Do you feel that Dads parent differently than Moms?

United States
May 16, 2007 7:40pm CST
What do you guys think about the parenting styles of mothers and fathers? Are they similar or different? For me, I noticed when my children were growing up that my husband was more laid back than myself when it came to the kids getting dirty. (of course, he wasn't the one doing the laundry!) I've noticed too that his style of calling our teens down for something is more in a joking/friendly way than mine. I am more stern. What do you find similar or different between father and mother parenting?
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@inked4life (4228)
• United States
17 May 07
I think it really all depends on who is the main caregiver of the kids. Whoever is the stay-at-home parent tends to be a little more strict whereas the parent who works doesn't want to come home and be the bad guy/girl when the kids haven't seen them all day. I know thats how it worked for me....my Mum was the disciplinarian and I am with my kids (I'm a stay-at-home Dad for those that didn't already know)
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• United States
17 May 07
I think that what you have said is very true inked, that parent who sees the children less tends to be less of a disciplinarian because they want to enjoy the time that they do get to spend with the children rather than spend it in conflict.
17 May 07
You know the saying Good Cop, Bad Cop, well guess what I am as the mother, yes Bad Cop!! In my home daddy is the joker, the one who laughs and mucks about and I am the one who gives all the discipline and stern faces. I overheard my partner lovely the other day after my daughter made a mess in the kitchen. "You had better clean that up or mum will go mad", he says to her. My response was "AH excuse me" and with that he had to be the Bad Cop and make sure she tidied up. Often my partner will say to me "Tell them" when he looses control and doesn't know how to sort his own kids out and at other times, when he has been so mad with them and tells me so, I will warn them expecting world war 3 and he then walks in, winds them up and winks at me. ARGH!! are my thoughts sometimes. So, definately in my family my partner and I have such different parental roles, but at the end of the day, i had an awful relationship with my dad so I sort of substitute this and will take the flack to ensure our kids have a good relationship with their dad as it is a rarity nowadays. I have often related our home life to that of Malcolm In The Middle!!LOL
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@Gorgeous24 (1092)
• United States
17 May 07
Yes there is a difference between how us mothers parent our children compared to how fathers parent a child. I noticed that and this is with my experience in life that fathers tend to be more strict with their daughters and tend to be less strict with there sons. I think its because they feel there sons are manly and can take care of themselves in certain situations. Now with the daughter on the other hand he feels he needs to protect her at all times so no one can take advantage of her. Me being the mother of a 4yr old little girl I find myself being more leniant with her..Im more of the jus the laid back type of parent. Her father is more strict with her..hes always wanting to make sure she never gets hurt.
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19 Jun 07
Yeah. But it doesn't have to be like that. Seriously though my mum like all looking after me and showing "care" my father just like sit back. (he'll be fine) which he acts differently around my son. (also my brother) ~joey
@estherlou (5026)
• United States
17 May 07
I don't think it is necessarily mother or father, but one parent will always be the tough one, or the one to do most of the punishment and the other will be the softer one they try to get around.
• United States
17 May 07
Yeah I do feel that dads parent differently my dad has two girls and one boy and Well I am the middle and I was the favorite at first and then something happened I think I grew up too quick and eerything dropped, from time to time he still calls me his favorite but I think throug it all my mom has been there the most