In what age can we make the strongest friendships? And how can it be strong?
By Dolcerina
@Dolcerina (3376)
Hungary
May 17, 2007 8:21am CST
I am not the kind of person who make friendships easily. I realized that those friendships I made after my schoolyears got over soon. I do not know why. I have to say that they never get so close to me. EVen if I speak a lot with them about problems, they may know my "secrets", and I know their secrets. The people only come and go from my life easily. But the people from my schoolyears are always in my heart. I feel asif they were my sisters, brothers.
I think the problem is with me.
What about your friends? When did you get to know them? ANd how?
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9 responses
@erwin009 (66)
• China
14 Jul 07
Age doesn't matter.Some time, we don't want people know about ourselves,we want to keep distance from others,and that's because we don't trust somebody and we don't want to get hurt.But what I said above wouldn't make friendships stronger.
To entreat your friends in the way that you want your friends entreat you,and that will make the friendships stronger.
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@stonehr (818)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
18 Jun 07
There it's not specific stage when is good to meet new friend..
I also don't have so many friends... So this is up to each persons and their personality...
Anyway I doubt that one person can have so much friends that would be so close in frindship
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@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
8 Jun 07
But you are still in friendship with Endre... I suppose you are in connection with people from SF, or with those who learnt to be a confectioner just like you. Eva for example.
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@adidas7878 (1891)
• United States
19 May 07
i met most of my friends from work i have a very few school friends , and i havent keep in touch with them anymore, but you are my friend :) so you make a few friends on here i bet .
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
19 May 07
I do not feel that we can make real friends on the net. I think we can make only virtual friends here. As soon as I switch off my computer they are switched off too.
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
8 Jun 07
I think we have imaginations about each other here in mylot, but we do not know more about each other that the other shows. SOmetimes the words are not enough. Mylot makes me feel asif I speak to myself.
@adidas7878 (1891)
• United States
20 May 07
that true too, but we are friends that are here for you to talk you when you feel down, make you laugh when you sad (or try to) we may not he there there for you but we are here.
@cherry218 (6)
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14 Jul 07
hey, i'm sorry to hear that, but have you ever thought maybe something wrong with your way to talk with them or something like that? actually, i don't think it's hard to make some friend, but living in a big city, life is very busy, i don't have time to keep in touch with many friend, so sometimes send them a text message, send them some emails, can't see each other so often
I think you don't need to keep in touch with every friend, it will waste you so much time.
good luck
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
14 Jul 07
Of course I have friends :D
My discussion is about the real friends. I wrote that all my real friends are from my childhood. There are pals and there are friends. A real friend for me, who I can call in the midnight if I am in trouble, for example. Or those who would visit me even in the prison. (momently I am not on the way to the prison LOL)
Anyway, the people who say that they have many friends that always mean that they have not any real friends. Normally people have only 2-3 real friends. My question is about them. When can we make these srtong friendships. Most of us think, that we make these friendships in our childhood. What about you?
@rhinoboy (2129)
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18 Jun 07
I am also the type of person who has only a few very good friends. I was talking to my wife about just this on Saturday. For reference, I'm now 27.
I first met and was boy/girlfriends with my wife when we were at school, aged 14 & 15.
I've had the same best friend since I was 12. We were actually friends from starting school at 5, but he moved away and changed school. Later I moved too and joined the school he'd moved to. I also have a few other friends that I've known since I was about 4 or 5. I've known my brothers wife since I was about 17 too. I love to see people I remember as children growing into adults and we're all having children of our own now.
This probably isn't that strange for people who live in the country in smaller communities, but I live in quite a large city.
@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
18 May 07
I don't make friends easily either. The people I were friends with in school I never see anymore. The longest friendship I have has been 22yrs., maybe a little more. We worked together at a nursing home when we were very young and then both moved on to other jobs and lost contact. We resumed the friendship about 11 yrs ago and though I don't see her very often I still consider her my best friend. Most all of my friends I met through work.
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
8 Jun 07
I think the real friends are who have a piece in your heart, always. We do not need to speak them every day, every week or not even once in a year. They have a piece from our heart, and we know that they are our friends.
On the other hand not everybody is a real friend I spend my time with. Not even if she knows my secrets for example.
@booster20002005 (283)
• India
9 Jun 07
I think in childhood you make the long lasting friendships, as they endure for the lifetime, when you get older you mostly hang out with people on necessity rather than the innocent friendship as a child.
