe as far as being old anytime soon laradbz. You are right though, the older you get the faster time passes. Weeks melt into months and years and one day you get out of the shower, look into the mirror and think you see your Mother or Father (whatever the case may be) stareing back at you. Thanks for commenting!
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