How Often Do You Check . . .
May 18, 2007 10:31am CST
the age and country of origin of a discussion poster before you reply to their post? Sometimes the country of origin is obvious by the user name, but not the person's age. I have just started doing this after feeling attacked by a MyLot member from another country. Instead of blasting away in return, I discovered the person was only 18 and so I understood the lack of experience which created the other member's reply. I gentled my response considerably as a result. Does it matter to you where or how old the poster is, or do you write first and question later?
• United States
18 May 07
I do sometimes check a posters age & country of origin. I wish people would be more specific sometimes about this info - because I agree, an 18 yr old isn't going to have the same POV as an older person. My roomie's nephew asked "what's this black cd" holding up a 45 is one indication of the differences of cultural references there can be.
18 May 07
Honestly, I hardly check a member's profile before responding to his/her posts. Honestly, I believe the habit of checking would enhance one's style and contents of presentation. It will make communication flow well between the asker and the answerer. Indeed, it is a shame that I have not even bothered to check the profiles of all my myLotian friends. I am sure we have several myLotians like that, too.
19 May 07
I guess i have never look at that thing nor now i checked yours ,it will take too much time to open your profile and when someone using net with my speed it becomes really painfull to do extra loading,i havent fallen in fighting debate with anyone yet so cant say what will i be doing,i guess it will mainly depend upon how aggresive is the other person.
• United States
21 May 07
I certainly understand about slow connections!!! I probably wouldn't check either if I didn't get cable DSL recently. I actually am not in a debate or fight, I just felt a little stung by a response. Checking the profile helped understand that person's perspective a lot. MyLotting must take a lot of time for you, so thanks for responding!!
5 Jul 07
I don't usually check that before responding. However, I certainly do before accepting new friends. I am not going for quanity here...I only have so much time to spend responding and posting discussions and I want to make sure to touch in with friends and partake in their disucssions on a regular basis. For that reason age and interests are a priority to me. As I mentioned in the other response I am working on the like attracts like principle and can't see much point in sharing a discussion without much commonality in other areas.
• United States
5 Jul 07
I find myself accepting friends easily and without checking too much before hand. I didn't fully appreciate the amount of email I'd get by doing this. I'm just hoping that my friends here will understand that if they post 15 topics a day I may respond to only one, or even none. It's the topic that gets me, not the person, usually. Until I see that they're only after the money, I figure I'm meant to affect their life for the better somehow. That we have something we need to exchange. I do have a deep need to spew forth any information I possess to those who, even idely, ask for it. There are one or two friends whom I'm ready to drop, but I tend to just stop responding to, or rating, their posts. I am a lot more careful when I ask to be added as a friend, though. I do find myself eager to read the posts of the like-to-like friends, no matter who made the request originally. You're so right about the time limitations -- I often spend way more time here than I intend to! LOL!
6 Jul 07
I often check those information before I answer a post. There is an advantage to it. I could relate better with the person after knowing his age, his country and his culture. Besides it has always been my habit to check the source before proceeding to the nest step.
17 Jun 07
I usually don't look the country and age... to be honest I pay more attention to gender. I have noticed I usually learn more from females, I don't know why. Maybe they take this mylot thing more seriously. I can only think of three or four males that have made me think here (no too young, but the way) while I can remember lots of female mylotters (most of them young) with good ideas. Anyways, most of the time I "write first and question later".
26 May 07
Good morning, I see who i am responding to or the person who has responded to my post not because i have to but simply beacause i want to map people with their thaoughts and their origin , now if a person say we have loads of crime in my country , i first wanna know which country are we talking about , next i could respond isnt it . Have a great day ahead.
11 Jul 07
the country of origin has never mattered to me...bcoz i don't knw much about other countries cultures..so knowing the country doesn't make a difference to me...but AGE i consider,bcoz i understand the difference the age brings to each response..but still i never ask the age...bcoz first usually its given there...second asking age may also be considered impolite by some