Why are men getting all the credits?

@ellie26 (4128)
Malaysia
May 18, 2007 3:23am CST
Men as compared to women have always been lucky from the time they were born up to the day they were married . Why? The reasons: 1. Most parents always prefer a boy as their firstborn so they can carry their surname. 2. Girls have always been the "housemaid" while boys, the "boss?" 3. When they are single, the mother took care of them. After marriage, the wife will look after them. 5. Men will not take the blame if there is a breakup in relationship or marriage. While women get the blame for failing to maintain marriage. 6. When husbands commit adultery, there always a good "reasons" but women do that, they are branded as bad wife. 7. If the children turns out to have bad behaviour, the mothers get the blame. These do not apply to everyone but to some only. What do you think of the above? Thanks for your kind response.
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@OhMyDayz (158)
18 May 07
Its so sad that in some families this is still the way of thinking. Why are women so down trodden when we are such strong people and keep most things together. I was watching a programme about what has happened to the women of Afghanistan yesterday and how they were suppose to have been liberated after the Taliban had been defeated by the Americans. Bush said that all the women were now free to be equal, be educated etc, but this is still not happening. It still showed that the men had total rule over the women, but what made me even more mad was that the mens mothers were as much to blame. One woman had set fire to herself because her mother-in-law constantly beat her. I find it disturbing when women are the underclass, but even more disturbing when other women add to the cause of it. How can we have freedom when we do not unite. As the main parent, mothers should make their sons respect women and then maybe these men and society would change their views, but as long as women are also involved in this way of thinking what hope is there for these young women. We life in a mad world.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
18 May 07
Hi OhMyDayz, sometimes unfairness seems to be everywhere. It is something we need to accept without much grievances. Thanks for your respond.
@OhMyDayz (158)
18 May 07
This is so what is wrong with this world today, as so many will accept the injustices instead of standing up and fighting against it. I am glad the woman reporter went to Afghanistan to expose what is happening. We then have the power to lobby our MP's to make them change things and make them know they cannot get away with their false hopes for these poor women. 4 billion was promised in aid to this country and what has been put in the country so far, as usual the poor have recieved none. I will never just accept this as it is up to us to change things and all the heroes in this world to me are the ones who have stood up for what they believe, and thank goodness there are people like this in the world..
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@samson1967 (7422)
• India
18 May 07
1. There are many parents, with female as their first born 2. Girls do House hold works, boys do outdoor works. 3. When females are single father and mother will take care of them and after wedding, husband and children will take care. 4. Where is your fourth question ? 5. OK. To maintain the relation till end, women has to sacrifice more than men. 6. God's punishment is same for men and women who commit adultery. Without females co-operation men cannot commit adultery. 7. It is fathers duty to mould children character. Hence fathers should be blamed for childrens bad behavior.
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• India
18 May 07
Ellie what are your opinions on my comments.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
18 May 07
Hi samson, here's my comment on your response: 1. Yes, there are more female born as their firstborn but, most parents would have preferred if their firstborn are male. 2. Not so, girls mainly remain indoors to help out in the kitchen but boys do "outdoor works" like football, hanging around with friends etc. 3. All parents will take care of their young until they are independent or married. And when girls get married, she has to shoulder the responsibility to look after the husband/children well being. Make a lot a sacrifices for her husband and children. 4. Typo. Missing 5. And why do you think that it is women's job to maintain relationship and make sacrifices? Do you think it is fair? Of course not. It takes two to bring a child into this world, it takes two to make a marriage work and when come the downfall, the women always the one who takes the blame. Why dont men make sacrifices too? 6. Yes, adultery is a sin and punishment from God will surely come for those who commits. But the question is why do men always get away with his sinful act? Why do women gets all the blame for not being able to sustain a good marriage? Again, women get the blame for men committing adultery. Where is the men faults in this? 7. Yes again. Its the father duty to mould the children character. But when the wrong "moulder used", more often than not, the women will be blamed. And sometimes the father will also point finger to the wife. Men always win in this kind of situation. So, samson any other comments?
• India
18 May 07
No Ellie, I just checked whether you contradict your statements. You are straight forward. Keep it up.
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@abroji (3247)
• India
18 May 07
This is a male dominated world. Though women are indulged in almost every activity that man is engaged with, generally men control things. This is natural. But the discrimination between sons and daughters are not justifiable, especially in childhood. However I have only two daughters, so I didn't face such problems. And in my parental family, my two sisters were the apples of my parents' eyes. Not that we the three brothers were neglected. There was no such visible descrimination. Thank you.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
18 May 07
Hi abroji, agree with you, it is a male dominated world. Thanks for your respond.
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@abroji (3247)
• India
18 May 07
You are wlcome ellie.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
19 May 07
firstly, this is a very pertinent post. i really appreciate. now, as for the discussion, i seriously think that men are superior , specially in my country. right from the childhood, this is being inculcated inside the minds, thoughts of the individual. the discrimination is so stark is some households that men are literally believed to be demi god, can you beat it!! all the blames, rude words, drudgery of households go to the lady of the house and this goes without any accolades. women work 24x7 without any praise or appraisals!! even after all this, shockingly, some women think they are doing it all right and serving their husbands means serving God. they are meant for that!! however, ellie, i have been immensely lucky to have grown in a different surrounding with my parents and grandparents having no discrimination in the gender. i really thank them. thank you sweetie. have a nice day.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
20 May 07
Hi mimpi911, thats awful. Thanks for your respond.
@evelynlyp (788)
• Japan
18 May 07
I think it depends on the household you may have parents that treat their children differently based on gender. It doesn't happen in my surroundings. Everyone's got to do the housework, everyone got to learn how to take care of themselves. Both men and woman have equal standing concerning relationships. If a husband is cheating, there is never a good reason. "Good reasons" are just a lame excuse for being selfish and self centered. If you get someone branding you as a bad wife because the husband is cheating, well you can brand them as being sexist. Anyway like I said, depends on your surroundings and depends on whether you are accepting of unfair social expectations.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
18 May 07
Hello evelynlyp, good points there. Thanks for your respond.
• India
18 May 07
I feel that you got hurt. But first of all i want to inform you that i was interested in girl child and god has given me the little baby. I have kept her name Shyama. And i know that daughters are more good then sons. They take care of their responsibilities much well then a son. So, you don't think in such matter. You know that you are girl and this is the plus point in you that you have the capability to born a child. If you people are not on earth, no son or man can be in existence. So, you can say that without you there is no existence of any man or son. So, You should be happy that you are a women. God bless you and may your all wishes come true.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
18 May 07
Hi amit8sinha, thanks for your kind words. But this discussion has nothing to do with me. I am perfectly happy to be a woman. It is only a discussion to get some positive feedback. Thanks for your respond.
@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
19 May 07
I agree with you with everything that you have said. That's how been in our country and I think it is unfair. I think it is because men are regarded as more superior than women. That has something that is implied to us ever since. But the trend nowadays is changing and that women is just as equal as men. Women don't really care that much already what other people will say about them, they can just do anything they want to.
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@zhuker (35)
• China
19 May 07
I don't think so.WOmen have the whole rights which men have.So they are equal.And if I married, I prefer to having a girl.
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• China
19 May 07
someting is existed more or less. but now a lot of is being changed .such as girls's state is improved more or less.and people ideas on boys or girls they should have is not apparent as before .they can acept if they baby is a girl. maybe the woman is fit to take care of the family .because they is more careful and discrete.now peole not aways tend to blam woman if the marriage broken.
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• Germany
13 Jun 07
women are men have equal rights today