do you feel any sort of embarassement by asking someone to return your money

@henazea (313)
Kuwait
May 17, 2007 8:00am CST
Do you get embarassed while asking your friends to return your money over and over again..I remember a friend of mine who has a habit of borrowing money and never returning it till u have broken your head over her..she'd ome and tell sob stories abt no being able o pay..do you feel the same abt it..
8 responses
• India
24 May 07
I have a friend who owes me a lotta money he was my childhood friend until money came in between i m trying to get the amount slowly and also revive the friendship, but he is a sneaky bas**** now. so i guess, lending money and finding out the true nature of a friend is a perfect, but expensive idea
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@henazea (313)
• Kuwait
25 May 07
i so very much agree with you...
@alpine_007 (1476)
• Pakistan
17 May 07
i don't get embarrased when i ask my friends to return my money over again but i don't feel good to ask them
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@henazea (313)
• Kuwait
23 May 07
yes I absolutely agree with you..
• United States
17 May 07
If it is a small amount I don't ask for it back. Needless to say, I don't lend more than I can afford to. Now, if I lend a substantial amount to someone and I have to ask for it back, I don't feel embarrassed what I feel is mad. People know when they owe money, so having to ask for it back doesn't reflect on the lender, it reflects moreso on the borrower I think, at least that is my opinion, and that's why I feel mad if I have to ask to get my money back.... The lender shouldn't feel bad or embarrassed, for what? If anything, I feel the borrower should feel embarrassed for us having to ask for it back. Great topic, welcome to Mylot.
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@henazea (313)
• Kuwait
17 May 07
hey thanx loads...:)..for the compliment and for sharing your views...
@lucy67 (819)
• China
17 May 07
i feel embarrassed when i have to ask someone to return me money. luckily i do not have any friend like your friend who is not willing to return. my friends doesn't return money just because they forget about it so i have to try to remind them without embarrassing them. it's really hard. sometimes i don't like to lend money to others not because i don't like to help others but because i feel embarrassed to ask them to return the money.
@henazea (313)
• Kuwait
17 May 07
well you are a lucky girl to have suh understanding friends..:)
• Philippines
17 May 07
yup..a lot of times actually...and i end up not getting back my money..i can only remind the person, if i get a no answer, i don't expect anymore that person will pay me back... i had an experience recently...actually two cases, two of my close friends borrowed money from me out of emergency...well, i can't ignore them because they are my friends..months have passed i haven't heard a thing from them and no terms were given as to when they plan to pay me back..but anyway, they are my friends... probably they have reasons why they cannot pay..instead of getting mad at them...i compliment myself by saying that at least during the tough moments of their lives, i was able to lend a helping hand.. :)
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@henazea (313)
• Kuwait
17 May 07
yeah thats right but I dont get back my money even when I get into an emergency and I know that she just spent her's on a date..tat puts me off..
@alilswt (388)
• United States
17 May 07
i feel terrible about asking for money back i try not to do it but sometimes you have to or you will never get it back
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@henazea (313)
• Kuwait
17 May 07
tats very true my dear friend..I have been through it..
• United States
17 May 07
I hate to have to ask someone...but I will after awhile if it is a good amount..I have let a friend borrow 5 dollars here and there and not get payed back..makes me not think they are really a true friend to me..
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@henazea (313)
• Kuwait
17 May 07
I understand wot you mean..I sometimes try not to get those things in my friendship but sometimes the $5 acummalets into a large amonunt..then it becomes difficult..
@shak143 (1280)
• India
17 May 07
This is the problem i faced a lot from my friends.Usually i won't say no if they are asking for good cause.And i feel difficult to ask them to return it.Though it's my money and i have rights.I don't konw why it is.Iam trying to overcome this but iam unable to do this.
@henazea (313)
• Kuwait
17 May 07
join the club my friendwe are sailing on the same boat.