Do You Do Things As Your Mom Did? Part 2

United States
May 19, 2007 9:36pm CST
I am sorry everyone I forgot to put on the previous discussion the story. This is where a delete for a discussion sure would come in handy. So let me know what you do and what is the task you either do the same or different. I have my moms habit of letting dishes soak in a tub of water before I attempt to wash them. It makes it so much easier to wash the dishes and also the pots and pans. I don't have a dishwasher so this works as well. Here is the story that I was talking about: You may have heard the story of the woman who routinely cut the ends off each roast before placing it in a pan. One day her husband asked why she did so, and she responded that she didn't really know, it was something her mother had always done. The husband then asked the mother-in-law why she always cut the ends off a roast prior to placing it in the pan and she answered it was something she'd always watched her own mother do. Finally, the husband confronted the grandmother-in-law and again asked the purpose in cutting the ends off the roast. "Oh, that," replied the elderly woman. "My roast pan was small. I always had to cut the ends off to make it fit." Many of us routinely do things a certain way because we've always done it that way or we were taught to do something in a certain way and never considered change. We might be better served, however, if moment by moment we routinely questioned our actions, implementing improvements as necessary and continually forcing ourselves to think "outside the box" of how it has always been done. Sometimes we just need to remind ourselves that life doesn't come in a box. And it doesn't need to be lived that way either. May you always be willing to think outside the box of the way it has always been.
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• United States
20 May 07
Sunshinelady, I have heard that story before and it really does point out how unthinkingly we do things. I had good reason to look at my parenting methods---I did not want the results that my parents got. Fortunately I had a great deal of help in changing those patterns. My husband came from a safe, sane family. We did a lot of talking about how we raised the kids. One of the most important to me was to admit to my kids when I was wrong. They are all grown now, and they tell me how very much that meant to them, that I would admit mistakes and apologize to them.
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
20 May 07
I soak the dishes, my family washes them up right away, I don't eat much of the foods I grew up with and make all new recipes, I always ran the house finances, just like my grandmother did and my mother too. I can't think of other things except to say that I taught my son to be independent something I never was.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
20 May 07
Yes I do. I believe that we all do. Whether we realize it or want to or not. I do a lot of the things that my mom did, but I do them because they make sense to do them. I am always attempting to find a better way to do things. First of all, because I believe in the saying that says, "Work smarter, Not Harder." And also because I hate to waste time with anything. When I feel as though I am wasting time, I get irritated. A lot of people take this as a form of being impatient and maybe it is in a sense, but to me a lot of things that I see people taking a long time to do, can be done in a much shorter time to me. Call it arrogance if you will, but my time is very valuable to me. Once time passes, you can never get that moment back. I have seen to many people in my family die early. Every second has to count for me. I am not uptight, I just like to use my time wisely. My mother was the same way. As children, if my two sisters and I said that we were bored, she would tell use to go get a book and read it. If we did not know how to spell a word, she would say, go get the dictionary and look it up. There are not many things that my mother taught me that I am not extremely proud to copy. She was a wonderful, praying woman.
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@gberlin (3836)
23 May 07
Thanks for the wonderful story. It makes you think if you do something for a reason or just because that is what your parents did.
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
20 May 07
I remember the story about the roast and still laugh about it - I don't follow tradition to that extent but just figure if it aint' broke don't fix it - worked for Mom and Grandma then it's good enough for me. Should also mention I hate house work so do as little as possible :) I do my 'thinking outside the box' in many other area's of my life, my Christian beliefs, my artistic endevors, my writing - Mom and Grandma didn't do any of those.
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• United States
20 May 07
I still do some of the things my mom always done. It's spring cleaning,after the house has been closed for the winter, and fall cleaning,before you close up the house for the winter. This includes every box or whatever cleaned out and gone through. This includes cleaning windows, walls, cleaning out closets, the attic or whatever. It's a way to start out fresh and to keep clutter down. I still do this to this day.