How far is going to far when a pet dies?

United States
May 15, 2007 3:53pm CST
I love cats but I have a cousin who I think went a little too far. She had a cat for over 12 years who she left with her parents when she got married a year ago. The poor cat was sick when she left it and my aunt and uncle were left to take care of it. The cat died and my cousin who is 35 years old took it very badly, to the point that she bought a small, very expensive casket for it and buried it in her back yard. Do you think that was going a little bit far or have you or someone you know done the same thing?
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@PsychoDude (2018)
• Netherlands
15 May 07
Haha, I've seen it going even further. An aunt of mine cremated her dog to put it in an urn in her cupboard, lol. Also this person I came across once when doing some interns for a while she had her past animals "stuffed" or how to say and set for display in her room, lol.
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@woobie (88)
• United States
15 May 07
Wow ,I could never have my pet stuffed. That would just creep me out!!!
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• United States
15 May 07
Ok, you got me! That is far worse than my cousin. I can't imagine stuffing my poor pet.
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@CatNPK (461)
• United States
15 May 07
I've never bought a casket for my pets, preferring to bury them straight into the ground rather than in a "cage" as I see it. To bury a pet in the backyard is not strange to me at all - we always had a "pet cemetary" in the yard growing up. Nowadays I have my place in nearby forest, which I prefer because it's a beautiful location that will remain unspoilt for many decades. If I had abandoned a sick pet to someone else to take care, I might also feel so guilty I needed to buy an expensive casket... At least - you make it sound as if this might be the case with your explanation that she left the cat behind. Going too far - that would be my great-grandparents who had their beloved collie skinned and hung over the stairs like a bear rug. I spent years as a child traumatized by that dog fur with its gaping open mouth. I have also heard of people who have their animal stuffed. Buying an expensive casket - not that weird, and not going too far in mourning. Losing an animal is like losing a family member, at least in my house where my animals live one and together as part of my little household.
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• United States
16 May 07
Oh, you poor thing! What a horrible thing to grow up with. People have such different ideas about what to do with a dear departed pet don't they?
@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
15 May 07
If she can afford it why not. I know that some people consider them as family members and so did I with my cat. I would also have buried him, although I would not have bough him a casket., However Like someone before me said - I have seen worse also. People going to all the extrems
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• United States
16 May 07
It seems that people go to extremes when they have more money than they know what to do with doesn't it?
@magikrose (5425)
• United States
15 May 07
Yeah that is taking it a bit far. I understand that a pet is part of the family and all but to go out and buy a small casket for it is a bit crazy. I have 2 cats they are not even a year old yet but to be honest when they do get old and pass away, yes it is going to be hard but to be honest I would rather use a large shoe box and dig a hole in my back yard and have a service of our own.
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• United States
16 May 07
In my cousins case I think she has more money than she knows what to do with. I do know that her new husband wasn't too thrilled about the cost.
@woobie (88)
• United States
15 May 07
We have a small are of our yard that we use to bury our pets, but I wouldn't spend money on a casket. I have a friend who tends to move a lot, so she has her pets cremated so she can take them wherever she moves.
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• United States
15 May 07
I've heard of having pets cremated and keeping their ashes. That makes more sense to me. I wonder what she will do if she ever moves.
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@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
16 May 07
Om my gosh, when we first moved in here, we noticed that the neighbor across the street has two big burial plots in their backyard complete with tomb stones. We thought, Oh my, do they have someone buried there? Later we found out, that is where they buried their two dogs. They buried them in fancy caskets and planted them in their yard. I think it's a bit extreme if you ask me. I love my dogs, but I certainly wouldn't spend that kind of money on them after they die.
• United States
16 May 07
At the school my kids attended, small rural area, there was a head stone at the school. It was the superintendent's beagle. He went to school everyday with him and was allowed everywhere but the cafeteria! And when he passed away he buried him at the school grounds and had a head stone put there, it was after all the dog's favorite place to be.
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• United States
16 May 07
I myself have buried my pets in the backyard of my childhood home, and the home my husband and I shared for 12 years that we just sold. But, I have never bought a casket for one, I just put them back in the ground. I did have one cat who came down with feline leukemia and I had to have him cremated because of the disease coming back up through the ground. But, I did not even bring those ashes home for fear another of my cats might get sick. But, I also think that it depends on the person and how attatched they are to the pet and if they have that kind of money to spend on burying a pet. But, buying pet caskets is not my cup of tea!
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• United States
16 May 07
I'm sure that's the reason the animal vet's have the cremation service, for animals with diseases that could come up through the ground. I'm sure some people don't even think of that.
@gardengrrl (1445)
• United States
16 May 07
Sounds like a guilt-driven overreaction to me. I love my 4-legged companions like I birthed them, but I would never waste $500 on a trinket that the cat never even saw and doesn't care about. That much money could have saved the lives of ten or more homeless cats, why the hell would anybody stick it in the ground?
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• United States
16 May 07
Your right, the money would have been much appreciated by a shelter for cats. Instead of burying it the animal vets will cremate them and bury them in pet cemeteries.
• United States
16 May 07
I've known people to take time off work when they lost a pet. One lady came to work crying so hard they had to send her home. But 500.00 for a pet casket is a bit much in my opinion.
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@dcroome2005 (1211)
• United States
16 May 07
I don't see anything wrong with it. Granted I have lost several animals in my past and have never done that but for people who think the world of your animals, there is nothing wrong with that if they can afford it. I don't think it's crazy. That is just me though. I don't think I could do it, but I can see other people doing it.
@rosie_123 (6118)
16 May 07
No - I don't think that's going too far at all. All my beloved cats have been cremated and buried in individual caskets in my garden. For each one, I have planted a beautiful rose bush in their memory. For some people, animals are - well - just animals, but to others like myself and obviously, your cousin, they are beloved parts of the family - as important and relevant to our lives as any human being could be - probably more so, because they give us loyalty and respect and don't cheat on us like some people do. Your cousin obviously finds comfort from what she has done. Good for her.
• India
16 May 07
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