did your parents go against your boyfriend?

@djmarion (4905)
Philippines
May 20, 2007 8:24am CST
ever experience an "against all odds" love story before, does it ever happened before that your parents were all against the one you love the most. what did you do? did you fight for your love or jjust break him/her up to follow your family?
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9 responses
• United States
20 May 07
Yes, has happened to me and no I didnt break up with him. It never fails, a lot of parents dont want to accept anyone their son or daughter has chosen to be with..the parents would love to be able to pick the guy or girl they feel is perfect for the son or daughter and this wont happen. I mean, if the person treats the other bad then I believe they should listen to their parents and find someone else but if they are treated well and the parents have no reason for their dislike, then try to work something out.
@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
21 May 07
yeah sometimes parents only disapprove their daughters boyfriend if they think he wont be a good man for their daughter.
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• United States
21 May 07
True and vice versa. I know of so many mothers that dont like their sons girlfriend because it isnt the ideal woman they had planned to have as a daughter in law. In laws can be so tough sometimes but what matters most is if the person you are dating loves you.
@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
21 May 07
yeah, inlaws can be tough but once you get along with them you'll find them lovable.
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• Philippines
21 May 07
my parents were against my second bf. at first, i don't want to listen to them. i continued my relationship with him, against all odds. i'd tell lies to my parents and do foolish things with him. but when i began to see the points that my parents were telling me about him, i stopped seeing him. i followed my parents and broke up with him. i agree that my parents know more than i do. i'm glad that i listened to them, before something else that i might regret happened.
@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
21 May 07
its a good thing you came to your senses now, parents know whats best for us...:)
• Philippines
21 May 07
i totally agree with you on that! :)
@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
22 May 07
thanks gwenmari, take care...
• Philippines
22 May 07
i fight for him. untill my parents accept him hehehe.
@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
25 May 07
really, you must really love him that much, but you also have to see if your parents have reasons for disliking him.
@worthy (2415)
• India
21 May 07
I haven't faced his situation so far.but i know that neither i'll have a boyfriend who would feel out of place with my parents,nor my parents are so rigid that they won't be ready to accept my boyfriend even if he falls short of their expectation.So far I'm happy and safe,my parents won't object.The situation that you have mentioned is indeed a difficult one.
@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
21 May 07
right, a you & me against the world love story is indeed a very hard phase of one's relationship.
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• Philippines
21 May 07
Actually i never go tru that "against all odds"love situation, and thanks god for it.Normally parents give advise in choosing the ones we have to love but they never go over our decisions.
@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
21 May 07
well some parents really tend to dictate their offspring...you're lucky if you dont have that kind of parents.
@qoo_rie (428)
• Indonesia
20 May 07
that's happening to me, still i guess. i'm still think of follow my family, i don't have enough courage to fight for my love, i don't even know if i'm in love with him or not. well i just think what if i didn't make it with my choice, that would make me more down bcos parents will says... what have i told u blablababla. but then if i follow my parents, whatever happened to me they will support me anytime.. ;) hmm i hope i gain both :D
@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
21 May 07
its really hard to decide...ist a matter of standing smart and fight for the love of your life.
@zainirye (36)
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
We fought for our love and our right to be together. I trust him and he trusts me, we are honest and open, faithful and loyal to each other. No reason for me to break up with him. My parents don't know him the way I do.
@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
I'm facing that situation right now. I got pregnant with a different guy and decided not to get married. I was left by the father of my child and completely abandoned us leaving no support. During these hard times I was cheered and helped by my present boyfriend who happens to be my classmate when we were still in high school. I didn't tell this to my parent because I know they wouldn't like the idea of me having another boyfriend and they said that it is immoral. It is hard to leave someone who's the only thing that is making me sane. Most of the elder people around me judged me for being a single parent and thought that I never learned for having another boyfriend. They haven't met the gut yet because they don't want to see him. He asked me several times if he can pay me some visit but they don't want because they're thinking that he's not in his right sense to have himself involve with someone who already got pregnant by someone else. It was very hard for me. But no, I was still fighting for us. We are both fighting for us. He had helped me organise the first birthday of my baby and my parents were not even aware of all the help and support he's giving me. I have already tried talking to them but they don't want to listen to me and just want me to leave the guy. Now, we're still both holding on to each other.
@atv818 (1988)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Feb 10
Yes, and it was almost 2 decades ago. We ended up together because I had put up a fight for the love of my life. When things go wrong, I sometimes get a tinge of regret. Since we're married now, I'll just make use of what I have and save it from destruction.