For Those of you with Children

@34momma (13918)
United States
May 15, 2007 9:14am CST
how do you think your life would be different if you didn't have children? are there things you wanted to do before the children came along that you feel now you can't do? for myself, when i think of my life without my children, i see one lonley and crazy lady...
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@rusty2rusty (6768)
• Defiance, Ohio
15 May 07
Oh, I know my life would be different. As my life revovles around my kids. I am always doing something for them. I don't mine as I enjoying doing it.
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@34momma (13918)
• United States
15 May 07
i enjoy mine too. although there are moments of oh my goodness these kids are crazy! LOL
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• Defiance, Ohio
15 May 07
Yes,there are times I would like to pull my hair our because of my kids as well. bUt it generally makes for a great learning experience. Either for me or them.
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• Philippines
15 May 07
if i don't have kids then my married life would be worthless. i love my husband very much but i just couldn't picture our life together without our kids. i wouldn't know what i would do either without our kids. i'll get crazy probably. i married late so i guess i had enough of my single years. couldn't think of a thing that i wanna do but was not possible because i've children already.
@34momma (13918)
• United States
15 May 07
yes husbands are nice, but kids are so much better! LOL
• Singapore
15 May 07
if I didn't have children, I'll have more personal time, i need not plan my schedule around them and will have more freedom for myself. I'll probably travel more often, and do more spontaneous activities. On the flip side, if i didn't have children, I'll feel much lonlier without their innocent laughter and my life will be less down to earth.
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@34momma (13918)
• United States
15 May 07
we can all use a few more minutes to ourselves, but you have to take those momments. i make sure that i do that for me so i can be a good mother to my children. thanks betshopboy
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@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
15 May 07
I would be still hanging out in the streets probably... or maybe not, I enjoy my daughter. She keeps my days full of joy and busy
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@34momma (13918)
• United States
15 May 07
i know that feeling. when i take a day off work, and get to spend the whole day with my olivia, even though she is a pain in the butt, there is no place i rather be. i don't know what i would have done if i didn't have my own blessings.
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• United States
15 May 07
Raising my husband's child was a difficult situation for me. Having two sets of rules for her to follow and two ways of believing in things made for a bad situation for everyone involved. It put nothing but confusion in her soul and led her to being a confused adult. One household was wild and demon controlled while our home was spiritual based and calm, more down to earth. I wouldn't have missed the opportunity to do what we could to instill in her proper values, and she never kept us from doing the things we wanted to do. The only part of I wish could have been different (for me) is that I would have had my own children. For those moms who don't know the value of children, try seeing yourself in years to come without them. If I had it to do all over again I would have as many as I could. They are a prize to be blessed with in your old age and a hurtful thorn when you don't have them. I hope you know how blessed you are to have them. (I know you already know).
@34momma (13918)
• United States
15 May 07
yes my children are gifts from the Lord that he has trusted me to take care of and become wonderful adults. i don't know what my life would be like without them. i know you were a great mother figure to your step daughter. and for some children, that is better then a real parent. but i do hear where you are coming from
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@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
15 May 07
I am with you, my friend....I just can not even imagine my life without children....I was meant to be a mother...I just know it...I seem to be "mother" to many that I did not give birth too, as well..... I do not think I could be happy without the addition of children to my life either.... Since I have been a mother for almost 30 years....maybe my mind is incapable of comprehending the thought...but I will not dwell on it...because....my children bring too much happiness/completion to my life. I know that their are many people out there that are not able to have children and I have great empathy for them... I also, through the news, know that many "parents" out there in the world should NEVER have had children..... As for me.....my children are just such a vital part of my life, that I do not think life for me would hold much "quality" without them!!!!
@34momma (13918)
• United States
15 May 07
i know what you mean. my children bring me so much happiness and joy. they can try me one momment and make my smile the next. growing up i didn't want children. i guess because my childhood had it's momments. but when the doctor told me i was pregnant the very first time, i just knew at that second this was my calling, and i have never ever looked back. mind you i was only 17 when i had my son who is now 17.
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• United States
15 May 07
Since I had my first child, my daughter, 5 months after I turned 16, I guess, I did not allow myself to think about not ever having kids....and while they have given me moments of heartache and frustration.....I value my children and being a grandmother is also very rewarding.... "Having kids...the tougest job you'll ever love!!!!"
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@34momma (13918)
• United States
15 May 07
that is great! you said it all right there. but my son knows i am not ready to be a grandma grandma, so he better not even try it
• United States
16 May 07
My life was headed down the hole when I became pregnant. I was 19 and not dating his father. I had no job, was living off of a man, and dropped out of college. But knowing he was coming gave me the push I needed to gain three certifications, re-enroll in a university, get an apartment and a good job. He basically revamped my life just by being, and I guarantee you, when he's old enough, he'll know that he saved his mommy's life.
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@34momma (13918)
• United States
16 May 07
oh i know that's right girl. children can really do that for you. make you see life in a new light and change your whole world. you are blessed
• United States
16 May 07
My children are my life, when I think of not having my children I see emptiness and I would not have done anything with my life. They are what motivate me to do anything, I know that if I didn't have them I wouldn't have any need to have anything at all. As material things are not important to me, I have no need for them and would not have them if my children were not here. Every time my children go away I find that I have nothing to do and I lose all motivation to do anything.
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