Have you ever yelled at someone elses kids???

United States
May 15, 2007 9:25pm CST
Hello everyone..i have a question for all of yas..I had my friend and her 3 daughters..age 6,8,and 11 living in my very very small home..she had no where to go,,First let me say they used toi live up here before they moved last year and they are reallyy bad kids!! anywho..they trashed my home,broke all of my sons toys and games..ALL OF THEM..they stole money from his piggy bank..threw garbage on the floor..and almost killed each other daily..i couldnt take it anymore..one day i found cigarette stain on his wall in my sons room..and i it wasnt him..one he is on me about quitting everyday and hes 4..and i know my son..and i know her kids do smoke..ive seen it..well someone put out the smoke on his wall and ity could have started a fire..like the littlest one did there old house!! i told the mom and she didnt do anythign ..again!! sooo..i started yelling at them..and quit them playing with his stuff because they couldnt take care of it..and it rabged froim hitting my son,to using my stuff and stealing my makeup etc..her 1 yr old was caught in the woods giving a boy oral among other things and she didnt do anything! 11 yrs old! and she gets mad at me for tryng to teach them right and wrong? its my house..right? and i think i had the right..what do you think?
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@stormygrl (763)
• United States
16 May 07
You have every right but I would be getting them out of your house quickly before their behavior rubs off on your son.As far as the 11 year old they sound like they need some type of intervention and she needs parenting. Living or having a friend live with you rarely works out , oh you did say had so maybe they're already out.
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• United States
16 May 07
very cute kids in pic !
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@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
16 May 07
I have absolutely yelled at other people's kids, especially when they are in my home disrespecting my rules. I would expect people to do the same with my kids if it ever came to that. Once we were on a cruise and we got into an elevator and some kids were already in it playing with the buttons and just running in and out of the opening and closing doors. For their safety alone, I yelled at them and one woman said to me "are those your kids?". I said no, but she gave me a dirty look. Some people think it was wrong, but I got them to stop and more importantly, they didn't get hurt.
@tess1960 (2386)
• United States
16 May 07
Honey, you have way more tolerance than I do. I would have marched her but to the welfare line the fiorst week and if they couldn't find her a place then the salvation army or womens shelter would have to take her and them.. NMay sound cold hearted but I could not be responsible for that woman or her kids and with them in my home would maske me responsible. I would also wonder how safe my child is with them there. Sorry, but you need to get them out! And SRS or whatever it is called there needs to be notified that thses kids are out of control. It's for there sake, they are just babies and they need to learn sef-control, respect and manners, as well as what is safe and not safe behavior. You have went far and wide beyond the duty of friendship, it is time to let the authroities get involved before one of them is injured seriously, or molested. Protect you arnd yours and them, make the call!! And yes, I have yelled at someone elses kids, my niece and nephew, my cousins, and a friends. Yelling at a kid to protect them from hurting theemselves or others or for breaking the rules is not a bad thing. Yell to get attention and then lower voice to speak with them. Works great!! I've even yelled at the Cub Scouts a few times, yes I apologize for that to the youth but sometimes it's needed to make a child listen to a non-parent.
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
16 May 07
I dont if they are not harming any of my kids and property. But if they do... first I talk to the parents... if nothing happens... I talk to them again...and tell them that if ever their children do any harm with my family and property... dont blame me for yelling. If nothing happens... I would seek help from the community officials... so they can talk to this "family" I wont mind if they would like their kids grow up not knowing the word discipline... but find somebody else who would smile at them while watching their kids attitude. I've got rules I keep... Respect my privacy and our rights and you will not get yourself into troubles...
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@KissThis (3006)
• United States
16 May 07
I admit that I have yelled at someone elses kids when they are doing something wrong and their parent isn't willing to do anything. Especially if it is happening in my own. I will not allow another child to destroy my home or my childs stuff just because they aren't my child. I go to their parent first , if that parent isn't willing to do something then I tell the child who is doing something wrong that they aren't allowed to behave that way in my home.
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• Australia
16 May 07
I am a pretty calm person so I can't even imagine myself yelling at a family member or even someone I know personally like a friend or a mate. So yelling at kids is something I have not done as yet. Although in your case, I would be shocked too. After all, what they were doing was in the open so it wasn't your fault for seeing them and overeacting. If this was in their own bedroom, then I thing that she would have a right to get mad at you. I think you did the right thing. And also, it says 1 yr ol initially towards the end. Oh what a shock that would have been :)
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• United States
16 May 07
You have all the right to reprimand those living in your house if they don't go by the rules. As what I understood, they are not living with you anymore at present. I am happy for you because this kind of people will just give you lots of headache especially they don't appreciate your concern. They should be so grateful to you for letting them stay there with you because they got nowhere to go. They should have taken good care of your house and abide by the rules. But all I can say is good riddance with them.
@zirgham (603)
• Pakistan
16 May 07
you are right to teach them for their better future. and its ethically a good practice to teach other children but if they allow. if not let them what they do.
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@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
16 May 07
You are a saint compared to what I would have been. The first time they broke a toy or game they would not have been allowed to play with them anymore. As far as the trash goes either they would pick it up or mom would one. The fire thing would have to go period. You have every right to tell them what to do in your own home.
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• United States
16 May 07
Yes it's been times were I have yelled at other people kids, but only when they are completely out of line. I wouldn't cuss at them or anything, just letting them know right from wrong. I think that you had every right in this world to yell at them to disipline them in some way. There is no way in this world that they should be acting like that, especially in your home. GOOD 4 U!!!!! Good job on trying to show them right from wrong. It sounds like someone needs to do it.
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
16 May 07
Yes many times.If I see a child doing something that will hurt themself or someone else I will tell them to stop and explain why.I am always giving lectures to my kids friends..That is as much caring as a hug which they get from me too.Children are the adults of tomorrow..the ones who will be making dicisions when we are too old to so the time we give them today will help everybody..We need to build our kids up and letting them know we care about them enough to advise them makes a big difference to alot of kids.But yelling because you are angry doesn't accomplish anything except making the child mad.I always make sure when I yell that it's not a personal thing but because the child is in need of a tongue lashing for their good not mine.. My advice to you would be to tell her to get out.She obviously doesn't appreciate your generousity.It's too bad for the kids but I don't believe you should sacrifice your child's well being for them.There are shelters where she will learn to follow rules.It's called tough love..Sometimes if you care you make someone do it themself or fall flat on their face..In the meantime try not to take on other's problems..You can not take care of the whole world and you can not change these children without their mom's support which you most likely do not have.These situations only lead to guilt and resentment..Get them out before you wake up to your place on fire. Good Luck
• Canada
16 May 07
i haven't yelled at someone else's kids but i have talked sturnly to them. some poeple just can't watch their own kids and that drives me nuts. so if they are doind something wrong that will hurt another kid or my child then i do step in and say something. if their own parents won't then i think you have to say something.
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@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
16 May 07
I hope yopu called family services on this woman. Her children are out odfcontrol and she is obviously incapable of looking after them. Yes, you did the right thing, And would have done so long before then.You deserve to be respected by children in your own home, and YOUR rules are the ones to be followed. eally, do whatever you can to get those babies away from that horrible woman.
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@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
16 May 07
By the way, I've yelled at strangers' kids when they deserved it and their parents were ignoring their behaviour
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• Brazil
17 May 07
Yes, but only when I see the kid is doing something really bad to somebody else and the parents are pretending they just don't see it. Unfortunately sometimes you have to do the job the parents must do, but they don't
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@sbeauty (5871)
• United States
16 May 07
I think you should have set up the rules prior to them moving in. Then, if the children refused to obey and caused problems, and the mother didn't correct them, then you could point to the rules and say, "Adios!" After all, it is your home, and they should be living under your rules while they live there. If they don't like it, they can always find somewhere else to go. Don't feel guilty. You have your rights, too!
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@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
16 May 07
I would think I would yell at the kids too if I am in your situation. I have ever yelled, or was it shouting angrily at my nephew to stop crying. He was being very naughty and refused to stop crying when he could not get what he wanted. Everybody looked at me, especially his mother, and that was the last time I raised my voice at any kid.
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@Marie2473 (8521)
• Sweden
16 May 07
I have not yelled at someone elses kids, but i have also not have them live in my house. I probably would have started yelling before u did. Some parents really need to learn how to control their kids and make boundries for them.
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@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
16 May 07
Iam sorry for yur situation and if at all iam in your position i would have spanked them istead of yelling at them and would have asked my friend to leave my house as early as possible though i knew they arekids and it is their nature to do thus but i cant see anyone spoiling my belonginmg infront of me that to in my own house,unbearable for me to tolerate such kids and the friendship with such kids may spoil kid future also. Iam very possesive to my things,house,kids and to my family.
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@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
16 May 07
You are cent percent correct and if atall iam in your situation i would have spanked them instead of yelling at them as iam very fond of my things and my house and my family moreover i does not like others spoiling my things infront of me and that to in my own house,i cant bare to see this type of attitude of kids even if those are mine. Friendship with such type of kids may spoil our kids too and no mother mother wants to be happen with their kids. Iam sorry for your position but be clear to your friend and i think you should ask them to leave your house as early as possible.
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@rudz006 (209)
• Malaysia
16 May 07
Yes I have.But it is depend on certain circumstances.If the boy is too naughty,we dont have a choice but to yell at them.This is also good for the kids because they will know they are wrong.
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