why teenagers have so many EX ?

@dianagnes (1088)
Singapore
May 14, 2007 2:03pm CST
Teenagers or the young adults have got into relationship and they tend to break up easily.I dont like this such things.I heard a lot and know from friends.I think they people are just playing and not into real relationships.Some have more than ten EX.i think they like to show off that they have a bf or gf.Some are also jealous because they dont have one,And would like to challenge with their friends that they have.For me, those who are sixteen years and below and have a bf or gf..meaning they are so mentel or the type that feel like to be love by someone special.That was just a fake love. I salute to those who dont like to be in a relationship during their teenage years.I think if someone are serious into this matter,then they can have one.
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22 responses
• United States
14 May 07
I started dating when I was fourteen and my relationships were hardly short ones. I had a tendency to stay in a relationship for a while. In high school, I had 3 long relationships and only one of the breakups was petty. One guy ended up in jail over something stupid, the second broke up with me over an argument our parents had, and the third cheated on me our senior year. I did learn something from these relationships. I learned what not to look for in a guy. That was an extremely beneficial thing being that when I met my husband over seven years ago at the age of nineteen, he was everything these guys weren't. Now, we'll be married five years this summer and he has still proven to be a jewel in my life. I think young relationships give us learning experiences in life. We have to make bad decisions in our younger years to learn from them. If we didn't make bad decisions and mistakes, what do we learn from?
@jogie_bien (1103)
• Philippines
15 May 07
teenager is easily for them to break up, because for them its only fling.They did not feel yet the real meaningof loved, their feeling is only crush, that when they find its pretty for them, than they have to court immdiately.they are easily attracted and sometimes not realising what is their realiyy intentions.
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
15 May 07
I disagree here! Teens can be in love you know. What makes you think they are not capable of love?
@oldiebut (859)
• Canada
14 May 07
The very basic truth about teenagers is that they manke lousy decisions. It's part of the ritual of being a teenager. They are entering into many social realms for the first time and have little more than the latest sit-com on which to base their actions. It is pretty difficult to take the decisions of a teen too seriously, they will rarely last in adulthood.
• Japan
15 May 07
That's like saying a baby is very bad at walking. Its not because they make lousy decisions. Its more to do with learning who you are. Teenagers get into relationships to learn how to deal with them. By the time they are adults they've learnt from the mistakes they have made and are ready to have serious relations.
• Philippines
15 May 07
Some teenagers do those things just to show off, but that wouldn't drive me to misjudge others who fall in love for real and get hurt. I do believe that people develop much fruitful happy relationships as they grow older based on what they had experienced in their past relationships. There's nothing wrong with having relationships at an early age because it develops us mentally and emotionally through exposures to both the happiness and the difficulties of being in a relationship. True, some teenagers do it for fun, or to keep their options open, or to brag. But not all teenagers get into relationships because of such trivial things - some do indeed fall in love.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
15 May 07
I think that the teenage years are a good time to have relationships that are not as serious. It's a good way for them to learn while still having their parents around to sort of limit, support, and give advice. Obviously it would be bad if it interefered with school, or got too serious, but a lot of teenage relationships are just kids trying out the whole boyfriend/girlfriend idea. Most of the teens I know are pretty levelheaded, so their relationships consist of things like going to the movies (heeheee with their parents in another theatre or with a group of friends) and talking on the phone. I think the only harm is to their cell phone bills. There's nothing wrong with 'fake love'. Kids don't know whether what they're feeling is 'fake' or not, how are they supposed to know if they have nothing to compare it to?
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
15 May 07
In high school, dating has been replaced with random hookups that in turn result in meaningless relationships. Young girls feel a need to have a boyfriend. They are unable to be independent. You are correct when you say that most of relationships now a days is a social status thing. Most of the teen relationships today appears to be rebound relationships as well. Teen girls shouldn’t be in such a rush to grow up. These are the years that they should be enjoying life, because one day they are going to wake up and look back on their teen years with regret.
@kajal28 (83)
15 May 07
teenagers jst want to be loved n need to be special for sum1 n they search for the right person so they hav so many ex..
@evelynlyp (788)
• Japan
15 May 07
People are not born to be perfect. You got to learn from past mistakes to help you do better when you are faced with the same situation. Teenagers are at a age where they are starting to learn about relationships. Some teens are better at handling relationships than other teens. Not everyone get it right the first time. You can't accuse all teenagers who date as being not serious in their relationships. I will agree that some aren't serious but majority are serious. They have breakups because they get into a relationship and then it doesn't work out. Also you got to remember that during the teenage years the personality are still changing. It could be that these teengagers stop preferring their boyfriend or girlfriends because their taste has changed (prefers someone more mature or more kind or more loyal or more attentive, etc). Your personality starts becoming fixed when you have reached adulthood. You will find that those adults who had a few relationships before are more mature at handling their new relationships. I have know some couples who have been with the same partner since they were 13 and have ended up married for many years. Your friends maybe the ones that need a few more tries before they found their "perfect" partner. Hence I will disagree with you and say that you should feel free to date if you choose to while you are a teenager. " some are also jealous because they don't have one " Everyone wants to be loved. There is nothing wrong with wanting it. Those people are jealous because they are envious and they themselves wants to experience the joy of being in love and having someone who loves you. "if someone are serious into this matter, then they can have one." It would be good if this can happen. They'll be more chance in finding a person who is potentially promising. However cheaters and users will always be around. Which brings me back to the point why I support dating. Teenagers cause less harm than adults. It is safer to learn something from dating a teenager than an adult man/woman. This is because adults that you meet have the chance to perfect their "cheating" skills (if they are a cheater). It would be very unfortunate if you are new into the dating world and the first person you hooked up with is an experienced cheater. Now if you were to have dated a few times you are more capable of handling cheaters and less likely to be fooled.
15 May 07
Wow! I'm afraid I was on eof those thta had loads of ex's between the ages of fourteen and seventeen! I look bac kon those innocent encounters with such fondeness. The most we ever did was a quick kiss and hold hands. It is a great way to learn about boys and relaionships. There is a whole side of life that you begin to discover when seeing boys! Ok if a teenager was sleeping with every partner they had then I would be concerned. But I honestly think it's all part of the growing up process.
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
15 May 07
well, it shows how young, innocent and naive they are... they have lotsa ex coz they dun take the relationship seriously... to them, its just like ppl have i also wanna have tt kind of thingy... but im sure as they grow up, they will learn... though some only realised it at a older age...
@bukiebluz (153)
• Nigeria
15 May 07
Teenagers tend to have many EX due to some personal reasons.Firstly,some teenagers are emotionally unstable in the sence that they tend to go into every relationship at any given chance .Some of them lack love especially parental care and seek such love somewhere else which they end up being with guys.Unfortunately,when such a guy does not give the girl the required love,she breaks up and seeks someone else.Another reason could be a result of high temper.One of the party could be a person that gets angry easily and when arguments occur,and neither of them apologizes due to pridethey then break-up on the grounds that they aren't compatible.this are some of the reasons.Its nots totally thier fault.
@shermz (1)
• Philippines
15 May 07
i did honestly been to those activity.. having more than 1 relationship and sometimes i do it at a time. i dont know what its on my mind, I have a lit'l sister and everytime I'm having a relationship or afare.. I'M JST ASKING MYSELF WHAT IF IT'L EVEN HAPPEN TO HER. for me having more ex doesnt mean i'm not satisfied or i dont just like my partner... its a matter of choice or choosing. but if anyone ot there who can help me or give advice, please dont hesitate to do so. god bless
• United States
15 May 07
Times is changing and one have to get use to it. If it is right or wrong, nobody will know. Today relationships is about socializing and never very serious. I believe this so-called ex this and ex that is a figure of speach. Relationships in morden societies is like the weather, it come and go. I think relationships is important, it develop social skills. Teenagers and youngsters make foolish decsions and sometimes tha braeking up with a friend is just temporary, sometimes it is more serious. But live go on and you can be sure that neither party suffer. For kid below sixteen, maybe it is just fake love, but also a critical part of the evolvement of human kind. Looking at your letter it is possible that you feel a bit sad, due to the fact that you cannot get someone to breakup with that you can have a EX as well. You should not worry about other peoples lives but focus on your own, if you think it is wrong, then it is your view.
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
15 May 07
Well this is your point of view..!! But what I think is that in your teenage guys and gals are not that well matured to have that serious relationships...!! So they learn from their mistakes..!! Its no problem in having number Ex(s)..!!But what the bigger problem is getting married to wrong guy!!! So to save your self from falling in the pit better get a little bit maturity from your experiences!! lol!! AS you are talking about your the "fake love" ...people get lots of problem in finding the "real love"..!! And also its not necessary that every teenage love is a fake love..!! I do know many people who who are in relationship for 13 years since their teens and now are happily married!! Actually it take a lot to find your "true love" so keeping trying is my slogan...lol
@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
15 May 07
we call it here puppy love. I think that at the teenages they really dont know what love is yet. It is sad at times because when they get older and really fall in love with someone and then comes the break up it will hit them harder then just having a crush on someone and then saying oh! that is my ex. As I watch my BF two girls walk around saying thats my boyfriend I just keep thinking that the real love that hurts is soon to follow.
• United States
15 May 07
I do agree with you. There are a lot of teenagers out there that have lots of bf or gf. I was a guilty one on that as well. It actually made me see the different type of guys that are there and how much they can lie and tell you stories and it made me realize what I really wanted in a guy and I do have everything I wanted in a guy and we are married now. This too can be why so many teenagers are getting pregnant or becoming fathers before they should be. A lot of them also think they should get married right away. That is why divorce is so high in the country. I think that you should be certain and mature enough to realize what you want. Plus a lot of teenagers think just because they talk everyday and go out once a week they are bf and gf and don't take the relationship seriously.
• India
15 May 07
cuz that is the age to get in love and break up lol
• Philippines
15 May 07
As they say, teenage life is the most crusial stage because during this stage teenager experience several changes in their phase of life,not just physical but all aspect,there comes peer pressure,parents rebellion,identity crisis and the stuff.Thus,no wonder during this stage lots of teenager is hopping from one relationship to the other because they just want to have to it & feel that they belong especailly if their friends are into it,thus most of the time it always resulted to break up,and another relationship again.Most teenager are not into that reltionship because they love the person but just because for the sake of having one,its just a fling or brief love affair. That's why for me, i don't engage myself to a relationship which i dont feel im sure off,before hopping to one relaionship to the other one must be sure thta she/he is over with the previous one because its the same thing,you can never find a better relationship not unless your over with your life set backs.
@jiang221 (38)
• China
15 May 07
I agree with you. teenagers want do the thing like audit.although most time they have worry idea. when they grow up. they will know more about life.
@Aspenn (30)
• United States
14 May 07
Being a young adult is all about making mistakes and learning. Our lives are based on the social and romatic relationships around us. As a teenager, relationships are testing grounds to learn the in's and out's of the do's and don'ts. It forms who you are and who you will become. It allows you the avenues to make mistakes and then analyze them. Even if it takes years to understand something, it has a purpose, it always has a purpose. Everything we undergo as a teenager is a learning experience that shapes and forms our thoughts and opinions and who we become as an adult. If these mistakes are not made when we are children where they will not affect us too terribly, the mistakes will be made as adults. Making some of these mistakes as adults could cause great emotional harm to many.