For or against giving first priority to economic status in choosing a spouse?

China
May 14, 2007 9:46pm CST
Nowadys,some young people consider economic status the most important factor when choose a spouse.They think money can bring everything they want,like a big apartment,a car,or trip abroad.However,can these material things really ensure happiness? But we all know how important money is,without money we can hardly do anything.Lack of money in a marriage will cause problems to the couple.Even though the couple may have married for love ,being always hard-pressed for money,Love will soon be replaced by quarrels and endless worries over money matters.If this happens,can they live happily together?
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@yanjiaren (9050)
16 May 07
I am against just looking for financial wealth in a partner. I got divirced at the age of 39 from a very unhappy marriage and I decided to leave the marriage with nothing. I met a man in the U.S who we have a spiritual marriage with but waiting to get enough money to get legally married and get visas to live together. He is a Canadian Chinese and I am a British Greek. He is not wealthy, living in one room in New York and he always says to me, why I don't go for a wealthier local guy. I say to him that one cannot find diamonds every day on the street and that I am not for sale. I don't have a price tag. Like the jade of Loa Zi, I am priceless. If I go and look for a man for his money, then I am making myself cheap and putting a price on my head. Ofcourse we need money but as long as two people can get on with likeminded ideals and are NOT LAZY, then everything and anything is possible. What better way to build a life together if we both work hard to make our dreams come true?
• China
18 May 07
I agree with you that we don't marry for money or sell ourselves for money. When I said take financial factor into consideration, I did not mean you should see how much the person you want to marry has already owned, we should at least see or predict whether he/she has the ability to earn money. Everybody should have owned a certain skill or know one way or another to earn money. Even a pair of true lovers would not live on nothing but love, which will last not long without the financial support. If you are sure that you can forever be the supporter of the family, then, you don't have to consider the would-be spouse ability to earn just like some millionares who always just marry for beauty of their lovers.
@easyzheng (666)
• China
16 May 07
I would have given a negative anwer to this question if asked years ago. but now, my living experience taught me that economy always stands first in the marriage life no matter how deeply you used to love each other. In your daily marriage life, you'll gradually find that nearly everything is connected with money. I have witnessed several married couples used to give up everything in the world for their love breaking down for financial problem. So I don't mean that you should put economic status in the first place, at least you should take it into your serious consideration if you want to decide on a relationship.
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• Philippines
16 May 07
the couple who is very much in love will just have to be practical. while they are nursing their love for each other, they will work towards their financial stability. saving and furthering their careers in preparation for the marriage plans. this will ensure them a stable married life. then plan to have only one or two kids. this way, life will never be that difficult to handle. it is so much more difficult to get married just because of economic considerations. love for each other will have to be present before embarking on any marriage at all.
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@kaka135 (14068)
• Malaysia
15 May 07
Definitely I'll go against those who rate the economic status as the highest priority. Definitely money cannot bring happiness or love. If myself is financial independent, I do not need to depend on my spouse, so his financial status has nothing to bother me, or it will not be in my list. My husband and I are not rich, but we are considered as financial independent. Although sometimes we think we are lacking of money to do something, then we just need to work harder or spend less. There are still ways to work around. Imagine there are many poor people out there even without food, so we can't demand too much.
@TiChan (59)
• United States
15 May 07
No, no, no. Economic status is absolutely NOT the most important thing when choosing a spouse. It should be considered when decided whether or not to get married at that time if you can actually afford the cost of living but you shouldn't choose who you want to marry on money. Should only marry a person for love. And if you really love a person you can wait until you are both economically stable (no need to be rich) until you get married.
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@mwalidji (203)
• Philippines
18 May 07
i dont think economic status is important... love should be the first thing to consider in choosing the person whom you should love. i dont want to hug and kiss the person i dont love. i dont also want to go with him... money cant buy everything in this world. it may be the thing some find in having a relationship but not all do that... we wont be happy by money alone. when there is love there is hapiness. anyway if both of you would just strive hard you can have a money...
• Philippines
16 May 07
it is not good to get married and build a family over a shaky foundation. this is the reason why parents want that their children will consider getting married and having children of their own after having achieved some degree of financial stability. it is true that love must be the foremost consideration in marriage but, we cannot discount the fact that, in today's world no marriage will make it through without the couple's financial stability to back up the family that they are building.
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
15 May 07
I definitely didn't give economic status priority in choosing my husband. I married him because I love him and he is a wonderful man and takes good care of me. We certainly aren't rich, but I couldn't be happier, because he is the man I want to be with no matter what his income is. We just are very careful with our finances and make good decisions with our money, and it's never given us any problems so far. I would choose him over money any day!!