Another touching story... read if you must... and i would appreciate comments...

Philippines
May 17, 2007 3:43am CST
---this was forwarded to me thru email by a friend, about a year ago...---- ============= After 21 years of marriage, My wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you." The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. "What's wrong, are you well," she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. "I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,"I responded. "Just the two of us." She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would l ike that very much." That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. "I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting." We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to have to read t he menu when you were small,"she said "Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed. "How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered. A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one fo r you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son." At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time." Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby .... somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, "normal" is history. Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct.. somebody never took a three-year-old shopping. Somebody said being a mother is boring ...somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit. Somebody said if you're a "good" mother, your child will "turn out good"....somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee. Somebody s aid "good" mothers never raise their voices ....somebody never came out the back door just in time to see her child hit a golf ball through the neighbor's kitchen window. Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother ....somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math. Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the first .... somebody doesn't have two children. Somebody said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing questions in the books.... somebody never had a child stuff beans up his nose or in his ears. Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery.... somebody never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten .. or on a plane headed for military "boot camp." Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back ...somebody never organized seven giggling Brownies to sell cookies. Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married....somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings. Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home....somebody never had grandchildren. Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her.... somebody isn't a mother. note: I was advised to send this to all the "mothers" in my life, and to everyone who ever had a mother. This isn't just about being a mother, it's about appreciating the people in our life while we have them....no matter who that person is.
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15 responses
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
Hey..it made me cry. i do have this tendency to neglect my loved ones because im so preoccupied with what's happening in my own life.. i need a reminder every now and then not to get too wrapped up in myself and to pay attention to people around me and show them how much they mean to me.. thanks for this:)
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• Philippines
1 Aug 07
We tend to forget the ones who truly love us, just because maybe we think that they will always be there for us even if we do not give them so much attention. We really need these stuff to remind us of them. The silent ones.
@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
23 May 07
That was a beautiful post and a great story. Thank you for sharing it with us here. I do understand about appreciated people you love while you still have them around. Thanks for that reminder, too.
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• Philippines
24 May 07
My pleasure, dear. Thanks for responding :)
@lvap0628 (731)
• Philippines
21 May 07
I received the mother's day email and the pictures were funny but strikes at the heart. In fact I liked it so much that I made it into a slide show.
• Philippines
22 May 07
Yes. Emails such as these are but reminders so we could improve ourselves for the better. There's more to gain in believing them and putting them into action, rather than thinking of what will people say once we start doing things out of the ordinary.
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
21 May 07
It is nice to read your story and im feeling guilty that im doing it less to my wife, thanks for the wake up call.
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• Philippines
22 May 07
My pleasure, my friend. Start making up with her... i'm sure she will be happier than ever :)
@esjei05 (86)
• Philippines
18 May 07
This is a touching story, I tried not to cry while reading it. We are seven children in the family and i got the chance to take care of the three youngest everytime my parents had to go to work. It was a tough job taking care of my younger siblings. I could imagine how hard it must be for my mother to take care of all of us. When i went to train for the military my sisters told me my mother always cry because she's worried that I will not be able to take the hardships of the training, she being in the military herself and having first hand experience of what it's like. Sometimes I look at her and I can see how she tries to hide from us that she is tired she work and taking care of us. She grew up in a poor family that's why it's easier for her to appreciate small things that we give and show her having been deprived of it when she was little. I think mothers are the best gifts in the world. I really like your story..I hope you don't mind if I copy it and send it to my friends and family :)
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• Philippines
18 May 07
I feel so blessed for sharing this with you all. If ever this circulates around the globe (and if possible, beyond) this will really make a difference. And I would be glad that i have become a part of it. Please do share it with your friends too. The one who forwardded this to me wasn't selfish... so am i. This is my intention in the first place... to share it to the world.
@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
18 May 07
what a wonderful story. thank you for sharing it with us. it shows us how life can be or should be. we tend to forget what we got from our parents and that they dont stop being there for us. it was a big eye-opener for me, i was to settled with the daily routine here.
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• Philippines
18 May 07
and who would ever say long posts don't increase our earnings dramatically? it may not have increased our earnings at all.. but i believe that we have gained a lot more... we learned to value what and who we have today. :) thanks for joining me here.
@henazea (313)
• Kuwait
18 May 07
this is the most beautiful story I have heard by far.we are a family of six(4 brother sisters)and I'd die if my mom has ever to stay alone..
• Philippines
18 May 07
You might not realize how sweet you are. I hope my sons are thinking like the way you do. you take care and God bless you :)
@sweetsue (759)
• Philippines
18 May 07
Yeah, I read this story way back. Indeed, a very touchy one and really teaches lesson and an inspiration to all of us too. Tc!
• Philippines
18 May 07
thanks, my dear. let's all be inspired. :)
@semak76 (187)
• United States
18 May 07
I had never heard that story before, thank you so much for sharing, it is beautiful. I think that it is true that sometimes our loved ones are just waiting for that one last goodbye before they let go. I had a similiar experience with my grandfather. I came home from work one day, i was pregnant at the time, to find my brother and boyfriend cleaning the garage. They found a pair of hedge trimmers that we had borrowed from my grandfather the summer before, and I immidiately picked up the phone and said we were coming over to return them. Since growing up, I had only seen my grandparents at family gatherings, and we lived about a half hour away, never before had I visited on the spur of the moment. Well, we spent the afternoon, just visiting and talking, and left before dinner. I got the call from my grandmother less than 3 hours later saying that he had passed away. I will always be grateful that I was there for him on his last day, and I truely believe that he went to a better place after having one last visit with his loved ones.
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@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
17 May 07
What a touching story it is. I feel so touched and I remember my family, especially my parents whom I did not grew up with. They work abroad so i was not able to be with them for a long time. That's why, all I wanted now is there time and not the money they are giving me...
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• Philippines
17 May 07
I wish every person in the world in your situation do and feel the same, my dear. There are people I know of who do not give a damn on their parents who have not been with them as they grew up...I hope and pray that a miracle would sweep them up and make them realize what they are really missing and losing.
@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
17 May 07
I received it sometime ago also from one of my friend, I cried my eyes out. Thanks for sharing such a heart warming story my friend:D
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• Philippines
17 May 07
I really can't thank you enough for all the support you have been giving in my topics. Thank you for being a friend, even if we are worlds apart. :)
@cool1girl (248)
• India
17 May 07
Its a thought provoking piece.It is touching and tells you what you take for granted most in life needs thought and attention too.Thanks for the lovely post!
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• Philippines
17 May 07
a wake-up call for each one of us, my friend. stories such as these are needed sometimes to remind us of the things that we tend to overlook as we struggle through life :) thanks for the response.
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• India
17 May 07
I was literally in tears after reading this story. I remembered my mother whom I lost 15 years ago. I wish my mom was alive.
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• Philippines
17 May 07
Surely touching stories such as this bring old memories. Cheer up, my friend. Your mother must have loved you more than you'll ever know. :) We are living images of our mothers. Let us do our best to make ourselves good mothers too.
@lkbooi (16102)
• Malaysia
17 May 07
It’s really a touching story and made me deeply impressed. Yeah we should appreciate the important people or the people we love no matter who they are in our life. We have to do something or to say something to them if we got chance to do so and don’t wait until the time when we have no more opportunity to do so. My dear friends, so value what ever opportunity that you can served your love ones. Good luck everybody:)
• Philippines
17 May 07
A famous quotation goes something like this: "We only pass through this world once, so any good we can do, we should do it now, not put it off". And what could be better than by letting the people we cherish the most feel the love that we have for them?
@tess1960 (2387)
• United States
17 May 07
I have never read this story before, however I did recieve the somebody said in my e-mail just before mothers day. Very thougth provoking piece. tis is so true and I hope we all remember that the spoken or written words "I Love You" do NEED to be said, heard or read often by our loved ones. Don't just assume they know it!
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• Philippines
17 May 07
Yes. Actions speak louder than words... but words are important to complement our actions. We must say these words to the people we love, before it's too late.