True Love
By Melissa528
@Melissa528 (744)
United States
May 15, 2007 12:28pm CST
Do you think it is possible to be IN LOVE with more then one person or are you the type of person that thinks your heart could only belong to one person? Personally, I think part of REALLY loving someone is never wanting to hurt them and obviously loving someone else would hurt them greatly so I think you could only truly love ONE person but I have not been in a situation to prove otherwise. Thoughts anyone?
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9 responses
@frecklelip334 (1668)
• United States
15 May 07
i can't say i've ever been "in love" with two people at one time. there have been times where i thought i was in love, then liked someone else, and wasn't sure how to feel about either of them. then sometimes you are in love, and someone else comes into your life and you notice them, but it makes you love the one you're in love with more, as if, "well i COULD be with that person, but MY person does this and this and this...and beats all the others out...", as if it makes you appreciate what you DO have, that kind of feeling. BUT since i have found my hubby, i really don't find myself even noticing anyone else. i'm just not on the prowl so i don't even think about it. i have many male friends, but they really truly are just friends. i would never hurt my hubby, as you said, you wouldn't want to hurt your love in any way. i feel that way too.
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@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
15 May 07
That's the thing I noticed. I just got out of a 6 year relationship that resulted in a child. I have no doubt in mind that I was IN LOVE with my Ex at the time because I didn't really notice other guys. Sure I would think someone was attractive but it never went beyond that because I never let it get that far.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
15 May 07
If I am in love, I'm in love all the way, and with only one person. It is possible to love many, but as far as true romantic love, it's only possible to be IN LOVE with one person, and one person is all I want to fill that part of my life.
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@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
15 May 07
I agree with you 100%. I don't think I could ever love more then one person at a time. When I love someone I give them all of my heart. I don't leave a piece for someone else.
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@disvachic (10117)
• United States
15 May 07
I really couldn't answer this one with yes or no because I haven't been in a situation like this.I can't say its not possible because the heart is so powerful and your mind is to.I truly believe the outcome will be very painful in this case.
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@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
16 May 07
Yes, I totally agree with you. Luckily, i've also never been in this situation. I guess you can't control who you love.
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@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
15 May 07
Thanks for your response! I'm sure it is possible but since i've never been in that situation I find it hard to understand.
@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
15 May 07
I think IT IS possible to be in love with more than one person because the heart is filled with emotions that we have no control over. I would like to believe that when I committ myself to my partner that there only going to be "IN LOVE" with me & only me but that isnt the case. I feel the heart is something that CANNOT be controlled...we love who are hearts tell us to love. If you really love someone then i believe your heart will love them no matter what BUT to be "IN LOVE" with someone is totally different.
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@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
15 May 07
Exactly, I think you could love more then one person but i'm still on the fence about being IN LOVE with them. I'm having a hard time believing that people could really be completely IN LOVE with more then one person.
@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
17 May 07
When i was you i feel like i want one more than one. But i realize that you can hurt other feelings so i just one person in my life that is my husband now. Hi Melissa528... :)
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@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
17 May 07
Hi happymom1 and thanks for your response. I guess it's a natural feeling to want more then one person but as long as you don't act on it then all is fine.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
15 May 07
I think the heart is a very tricky thing. I don't think you can control how you feel all of the time. You can just control your actions. I believe it is possible to love more than one person in different degrees. But be commited to soley one person.
@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
15 May 07
I also agree with you. I think the heart is very tricky and you can't control who you love but if you love more then one person then don't you think it's possible that you are not IN LOVE with them both but rather you love something about that other person. I think there is a difference between loving someone and being IN LOVE with them.
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@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
15 May 07
I think being in love would mean to have that feeling for just one person. If you are in love with a person, I don't think you can have exactly the same feeling for another person. You are absolutely right. Part of really loving someone is never wanting to hurt them. True love is giving all your heart to just one person. Well, I guess, that's what I know about true love. My heart would only belong to one person, and it would hurt my heart if I see that the person I truly love is in pain.
@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
15 May 07
Thanks for your response and I agree. The heart is very tricky but if you are putting yourself in the position to get to know someone so well that you fall in love with them then you might want to reconsider your current relationship. I think it is possible to THINK you love someone and then found out that it was nothing more then lust but how could you be totally in love with someone and then split that feeling for someone else?
@jossy30 (24)
• Nigeria
15 May 07
It is possible to love one person but if you love more than one person then it is lust and not love that is when it has to do with romantic love. It is possible to love one person when it comes to romantic love but when it comes to God's kind of love, agape..it is loving more than one person.
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