For or against giving first priority to economic status in choosing a spouse?

I am against just looking for financial wealth in a partner. I got divirced at the age of 39 from a very unhappy marriage and I decided to leave the marriage with nothing. I met a man in the U.S who we have a spiritual marriage with but waiting to get enough money to get legally married and get visas to live together. He is a Canadian Chinese and I am a British Greek. He is not wealthy, living in one room in New York and he always says to me, why I don't go for a wealthier local guy. I say to him that one cannot find diamonds every day on the street and that I am not for sale. I don't have a price tag. Like the jade of Loa Zi, I am priceless. If I go and look for a man for his money, then I am making myself cheap and putting a price on my head. Ofcourse we need money but as long as two people can get on with likeminded ideals and are NOT LAZY, then everything and anything is possible. What better way to build a life together if we both work hard to make our dreams come true?

I would have given a negative anwer to this question if asked years ago. but now, my living experience taught me that economy always stands first in the marriage life no matter how deeply you used to love each other. In your daily marriage life, you'll gradually find that nearly everything is connected with money. I have witnessed several married couples used to give up everything in the world for their love breaking down for financial problem. So I don't mean that you should put economic status in the first place, at least you should take it into your serious consideration if you want to decide on a relationship.

Definitely I'll go against those who rate the economic status as the highest priority. Definitely money cannot bring happiness or love. If myself is financial independent, I do not need to depend on my spouse, so his financial status has nothing to bother me, or it will not be in my list. My husband and I are not rich, but we are considered as financial independent. Although sometimes we think we are lacking of money to do something, then we just need to work harder or spend less. There are still ways to work around. Imagine there are many poor people out there even without food, so we can't demand too much.

it is not good to get married and build a family over a shaky foundation. this is the reason why parents want that their children will consider getting married and having children of their own after having achieved some degree of financial stability. it is true that love must be the foremost consideration in marriage but, we cannot discount the fact that, in today's world no marriage will make it through without the couple's financial stability to back up the family that they are building.

No, no, no. Economic status is absolutely NOT the most important thing when choosing a spouse. It should be considered when decided whether or not to get married at that time if you can actually afford the cost of living but you shouldn't choose who you want to marry on money. Should only marry a person for love. And if you really love a person you can wait until you are both economically stable (no need to be rich) until you get married.

i dont think economic status is important... love should be the first thing to consider in choosing the person whom you should love. i dont want to hug and kiss the person i dont love. i dont also want to go with him... money cant buy everything in this world. it may be the thing some find in having a relationship but not all do that... we wont be happy by money alone. when there is love there is hapiness. anyway if both of you would just strive hard you can have a money...

I definitely didn't give economic status priority in choosing my husband. I married him because I love him and he is a wonderful man and takes good care of me. We certainly aren't rich, but I couldn't be happier, because he is the man I want to be with no matter what his income is. We just are very careful with our finances and make good decisions with our money, and it's never given us any problems so far. I would choose him over money any day!!