How are your friendships now as an adult as opposed to when you were kids?

@mamasan34 (6521)
United States
May 14, 2007 8:25am CST
How are your friendships different now than they were when you were a child? Do you see any differences? I know as for me I am much more cautious as to who I offer a hand of friendship to. How about you?
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• Philippines
14 May 07
I see a huge difference. When I was young in my toddler years~~lol, I think friendship was more viewed like a sort of possesion. And the endless fights on who is the bestfriend of who, and if you are angry with them, your friends have to do the same.~~lol In my teens, I think friendship was more about popularity. Who has the more friends is more known. I must admit I tried to have so many friends. But I finally realized the key is not in the numbers, but on whom you can count on and who consider you a true friend. Now as an adult, as you said too, I'm more cautious. I make friends easily but I also try to protect my heart from the pains I might have. Because, friendship is sometimes used as a medium for abuses. And I have learned too as an adult, that friends are also humans. I mean you may put them on a pedestal sometimes. But they also have mistakes and flaws. And if you can accept it, help him/her to change for the better, or you can work tru it. The rewards of a true friendship is just around the corner. And this bond will last longer, if you can also add respect and loyalty. So now, friendship for me is more based on constructive values, not anymore on popularity and possesiveness. Have a great day Mamasan! Happy mother's day!(^^,)
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
14 May 07
I really like the way you described the phases of friendship from childhood to adulthood. You are so right about it. We do do those things as we progress through life. Thanks so much for your comment and I hope you have a wonderful day!
• Singapore
14 May 07
Childhood friends has definitely changed throughout the years. Best friends can become good friends while good friends can become strangers or totally lost in the sea of change. It's sad yet it's understandable. Nobody stays the same. That's the beauty of life. It has so much to offer to those who grab all its opportunities and waits for no one. Should you choose to stay by the sidelines, you will get passed and you will lose touch with your friends.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
14 May 07
This is true. we all change. I know that who I considered my best friends in life we have drifted apart and moved on to different lives. While I still care for them, I don't feel close like I used to with them. We all change as time goes on and we either pass up opportunities or grasp them before they pass us by. Take care and thanks for commenting!
@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
14 May 07
I am still friends with alot of my childhood friends. I am more careful about making friends no days since I was badly hurt by someone who was supposed to be my best friend. I make most of my new friends at our Church.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
14 May 07
Church is a great place to make friends, my parents always told me to make friends of like minds and hearts. So, that would be the place to do it. I definitely have been hurt many times in the past by extending the hand of friendship to someone who conned me or took advantage of me over a period of time. I too am very cautious these days!