How dependent you are of the opinion of the people arround?

@magica (3710)
Bulgaria
May 16, 2007 10:20pm CST
I saw a discussion: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1083627.aspx Dont we pay too much attention to the people arround us about our look? Why all of us are so sensitive when they hear some critics about our look and usually dont care so much if the same people tell us something bad about our intelect for example? Is it only vanity and how will you coment yours? If all arround say that you are more beautiful then Angelina Jolie, will you accept their opinion as objective and why? Or why not? And vise versa. If all around find that you are ugly, do you accept again everything as 100% true?
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9 responses
• United States
17 May 07
I truly do not pay attention to people around me opinion on how I look, as long as I am happy with myself it doesn't matter what others think. I love what God has bestowed on me this is how he wants me to be and his approval is the only approval I am looking for. I take care of me so I don't listen to people on what I look like what I wear etc. As if I look like, better or worse than a movie star doesn't concern me either. I am unique made by his hands.
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
17 May 07
Exactly! We are unique! Why is so difficult for all of us to accept and to support our uniqueness ? We try to imitate models what are imposed to us from outside. And this is just to please our vanity and to get approval. But this destroys our uniqueness.
@annihilus (2185)
• Italy
18 May 07
No, I have always my opinions but I hear what other are saying.
@easyzheng (666)
• China
18 May 07
Sometimes I do be inluened by the view points of the people around me. But most of the time I would have some ideas in mind and I try to get some suggestion or advice from others. I would compare the differents ideas instead of accepting whatever I heard.
@friendship (2085)
• Canada
18 May 07
No, I don't really care what people think about me. I will dress whatever I think it is comfortable with me. I also do whatever I like as long as I don't make others lose. I believe that every person has good and bad points. I think it is hard to go along with someone who is very sensitive. You know...that's why our world is so messed up because of that.
• United States
17 May 07
Hi I have been a loner for most of my life. I do not pay much attention to people around me. As for family members, and a few freinds are my only close associates. My youngest daughter is very sensitive to what people have to say about her. I have told her that it's not the outside appearance that makes up who you are, it's the inside that you should only worry about..She is a very beautiful girl who just turned 21. She was really vain while in her early school years and got herself in a lot of problems with other girls. The girls were jealous because she was very pretty, had a very outgoing personality, and never met a stranger. The boys on the other hand thought she really had it going on. This situation led to my daughter having mostly male friends. She has finally come to learn that most critics are either very jealous or just plain stupid. Critics do not take the time to know the person they are critcizing and are usually taking the advice from others before making there own accessments. Myself, on the other hand have always had to work on my looks and depended more on my personality. What others had to say did not worry me, except maybe hurt feelings once in awhile. The world is full of cruel, vindictive people and if we all worried about what they say or think about us we would have to crawl in a hole and hide most of the time..So judge not as you will be judged yourself.......showme07
@esjei05 (86)
• Philippines
17 May 07
They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think we should learn to distinguish between people who are just concerned about how we look and others who are just there to criticize. We may take their comment positively and use it to improve our looks but we should not let those who say we are ugly get us down. They are entitled to their own opinion about how we look, although it is rude to criticize people about the way they look, but that should affect us in a negative way. I wouldn't believe all people who will tell me i am more beautiful than Angelina Jolie because i just know that most people wouldn't see it that way. But that is possible, as i said, it depends on who's looking at you. And it is not true that i would care less if someone would criticize my intellect than i would if he would criticize my look. I think i would be more insulted if someone says something bad about my intellect
• United States
17 May 07
i agree with most of the other posts. i really don't care what others think about me. it's most important that you love yourself and if you can do that then what others think is not important. i can't stand nothing more than someone that befriends me just because they may think i'm pretty. if you find a person beautiful on the inside then you will find them beautiful on the outside as well no matter what they may look like. and magica just so you know, i am a true friend, i don't even know what you like nor do i care because you are a beautiful person on the inside and that's what i base my friendships on. so from one beautiful person to another, have a wonderful day:P
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
17 May 07
Hello,magica,i do not care what other people say about my outlook or personality,no matter it is a compliment or criticism,i will not take it too serious. People who judge the other base on the outlook are superficial and there is not need to put too much concern about what they say:P
@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
17 May 07
I don't really care much about others opinions about how I look. I feel good and comfortable this way, I think that's what matters to me. I am more concerned about the others opinions on my attitude. I feel upset when I heard bad comments from them. I want to avoid them and not to think of it, but I was just wondering if those were true... If someone will say that I am ugly, then I will just answer her, Thank you, you are jealous that's why you are saying that one...LOL...because she might have reason why she have said it.