Do You Know What Your Child is Doing?

@Swtrose (3399)
Canada
May 17, 2007 1:47pm CST
My children only use the internet supervised and only on the sites that I approve ahead of time. They are not allowed my space pages or to be in chat rooms, and they don't have messenger or email. They do have a blog, but it hosted on our sites and they are not allowed to post photos of themselves. My daughter did have email, but she lost those privileges. I think some parents give their children way too much leeway when it comes to the net. I told my daughter that she does not need messenger. She can use the phone. Do you know what your kids are doing online? Are they allowed to use the internet when you are not home? Do you know all the people on their msn list?
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@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
17 May 07
Well my kids are still young and only my oldest uses the internet right now. He 7 1/2. He can go to webkinz.com, nick.com and cartoonnetwork.com and his comcast email. His email is to only be used to email his father who is stationed overseas in Italy. I always look over his shoulder although he gets irritated by it. The computer he uses is in the living room so we can see it all. He doesn't have a messenger or anything like that. I made shortcuts for the four websites he's allowed to use and put them on his desktop and that's all he is going to be using. If he tries anything else after we set the rules and brief him every time he logs on, then he will lose internet privileges for awhile.
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@don_sheru (160)
• India
17 May 07
hhmm..this is interesting! i mean getting the idea what parents think about their children lol! as am still 17, i think you're doing the right thing! but i think blocking messenger is...Limit-exceeded? dont you think? anyways, good luck for further spying :P
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
17 May 07
Spying? Why does she need messenger when she is very cable of picking up a phone and calling her friends.
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• India
18 May 07
i mean she can't call everyone she knows but instead she can chat to them while hanging around on internet (the one you approved her)....anyway, dont know much about curiosity of parents on their children so cant judge you :)
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
18 May 07
Again, there is no need for her to chat to them online when they live in the same city and I appreciate your not judging me.
@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
17 May 07
My 5 yr.old is just learning to use the computer for games.....and with me on children sites like sesamestreet, nickjr, and the pbs.....I think it is important for him to begin learning..... I use parental controls on his satellite television in his room, though...so I know I will do the same when he is old enough for internet usage is a concern..
• United States
18 May 07
Hear Hear! Well said! My sister has five young ones at home and she moved the computer in to the dining room. Each child is allowed to use the internet for no more than 30 minutes per day and there must be a grown up in the room when the computer is on. It is so important to be responsible with internet use - there are far too many predators out there.
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
18 May 07
Kudos to your sister. I applaud her!
• United States
18 May 07
I kind of let the kids do want they want on the computer...since they are now 29, 30 and 32. LOL Seriously, I insist that the grandkids be supervised at all times when on the computer, not just the internet but on the computer since even the 3 year old knows how to sign on to the internet. There is just too much garbage out there that kids don't need to see. I've even extended my censorship to TV, if I think a show or movie one of the adults in the house is inappropriate for kids, I speak up. I ask the child's parent if it's ok for their child to watch it. If they say no, I ask the adult to go watch it in their room or change the channel. I believe you, as the parent, are the best equipped to decide what is appropriate for your children and what privileges they can and can't have.
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
18 May 07
As parent I believe it is our job to educate and monitor.
@magikrose (5425)
• United States
18 May 07
M chidren are NOT allowed online unless I am home and I type the web address that they are going to visit. I only let them visit age appropriate websites so that I know that they wont see anything they are not saposed to.
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• United States
18 May 07
My children are still young - ages five, six and seven - but we have very firm Internet rules in place (we started thinking about this when the youngest was three): * the computer will be in a prominent place in the house * each child will have a specific amount of time they can use the computer * all their activity will be monitored, including site searches and email use * we already have a ban on video games * if they don't like the over-the-shoulder policy, they won't use the computer We have seen issues with preditors effecting nieces, nephews and cousins in the family and, if these kind of rules were in place, they wouldn't have been victomized (sp?). We're sure more rules will be in place as they get older, but we thought this was a good foundation to start with. Several have already told us we're being too strict, but this usually comes from parents who are too passive and their kids end up in trouble.
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
18 May 07
i don't have a child yet but i know when i have one, i will have a complete parental control on what my kids are doing on the computer... it is very vital especially in this modern world where everything is so easy to be grabbed from the internet that we know what our children are doing there... they can misuse it or abuse it if we don't watch them carefully especially when they are still young...
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@icehut (508)
18 May 07
Why not install a program like Naomi. Search for Naomi freeware internet filter. It examines all internet traffic (be it websites, chat etc.) and closes the application it detects contains inappropriate content. For example, a swear word in Yahoo Messenger immediately closes Yahoo Messenger. The effect should be that your children will think that "you" know what they're doing and "you're" taking control of what they do on the computer. Children by nature will act innocent and pretend that nothing happened. With luck, they'll not wander back... if they do, the application will be terminated again...