How Often Do You Fight?

United States
May 17, 2007 8:20am CST
JUst wondering how often you fight with your spouse or S/O? Do you think it is healthy to fight? Do you fight fair? Or is all fair in love n war? Do you add name calling?
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@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
17 May 07
I fight with my boyfriend almost weekly... We quarrel over small issues and its those minor things that we could just overlook and get done with... I guess sometimes, its me... I tend to get all anxious and jealous over little issues... I guess we fight pretty fairly, as in we do not call names and take out certain sensitive issues.... How bout u? =)
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• United States
17 May 07
me? Well we have been toghter forever almost. He was my prom date for crying out lound. It will be 14 years in Dec that we have been married. We have never really fought at all. I bet I can count the number of fights we have had on one hand. I like it that way too. I'm a lover not a fighter!
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@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
18 May 07
Really? Tts like so cool... I mean i wanna be like that too... But i guess its pretty hard afterall... In fact, me and my bf are not much of a fighter too, but we tend to squibble over nonsensical issues... Thus, i dunno how to handle these kinds of stuff... I like him, he likes me... but i guess sometimes, we are too bothered by external stuff and yah, we dun have peace due to many issues... I have known him for only four and and we have been together for almost 1 yr plus only... We are still so far from ur happy marriage... But no matter what, i wish u all the best...
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• United States
18 May 07
He needs to learn this simple phrase......and that is...."yes Dear" hehehehheh
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• United States
20 May 07
We disagree almost daily, but rarely fight. When we do, I am the more emotional one and tend to say things I regret. He clams up and that drives me crazy!!!!!!!! I am learning though.
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• United States
20 May 07
I'm the clam in this house! Thanks for your comment and welcome to mylot!
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@vikceo (1301)
• India
19 May 07
well i fight i a lot with my wife. but we fight very healthy and for good reasons. moreover in the end everything turns sweet only. we do not go to the extent of fighting for days. it ends generally within hours. yes it is perfectly healthy. coz for us it is another way of loving each other and feeling attached
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• United States
20 May 07
I think you need to fight a little bit! Plus making up is alot of fun! thanks for your comment!
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19 May 07
i fight with my mom daily for all my nonsence things
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• United States
20 May 07
LOL I'm a Mom and sweetness with get you very far with Mom trust me!
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• Philippines
18 May 07
i fight fare && i dont think fighting is healthy coz ur damaging your relationship with each other..
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• United States
18 May 07
welcome to mylot!
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@jason_co (408)
• Philippines
17 May 07
we had fight with my GF once every month. it happens when she also have a period. hehehe. maybe its a hormonal thing with them.
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• United States
17 May 07
that's a given! I so do not miss PMS!
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
17 May 07
I do think it's healthy to fight. Not knock down, drag out nasty fights. Just healthy disagreements ( as healthy as they can be..lol) My husband and I have spats now and then, but they're usually over before I know it. It is a way to get out pent up feelings. It is hard living with someone 24/7 and there are bound to be disagreements. My husband and I have been married for going on 12 years and we have grown a lot together. We used to fight very nastily. We've grown up & out of that phase thank goodness. Now I call him "Jack" when he's being a pain in the rear and he knows he's being a jerk. He'll call me "VICtoria" and I know I'm getting on his nerves. (I'm guessing you know what Jack stands for, but VICtoria is his way of calling me a b@tch) We don't use the real words, we just use the Jack & Victoria. The kids are none the wiser, but we get our point across.
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• United States
17 May 07
That's very cute Mish!
@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
17 May 07
We don't really fight that often...We only fight once in a blue moon because I am not good in confronting or arguing with him...No, i don't add name calling...
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• United States
17 May 07
good for you!
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@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
17 May 07
I have arguments with my boyfriend very often but you just have to decide what is a healthy relationship and what isnt. Its so easy to get into an argument & call each other names but when you can really sit down and have a healhty argument because there good for us every now & then, talk it out & resolve the problem.
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• United States
17 May 07
Yeah I dont think that name calling really gets you any where it just hurts feelings!
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@castleghost (1304)
• United States
17 May 07
My partner and I very seldom fight. We have lots of disagreements but not fights. Its healthy to talk about the things that are bothering before you explode and make the situation a bigger problem. Neither of use resort to name calling or down grading one another. We just try to work out what the problem is in a mature way.
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• United States
17 May 07
that's good!
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@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
17 May 07
We havent had a really big fight in over a year. It was a huge one I hope to never have another one like that again. We have minor disagreements now and then but we usually can talk them out without arguing.
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• United States
17 May 07
thats good!
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@alilswt (388)
• United States
17 May 07
we do not fight very often but i think it is good once in a while that way you can get things out that you would not usually say as for name calling yep we do that when your fighting you can not call each other baby or honey lol
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• United States
17 May 07
I think its normail to fight a little. Hey welcome to mylot!
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@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
17 May 07
My wife and I cannot be in the same room for 5 minutes without getting into a fight. It is not pleasant. If there were not kids involved I would have been gone a long time ago. I do not think fighting is healthy in relationships. cheers
• United States
17 May 07
Well I hope that you can work it out! It is also not good for your kids to see you fighting!
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