Do you Need a formal invitation for your Best friends marriage ?
By skbadhan
@skbadhan (879)
India
May 15, 2007 4:11am CST
I want to share a incident few days back there was the marriage of one of my best friend but in the busyness regarding his marriage arrangements he forgot to give me invitation thought i and one of my other friend delivered his wedding cards to some of his relatives and friends on his behalf. I decieded to attend his marriage without any formal invitation from him but my other friend who too was giving invitations to others along with me refuses to attend the marriage as he too didn't got invitation. but fianlly i discussed with him but could be problem and made his aggree to attend the marriage and we enjoyed a lot. what did you feel wether i have done good or i shouldn't attend the marriage as he forgot to give me formal invitation. what would you may have done if you were at my place .please share your views
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29 responses
@ritwikghoshal (405)
• India
15 May 07
not formal. if my best friend just give me a phone call or send me a mail that will be enough for me to attend that party.
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@bindishah (2062)
• India
15 May 07
If he is sucha good friend of your that you both went to hand out his wedding invitation cards, then I think you did the right thing in going. Sometimes people forget to invite their closest friends - they just kind of assum that the invitation is given out. You guys could ahve told him the day before the marriage that he has forgotten to give you the cards, and he would have and you all could just laugh it off.
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@hi1234 (175)
• India
15 May 07
hi...
i think u did it great!!!
i too do not belive in formalities between friends,but,tht does not mean tht i should be taken for granted.my self respect is the highest thing for me.i recently attended a wedding of my best friends elder brother.there was no formal invitation,we were just invited verbaly.its no prob at all.
@shinjiao (1457)
• China
15 May 07
If my best friends invite me to attend to their wedding with a formal invitation card,I will be very glad.But if they just call me and say"We hope you can attend to our wedding on xxx."Well,it's also nice,I will take present to the wedding.But if they don't tell me about their wedding without any reason,I will be very very disappointed.:(
@Betso221 (1699)
• India
16 May 07
If it's my best friends wedding instead of a formal invitation i would like him to come to my house and personall invite my family and me for the weeding, I will forgive him if he has no cards left or he is doin it in a hurry or something rather than that i vill see to it that i won't go for his wedding.
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@sherry_navilla (420)
• Slovak Republic
16 May 07
i don't think it would really matter ro me if i don't receive an invitation to my bestfriend's wedding whom i was really a part since in the planning stage. I think you don't have to give invitations to your family.. it's just for formality's sake.. what matters to me is that you have been a special part of my life, and you told me to come to your wedding i couldn't ask for anything else!
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@BellRose (31)
• United States
16 May 07
I believe you did the right thing by attending your best friends' wedding. Cause if they are as close of a friend as you portray them to be then I think they would've been hurt that you didn't attend, despite the fact they forgot to formally invite you. Usually with friend (specially close friends), you can get a feel for the mood when the mention of the wedding or other major event in their life is brought up. And the fact that you knew it was important to be there for your friend shows what a true friend you are. Good decision deffinately.
~Bell Rose
@subathra (3519)
• India
15 May 07
No formality between friends is what i follow.I never expect my friends to come home and invite me persoanlly for his/her wedding.I know very well he/she would not have neglected us and hence i ignore this formality and be a part in their celebration.
What you did was absolutely right and its a good sign that you made your friend also accompany the wedding.
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@rb200406 (1824)
• India
15 May 07
What is there to be so formal.A friendship has no place for such things.If you are a friend then you can go for the function even without formal invitation.You did the right thing.Actually when my best friend was getting married & she gave me card i told her not to be so formal.
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@nkkyluv (83)
• Nigeria
15 May 07
A friend of mine refused to attend a friend's wedding because she was not given a formal wedding invitation and it didnt really go down well with me.
As for me, I dont think i need any invitation to attend my best friend's wedding because if the person is truly my friend, i'll be by her side helping her in the planning of the wedding, so you did well by attending the wedding without any invitation, thats what friends are for.
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@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
16 May 07
This is indeed a very sensitive issue! It has broken some friendships! I have witnessed this happening between my friends. not just that they didn't give an invitation, or forgot to do so. there was a case where this girl asked whether her friend could come. if she could, then they will send the invite. the friend took offense that she wanted to 'save' on invites. she felt that even if she couldn't make it, the girl should still send her an invite. they were friends for very long and the (non)invitee was very angry because of this. for you, i think it's a good idea to go. forgive your friend cos it's a stressful period for him and he might have genuinely forgotten adn wanted you to be there. when he saw you he was happy right?
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
15 May 07
If u truly are friends there is no need for a formal invitation. i would have done the same as u did, if u did not go, I am sure that it would have caused problems later on.
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@iinvention (646)
• India
15 May 07
When our best friend is getting married, we should be one of the person to take care of everything starting from marriage arrangements till the date of marriage. Friend is also like member of our family, then why should we expect him to invite him specifically for his marriage. If my friend gives me invitation or not, i will be there in his marriage
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@lvap0628 (731)
• Philippines
16 May 07
I think the formal invitation card is not really necessary between best friends because you expect the other to be there for you. However, there are cases when formal receptions after the wedding require guests to show their invitation card and that's where the problem sets in.
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@Lovett (464)
• India
15 May 07
Well I would like a formal invitation, n would not go if not formally invited, or even if me friend tellls me to come for the marriage by word of mouth, then I would go. I would prefer to be invited , even though its me friend getting married.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
16 May 07
Hmmm, I will still go because it is my best friends wedding. I will understand that maybe he has just forgotten to give the invitation to me...I don't want to miss that special day of my bestfriend so i will still go...he is my bestfriend anyway....Maybe i will just ask him later why he did not give an invitation to me.
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@aniez0906 (263)
• Indonesia
16 May 07
i think i don't need that! what for? i certain know about that, if my best friend will be marry, before he/ she prepare her/his party...! so i certain wrapped myself around to her party...
