mom always said if you cant say something nice dont say anything at all?

United States
May 16, 2007 8:22pm CST
well sometimes the truth just needs to be said....dont you think so, even when its not the most pleasant experience?
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• Philippines
17 May 07
yes, i agree that sometimes we have to hear or say the truth even if it hurts. but you also have to be smart and know when is the right time and place to say it and also the approach. If the person you are talking to is a friend or family, then maybe it would be easier to tell the truth. but if it's someone whom you're really not close to, if you really have to tell the truth, then you have to choose your approach and place so that the person who's receiving it wont find it offending or take it strongly against you.
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• United States
17 May 07
Yes, I agree and this is why when try and tell my family, friends and new friends about the secret societies who run our nation and are doing their best to deplete the human population and unlease diseases on us, they think I am the crazy one. This is why what our leaders do to us is called "IN PLAIN SIGHT", so we will not see it coming and all be boiled in that BIG pot of WATER. FROG IN BOILING POT OF WATER.. let's not all become one of these frogs.
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@jbelle (913)
• Philippines
17 May 07
yes thats true, always put yourself in their shoe, they too have feelings and if you dont have something nice to say its better to shut up. A loving word may heal and bless while a cruel word can wreck a life. There are things better left unsaid.
• United States
17 May 07
Unfortunately, you are right. Sometimes unpleasant things must be said...figuring out a nice way to do it is the hard part.
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17 May 07
As long as you are not saying it to be spiteful I think.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
17 May 07
You can very well tell the truth if insisted.Otherwise need not be crude.
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
17 May 07
I agree with what your mom says. It is better to keep quiet than saying something that is not nice nor acceptable by people. Likely such words will offend people. It is better to have one enemy less instead of one more enemy. Always say things that people like to hear. That's a good way of life which I do not believe in. lol.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
17 May 07
Sorry I disagree with your moms statement. I have found that a lot of people want or need us to agree with them right wrong or indifferent. I tell it like I see it, after all it is only my opinion and you have the choice as to weather you accept it or not. But I will not agree with you just to say something nice. We cannot correct an error if we are never told we are making an error, we will walk around thinking we are perfect and then I come along and kick the legs our from under that perception, and then am told I am not nice. I may not be but at least I am honest.
@linda345 (2661)
• Canada
19 May 07
Yes, sometimes the truth has to be said but it is the way that we say it. If we must tell someone something that may hurt them, we should try to soften the blow as much as possible.