What would be your first clue that a relationship was ending?

@Erilyn (3020)
United States
May 17, 2007 9:02am CST
Would it be the little things that aren't there anymore, such as your partner calling you sweetheart baby etc? Or would it be when the cuddling and kissing stopped? The little intimate moments you used to share have all gone away. What would you do when it seems that everything is at an end? Would you try to save it or would you just let things run its course? Would you know when it was time to walk away, or do you think you would be blindsided by it? Would you hang in there and try to distance yourself so it doesn't hurt as bad?
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@msjigga (866)
• United States
19 May 07
The first clue that a relatiionship is done to the point of no return is when a the communication stops. When a Man stops talking to a women, stop expressing himself to a women, start being silent. My Dad told me if a Man stops talking its over, and if a man ever cries around you than you have that Man's heart because Men are taught not to cry not to talk when something hurts because they are seen as week.
• United States
19 May 07
Good point, msjigga. I agree! COMMUNICATION, 2 ME, is KEY, in ANY relationship (business, friendship, romantic, family, WHATEVER)! And the man crying is a sign of TRUST, and willingness 2 be VULNERABLE, which is also VERY important! This is necessary 4 BOTH partners, I feel. But, u make an excellent point, in that when a MAN feels COMFORTABLE enough 2 let his tears "flow" in the presence of his woman, that's HUGE! Regardless of what "issues" u have with a person, if u're BOTH WILLING 2 always have OPEN and HONEST communication, then I feel that there's ALWAYS a chance 4 reconcilliation. But, once 1, or BOTH people choose NOT 2 talk anymore, I couldn't agree MORE: it's a "wrap"!
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
21 May 07
Communication is a very big factor in a relationship. If you can't or aren't talking to one another then there are usually things going on that you don't want your partner to know about. I found that out the hard way. As far as a man crying in front of you I don't agree with that 100%, My ex husband cried in front of me a few times one time it was becasue he was having problems with his GF. He was crying but wouldn't tell me why. I comforted him and later found out about the GF. Had I known at the time, I would have told him to deal with it as I was packing my stuff.
@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
17 May 07
When everything suddenly change, I think that's a signal that you should end your relationship or maybe there are just problems that you have to talk about and you can still work things out... I am a person who always thinks that you can always resolve a problem if you only have a good communication and you can talk about it and try to understand each other.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
17 May 07
I can understand that, I am just wondering about the little things that creep up on you. The ones you generally don't notice too much until something big gets your attention. There are little signs that lead up to the sudden chenge don't you think?
@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
18 May 07
Yes, there really are things that all of a sudden becomes a big issue...
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19 May 07
The good relationship does not end so make good relationship and enjoy ur days dont search for reasons to end the relationships
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
21 May 07
I'm not searching for reasons to end a relationship. I was asking a general question just to see what other people thought. Just having a good relationship isn't enough anymore. People change, and a lot of times not for the good. My ex husbands are the perfect example of that. If it were only as easy as making a good relationship, if it were there wouldn't be such a high rate of divorce, there wouldn't be so many single moms out there, and a lot of other things. Every relationship is good to start out with, and everything eventually comes to an end one way or another.
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
17 May 07
The first clue... is when you dont bother much of your partner... and vice versa. I guess when the time comes that you feel you are both living on your own... thats a signal that youre growing and going away each other. The priority should be to save the relationship as much as possile... but if theres nothing more left to do... or nothing more left to give... then its time to let go.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
17 May 07
You just summerized my last marriage lol. I even tried to suggest counseling to no avail. I don't think he actually thought I would leave him till I did. Then again finding a picture of him and a girl he works with cuddled together on our bed left no wiggle room for him.